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Feminist; The Social Misconception II — April 13, 2016

Feminist; The Social Misconception II

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In the last post I started a discussion on the misconception on who feminists are. I’ve read on some feminists and seen some who have great families with a wonderful lifestyles and I’m like someone needs to correct some societal notions on who these people are. I won’t deny that there are some extremists but I’ll like to talk on the ones who knows how to balance and rock it.

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  We have women in almost all fields if not all; Politics, Law, Aviation, Fashion, Health, Finance, Military, Sports, Entertainment, Academics, Defence, Engineering, Programming, Agriculture, just name it. I don’t get the reason for the misconception about who a feminist is, this is just a woman who knows better than to waste her gifts and talents tending to only home when a lot of people are out on the street whom she can help make life better for. She is wise enough to take care of home and also smart enough to live a purposeful life. I respect men, in fact, i am not a bra burning extreme sort of feminist, I don’t even agree with a lot of opinions and anger towards men, but I do have sense enough to know I wasn’t meant to be controlled by a man, other than the big guy upstairs that created everyone.

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     I know to pursuit my goals, actualize my dreams and be the best at whatever I do. I know to love and be loved, to care, to be submissive, to live like I mean it and succeed. I have God’s auction so I know all things and being his daughter I have the call of living a purpose driven life on me. I know I deserve whatever I want, every available opportunities & rights and it doesn’t just end with equality of gender but the equity of gender where there is fairness and impartiality at every strata of life.
I am an EMPOWERED WOMAN!

Thanks,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi.

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Feminist; The Social Misconception — April 8, 2016

Feminist; The Social Misconception

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     Feminist, according to Oxford dictionary means; A person who supports the belief that women should have the same rights and opportunities as men. Even from this definition I still don’t get the reason for the social misconception. These are women with goals and purpose. Women who believe in the working together of both sexes to bring about a safer and better world. I believe we are in a generation where women are breaking ground rules, making things right and giving great support to men.
I totally don’t see the point in hating a woman just because she’s got dreams and opinions of her own. She’s got mind and brain to think, she can feel and see, she is talented and hardworking, she is bold and courageous, why then should she be reduced to a sex figure just because of her gender and social expectations. Some people even hate the idea of a woman being in a superior position or taking a leading role, last I checked the contribution of women to the world positively can’t be overemphasized. Is it the listening hear, the soothing words, the caring hands, the comfortable shoulders, the intelligence, the beauty, the ability to multitask, the reader, the leader, a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother and with all these, women still contribute their best.
You’re the most beautiful of all God’s CREATION and you’re PRICELESS. . .
#ToBeContinued. . .

Note: I wrote this piece for a women website sometimes in Feb and I thought I should share it on my blog too. I’ll submit the remaining part later in the week.

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Behind my SMILES — January 25, 2016

Behind my SMILES

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Behind my smiles
Is a face that has been sunned by resentment
And watered by tears

Behind my smiles
Is a broken heart that hurts
And ache from depression

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Behind my smiles
Is a girl that is falling apart
Drowning in an ocean of sorrow with no one to rescue

Look behind my smiles
And you’ll see how far I’m lost
Then you’ll discover I’m not the same girl you know

Who says you’re not perfect?!
Trust me, you’re loved and unique!
Much L💕VE, Oluwafunmibi.

Who says? — November 1, 2015
HER TOME; HER LOVE; HER PAIN (4) — September 2, 2015

HER TOME; HER LOVE; HER PAIN (4)

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     After my experience with Jude I’ve decided to stay single for as long as God wants because I’m not ready to go through heart breaks anymore. I’m fine with JUST ME and my career is growing cos’ I work on contract with some private companies so YES! I’m doing great with no problem from a man.
     For good ten (10) months, I was so much in love with myself. It wasn’t like men ain’t coming around but I just chose to decline all advances simply because I don’t want to be any man’s victim anymore. I enjoyed attending to my hot rocking body; daily exercise (including 50 sit ups) & eating good food.
     Well, on the evening of the End of the year’s party, I had the option of going to the cinema to see “Spy” because its an action movie and I love Melissa McCarthy but I was compelled to be at the Evening’s event because its also part of the job (I’m not the partying type). I met many people at the party, mostly the staffs that works for the Telecommunications company. Amongst these people was Temitope, I mean Engr. Temitope. He’s a Civil Engineer. It was amazing at the end of the evening when I felt like I’ve known him all my life. We exchanged contacts and became pretty close. He professes his love every opportunity he has, he provides for me even without asking & would do anything to protect me. He gave me reasons to love again. Continue reading

HER TOME; HER LOVE; HER PAIN (3) — August 29, 2015

HER TOME; HER LOVE; HER PAIN (3)

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     It was pretty hard on me getting over Bobbi considering the fact that we didn’t have a fight to breakup, it was just a mutual agreement as a result of our health status.
     I’ve been a casual friend with Jude for close to 2 years because we work out at the same gym on Saturdays and he’s seen Bobbi pick me up a couple of times.
     Jude is from Edo, a Physiotherapist, plays guitar, very charismatic, an epitome of a gentle man and after we started dating, i found out to be a great cook too. After the break up with Bobbi I took to spending more time at the gym to whirl away time and somehow became close to Jude. We could talk for hours and will never get bored. It was like he knows just how best to get me out of my shell. And I receive free sessions of body massage from him. He knows just the right place to exact pressure and where to mildly touch.
     After about 5 months of being single again and just friends with Jude, he asked me on a date which ended up with a terrific kiss. The long drive to my house was made in silence but trust me, it’s a silence that connected us in much ways than words could. Continue reading

HER TOME; HER LOVE; HER PAIN — August 25, 2015

HER TOME; HER LOVE; HER PAIN

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    I hate the could have(s), should have(s) and would have(s) but they are the words that keep haunting my soul for the past 3-days. Maybe I should have just learn to keep to my words… Maybe I would have been saved from this misery if I had followed my brain instead… Maybe I could have decided to go to the cinema instead of eventually attending the company’s end of the year party…
     As hot tears stream down my face smearing the makeover left of the evening (I went to the restaurant to meet him) and a hazy vision filled with confusion, bitterness and hatred. All I can see is just a few fragments of memories I wish to let go as much as I want to have them if it means remembering the sizzling love we shared.

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Scattered on the floor is a wasted roll of toilet paper that has helped soak in my silent sobs and I wonder when I’m gonna get over this this time around. For 3 days now I’ve been like this – Heartbroken. . . Continue reading

21 LESSONS @ 21 II — June 9, 2015

21 LESSONS @ 21 II

Lesson 12 :- DON’T LET THE PRESSURE GET TO YOU

Honestly, you just have to learn to be in control of situation because trust me the demands are not going to let
up. People’s voices are never going to drown at your insistence.

The pressure will come and you’ll feel the realness. It will
come from all facets of your life. You’ll feel it in your life spiritually, academically, emotionally, financially, socially, morally, mentally, psychologically, and the toughest in your relationships.
You’ll be torn in between making decisions and setting priorities right which is never done easily if you have so many people looking up to you or high expectations from yourself.
Sometimes it feels like the weight of the world rest on my little shoulder and I’ll wish I have a fairy Godmother like Julia Roberts or probably a more fierce one that can fight like maleficent. If you’re not in a relationship there’s pressure all around you and people start to link you up but if you’re in a relationship too my dear there are pressures too. So just face it, there will always be pressure in almost everything you do.

I’ve learnt to feel the pressure, process it and let it go if nothing good comes out of it.

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What a Woman wants. . . — April 18, 2015
Inner Beauty — March 29, 2015

Inner Beauty

     The poem you’re about to read was inspired by my pastor who’s also my friend —>> YEWANDE OGUNAJO. All these was put together just by thinking of her. . .

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A lady of excellence with a peaceful soul;
Endowed with the strength and wisdom to take charge.
A beauty to reckon with and a personality to be proud of;
An African woman of grace and honour;
Highly embedded with mines of virtues.
Not only is your beauty outwards, but you have the inner beauty too.
I love to see the way she LIGHTEN UP the room with her BIG smile.
A lady with the auction of the holy one;
Highly spirited and worded;
She’s that christian chick that terrifies the roaring devil.
When I see her I see hope, faith and love.
She’s the kind of woman who gives a man a HOME;
Always having the right word for every moment;
With a big warm heart and soothing arms to run into;
And those tiny strong shoulders to LEAN on.

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The woman that can SETTLE a lot on her knees by just praying;
She’s a gem of inestimable value.
A cheerful giver and a mother to all;
Who reproves you in LOVE.
Behind that beautiful calm face is
An independent Lady and ENTREPRENEUR,
Capable of doing so much at a time (MULTITASK) *smiles*.
A DISCIPLINARIAN PRINCIPLED lady who doesn’t take shit for MEEKNESS and KINDNESS.
She knows her place in God’s SUPERNATURAL ARMY,
And nothing can make her BOW OUT from the RACE.
A fashionista in every sense with MODESTY.
She knows how best to bring out the BEST in you,
And make you see the strength you never knew you have.
She’s as brave as DEBORAH; diplomatic as ESTHER;
Beautiful as JEMIMAH and favoured as MARY.
She’s a blessing to her generation;
A soul to leave footprints in the sands of time.