OluwafunmibiFayemi

Life should be lived like you mean it without limits. . .

Girlfriends ❤ — June 19, 2018

Girlfriends ❤

Before you continue reading this post, I should let you know it has nothing to do with Self-righteousness. Thanks!
While studying in my room this evening, I hBefore you continue reading this post, I should let you know it has nothing to do with Self-righteousness. Thanks!
While studying in my room this evening, I had a stray thought to one of my girlfriends and then I thought of every other ones and then I built on the thoughts further and felt so grateful to God for gifting me with such relationships. And then I further thought of the person I might have been if I’ve had a different set of ladies in my life (I’m pretty sure I won’t have this blog nor will you be reading this). My stray thoughts made me realize I am who I am today partly because of the people in my inner circle and honestly, I see it as a favour from God.
Sometimes, when people (especially men) talk about women (like a conversation I had with some bunch over the weekend), I usually ask them, “where do you go to for you to meet these women you’re so bitter about?“. I mean, I get it that there are lots of women out there that justifies these wrong notions about the feminine gender. Women who abuses their spouses both verbally and physically, women who cheat, women who are deep into crimes, and the list is endless (at least my recent contacts and exposures had made me seen things more clearly). But in the midst of these, there are still some good women who are all about the good stuffs (nobody is entirely perfect but some are really putting in the effort to be a better version of themselves).
I have a friend who recently got married as a virgin (hello, nobody says you’re not entitled to marriage cos you’re deflowered or virginity is a criteria for a good home nor does it cover for character flaws), but the point is, it’s worth celebrating (this is 21st century where sexuality is being exploited more negatively) so, if there’s a girl still vintage about it, I believe she should be applauded.
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Hey Beautiful, — May 20, 2018

Hey Beautiful,

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Hi guys, happy sunday!
So, I started a Leadership course that has to do with Marketing earlier this week and I’ve been having a great time studying. Amongst the curriculum for the first week are lectures on Understanding Customers and Creating Valuable Brands. The lecturer further taught by suggesting some videos to watch and this post is as a result of those videos.
Dove is a product introduced to customers by Unilever and after a while, the products started having competitors. Rather than simply focusing on cleansing, moisturizing and nourishing skin, Dove focused on bringing out the real beauty in all women. Rather than simply selling soap, Dove seeks to change the way women viewed themselves, and view beauty. By identifying with a group of customers, gaining insights into their hopes, dreams and fears just as Dove understands how women feel about beauty transform Dove into a multi-billion dollars business (Which is also not the main reason for this post too – but I’m sure you’ve picked one or two points).
There is a way we see ourselves that people don’t even see especially women. I’m not so sure if its as a result what of people have gone through, the words that has sticked closer to their soul, the failures and hurts they couldn’t get over, but somehow, its just easier to be self judgemental about oneself and this goes a long way into how people find it hard to really love themselves for who they are. There is a continuous search for a perfection that is clouding the acceptance of the beauty they can’t see.
This self disruptive attitude has caused a lot of people (especially women) so much already. It has lead to Low self-esteem, Depression, Anxiety, Anorexia, Substance addiction, etc. The study made by Dove made some women actually see how beautiful they are when shown the difference between what they think of themselves and what others think of them. Watch “Dove Real Beauty Sketches | You’re more beautiful”
Some didn’t even believe they look that young and beautiful. When told to analyse what they think of the images described by other people, they said nicer things.

Another study was done where different women all over the world was tested on their perception of themselves if they are Beautiful or on Average. Watch “Dove Choose Beautiful | Women all over the world”. A whole lot of women chose Average and it’s because they just don’t see themselves as beautiful. Beautiful seems too far-fetched for them, they’ve placed themselves on the scale of average because they already have a modeled features in mind that they don’t think they fit in. After failing the test, a lot of them felt bad about their choice and said they’ll choose otherwise if given another chance.
The truth is we all are beautiful in our own ways and accepting whatever our flaws are as part of what makes us unique goes a long way into living with the right attitude and energy towards life. You are only as strong as you think you are. What you think and say is what you are (no gimmicks).

Shine on Beautiful! 💕💞💕

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Keep Going! — April 14, 2018

Keep Going!

You’re a Wonder. You are strong. You are Enough.

Even when it feels like walking through hell. Keep Going!

💪💪👧👑

#GirlPower #GirlGang #Queening

#EmpoweredWomenEmpowerWomen

#Fighting #StayStrong #GirlsRock #You’veGotThis #YouAreEnough #YouAreAWonder #YouAreStrong

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

​Not Too Early — February 2, 2018

​Not Too Early

This is not me being overly romantic when I say it’s not early to start preparing for marriage and kids irrespective of the gender. Just out of no where I suddenly realize how much I enjoy Parenting (all thanks to my kid sister who I’m 17years older than by the way). She made me see motherhood in a whole different amazing ways.
I practically skip shelves with relationship books when I go to bookshops cos it doesn’t really look like a big deal kinda to me *shrugs*, so, I usually end up buying books on Christianity, leadership, attitude and business most times, neglecting that one important part of life RELATIONSHIP.

But amongst the growth process being 20-something has done to me is realizing the need to balance up. The need to buy and read good books on relationships and marriage and family that is supposed to last a lifetime or click on that blog link or go for that conference. If you are like I used to be trust me there is so much you don’t know (Hollywood alone is never going to provide the best guide, sometimes you need to look closely at the people around and sometimes you sure have to pay a price to learn too). Even those who are years deep in marriages say the same.

I’m not a pathetic feminist that doesn’t yearn for marriage. I believe my kids deserve to have better parents than I did, even if mine were the best. Your marriage deserves to be happy and sexy and long lasting. You deserve a lifetime of strong bonds with the people who share blood and life and ups and downs with you.

But, you can’t just expect you’ll wake up one day to be that better parent you want to be to your kids. You’ve got to prepare for it now. We should crave to be a better generation when it comes to parenting especially for people who knows how it feels to be a product of a bad (sour) marriage, it can be frustrating, painful & scary. I’m sure you don’t want your kids near that spot. We are in the age where information is easy to get. Go online and download articles. Check blogs on relationship. Read books. Ask questions. Go for seminars. Learn from others, not by making your own mistakes too.

You don’t run from your past and avoid repeating mistakes by running from them. 

You resolve issues by facing them head on and gathering the wealth of information that was not available before. I got a book by Gary Chapman, “THINGS I WISH I’D KNOWN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED” (you should lay your hands on that book too) for my 21st birthday gift and that launched me into reading many more books related. In fact, it was like my January was tagged for Relationship because of the books I read. 

I pray for my future family already. I pray for the little humans in my body waiting for growth. I sow seeds for them in advance. I love twins and I already have awesome names for them. I have specific names for my beautiful girl and handsome boy and I can’t explain the excitement from just the thought of it. I build walls around them with the words and promises of God.

It’s not too early for you too, nor too late.

Happy New Month!
Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

It’s Not A Gender Thing ii — October 17, 2017

It’s Not A Gender Thing ii

This is a continuation from last post where I started a talk on Identifying with God on purpose as a woman. Happy Reading!

He created me to be like Him; gave me his Spirit so I can Live like Him! I’m a King. I’m a Creator.

In the likeness of God, Man (male-man and female-man) was given the same attributes as God i.e. Man has potential which is a pointer to his purpose and this must be released by faith.
In the first post, I said, “A woman is simply a man with a womb” which implies that she naturally has the ability to give birth but it doesn’t end there, she also have a mind and spirit of God to create and birth ideas just like a man and this is evident through the various Women who’d impacted the world and made it a better place, know who they are and live(d) their lives purposefully. I discovered that in the eyes of God, it’s not about the curves and edges but His Spirit that he breathed into me. Purpose is not a material concept but a spiritual reality and it only spring from an understanding of one’s identity. (No manufacturer ever introduces a product into a market for the market to dictate its purpose) Answering the question of identity defines purpose.

Trace your roots to your source and embrace the reality that you are not just an expression of a clever design process of nature because nature by itself  can’t create design; rather, you are the creation of an eternal, purposeful being and it has nothing to do with your sex, because in the end, it’s the same SONSHIP ticket we all get, why not just rock being a Woman by living a purposeful life like you mean it and rock it without limits because Your Creator knows no limit.

Peace✌,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

It’s Not A Gender Thing — October 16, 2017

It’s Not A Gender Thing

You may be right about this post being on feminism but it just might not be what you are expecting. . . Happy Reading!

  • Purpose ain’t a gender thing. One God. One Spirit. Two Sexes.

Being a girl-child made me ask a lot of questions on purpose and what is expected of who I am and so far, identifying myself with the purpose of creation has shed some light and these I’ll like to share (Just take it as another side to the coin of identity).

Just like every manufacturer, God always has a purpose for his creations. Before a manufacturer makes a product, a problem must have been identified and how it could be solve and this becomes the basis for the design of the product. Likewise, the creator had clear and specific intentions for Man (male-man and female-man). Time out here; Man doesn’t refer to male-man only, it is used in general reference to humankind. (A woman is simply a man with a womb) Oops! You just read that, well, I’m talking from the spiritual perspective. Man-male-man and female-man came from the same source; same manufacturer; they were created in the image and likeness of God.

God is a spirit and if man was created in his likeness then it means that the core of human consciousness is God, therefore, both man and woman have a moral compass; A woman, like a man, can write a law, reflect on actions thought to be right or wrong, feel guilty,. . ., all of which confirm the God-consciousness. Basically, the unique characteristics of humans are the same for both sexes except for their physical and emotional makeup but no gender difference at the core of their existence (Still refering to the spirit-man).
Looks long enough, to be continued in the next post.
Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Feminist; The Social Misconception II — April 13, 2016

Feminist; The Social Misconception II

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In the last post I started a discussion on the misconception on who feminists are. I’ve read on some feminists and seen some who have great families with a wonderful lifestyles and I’m like someone needs to correct some societal notions on who these people are. I won’t deny that there are some extremists but I’ll like to talk on the ones who knows how to balance and rock it.

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  We have women in almost all fields if not all; Politics, Law, Aviation, Fashion, Health, Finance, Military, Sports, Entertainment, Academics, Defence, Engineering, Programming, Agriculture, just name it. I don’t get the reason for the misconception about who a feminist is, this is just a woman who knows better than to waste her gifts and talents tending to only home when a lot of people are out on the street whom she can help make life better for. She is wise enough to take care of home and also smart enough to live a purposeful life. I respect men, in fact, i am not a bra burning extreme sort of feminist, I don’t even agree with a lot of opinions and anger towards men, but I do have sense enough to know I wasn’t meant to be controlled by a man, other than the big guy upstairs that created everyone.

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     I know to pursuit my goals, actualize my dreams and be the best at whatever I do. I know to love and be loved, to care, to be submissive, to live like I mean it and succeed. I have God’s auction so I know all things and being his daughter I have the call of living a purpose driven life on me. I know I deserve whatever I want, every available opportunities & rights and it doesn’t just end with equality of gender but the equity of gender where there is fairness and impartiality at every strata of life.
I am an EMPOWERED WOMAN!

Thanks,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi.

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Feminist; The Social Misconception — April 8, 2016

Feminist; The Social Misconception

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     Feminist, according to Oxford dictionary means; A person who supports the belief that women should have the same rights and opportunities as men. Even from this definition I still don’t get the reason for the social misconception. These are women with goals and purpose. Women who believe in the working together of both sexes to bring about a safer and better world. I believe we are in a generation where women are breaking ground rules, making things right and giving great support to men.
I totally don’t see the point in hating a woman just because she’s got dreams and opinions of her own. She’s got mind and brain to think, she can feel and see, she is talented and hardworking, she is bold and courageous, why then should she be reduced to a sex figure just because of her gender and social expectations. Some people even hate the idea of a woman being in a superior position or taking a leading role, last I checked the contribution of women to the world positively can’t be overemphasized. Is it the listening hear, the soothing words, the caring hands, the comfortable shoulders, the intelligence, the beauty, the ability to multitask, the reader, the leader, a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother and with all these, women still contribute their best.
You’re the most beautiful of all God’s CREATION and you’re PRICELESS. . .
#ToBeContinued. . .

Note: I wrote this piece for a women website sometimes in Feb and I thought I should share it on my blog too. I’ll submit the remaining part later in the week.

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Behind my SMILES — January 25, 2016

Behind my SMILES

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Behind my smiles
Is a face that has been sunned by resentment
And watered by tears

Behind my smiles
Is a broken heart that hurts
And ache from depression

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Behind my smiles
Is a girl that is falling apart
Drowning in an ocean of sorrow with no one to rescue

Look behind my smiles
And you’ll see how far I’m lost
Then you’ll discover I’m not the same girl you know

Who says you’re not perfect?!
Trust me, you’re loved and unique!
Much L💕VE, Oluwafunmibi.

Who says? — November 1, 2015