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# it’s More Than Love. . . — August 19, 2016

# it’s More Than Love. . .

Hi everyone, its been a while and there’s been numerous reasons for my inconsistencies, I really hope the change will be feasible one day *covers face*.
I have here today another guest blogger, a friend and I hope you enjoy her writeup.

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Writer- Michelle

You know what they say:
It’s not over ’till it’s OVER.

But sometimes a relationship ends for the wrong reasons.
And realistically, it is possible for a couple to break up and then make up, leading to a more intimate connection.
But regardless of how the story is meant to end, isn’t it worth knowing for sure whether you two can ultimately find happiness with each other again ?

Sometimes people give up too easily and take the easy way out, which is to separate.

People aren’t always what you want them to be.
Sometimes they disappoint you or let you down, but you have to give them a second chance first.
You can’t just meet someone and expect them to be everything you’re looking for and then be angry when they’re not every hope and aspiration you projected onto them.

It’s foolish to believe that someone will be what you imagine them to be.
And sometimes, when you give them a chance, they turn out to be Better than you imagined.

Different, but better.

Fact is :
Everyone deserves a second chance

Michelle Joshua….

BLEEDING EDUCATIONAL SECTOR: OUR MINISTER OF EDUCATION IS ASLEEP — May 21, 2016

BLEEDING EDUCATIONAL SECTOR: OUR MINISTER OF EDUCATION IS ASLEEP

This is a special post considering I have a guess blogger penning down his thoughts on the education sector. He’s a friend I really respect and a visionary leader. Enjoy his writeup and I sincerely pray, one day, our heart desires will be granted in this nation…

BLEEDING EDUCATIONAL SECTOR: OUR MINISTER OF EDUCATION IS ASLEEP.
It is no more a news that our educational system is under attack and the minister in charge is sleeping ferociously. If he were to be at slumber, it could have been fair. But he is not just sleeping, he is also snoring at duty. 
Recently, several federal universities were on heat with vice chancellors giving Union leaders suspensions for fighting for their rights as a student. Most of the protests were due to occurrence of social injustice, monster welfarism, poor administration and management to mention but a few. Permit me to take you on a memory lane, in 2013, the Academic Staff Union of Universities embarked on a 6 month strike due to the same issues mention earlier yet the status quo has changed. 
I would like to advice the minister of education to wake up from his dream land and work towards a POSITIVE CHANGE in the educational sector before it gets out of hands. 
It should be underscored that the younger generation is the future of this country. They are the ones who will find the formula that will guarantee development process and stability both for themselves and future generation. Hence a need for rehabilitation of the educational sector to promote education rather than schooling.
I mentioned schooling earlier because education in this country is bleeding to death in spite the establishment of schools daily. This indicates that building of schools is not the solution to this problem. By observation, many have turned establishment of schools into a business which of course is profitable as people have been brainwashed that going to school is your ticket to harnessing a comfortable life. If going to school or building more schools is not the answer, then what is the answer? A question we must ask ourselves and strive to implement our various answers.
Here are my TO-DO List for the minister of education:
1) Go back to the drawing board and get a blue print of your vision for Nigeria’s educational sector.
2) Get an operational plan with time schedule for each the realization of each plans and put together the work team.
3) Mobilize resources both man power, financial and institutional. These can be gotten by partnership with private sectors.
4) Implement a change in curriculum, training and thinking as well as government procedures and priorities. Like the new economy itself, most of the tools are new and the necessary changes should be introduced to allow them to be used successfully.
5) Be aware that this age is the one of great ideas and innovation that produce outstanding projects and not one of filling minds with information.
6) Our younger generation should not only be taught the whole spectrum of available knowledge, they must acquire and master practical skills and competencies by working in companies and on projects as a first step towards establishing their own successful ventures. They should be given chance to interact with the business community and market, enabling them to develop and enrich our national economy.
I would like to stop here for now but the main thing is timely implementation and formulation of policies that will develop education sector. Inside every Nigerian is a gold mine, good, right and quality education is needed to dig it out.

Oni Babajide David (OBD),
Agrocapitalism Initiative (AcI)
#progressivenigeria

Its Another Valentine! — February 14, 2016

Its Another Valentine!

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No need beating around the bush, all I’ll say is show someone love. You know that person that needs what you have surplus of, show some love by giving, help someone who can’t even repay your kindness, express your love nature in the most ideal and healthy way.
The true essence of Valentine ain’t just for people you’re in love with but for people who need or desire to be loved.
Finally, love yourself too because the truth is you can’t give what you don’t have.

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Check 1John 4:16-21

Happy Valentine!
Much Love, Oluwafunmibi.

IG & Twitter; @phunmiborn

Forbidden — February 3, 2016

Forbidden

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It has always been a blurry augury
One minute you’re here and the next you’re gone
Leaving me with detritus of memories
Even the long time camaraderie could not bring us together
And I wonder can love be this bilious
Making it impossible to identify the nuance
That makes what we have peculiar
The volition to have you in my fantasy
Seems to be the panacea for the ambivalent feelings entwined in my heart

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I’ve got so much to say to you
But I’ll rather will myself out of this morass
I’ll pretend I don’t know what’s happening to us
And painfully watch as the feelings go
Because above all, i dread losing the friendship
Loving you ain’t an hearsay
But the chances of being together looks incongruous
Just so you know, you’re always loved.

I.G & Twitter: @phunmiborn

RESOLUTION — January 7, 2016

RESOLUTION

     Yah! Its Jan 2016 and everyone is trying to make plans for the year. People writing resolutions, noting things they want to achieve and what they want to let go. Well, I’ll admonish in my opinion to resolute to feasible and achievable goals. I’ve seen many goals not achieved over the years not because it ain’t right but mostly due to wrong timing and a bad work plan. Why write 20 far fetched goals when you can go for just 7 and it will be attainable?! Continue reading

BEFORE 2015 ENDS — December 29, 2015

BEFORE 2015 ENDS

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Before 2015 ends, I want to personally say “THANK YOU” to all  my readers and followers that made 2015 an awesome year for me as a blogger. I pray this season brings forth good tidings to you and a prosperous 2016 ahead; May FAVOUR, GRACE and MERCY speaks for you in all your endeavors.

#Grateful #Thanks #Merci #Gracias #Danke #Grazie #Obrigado #спасибо

#ILoveYouMore!
#HappyNewYearInAdvance!

My Loud Silence — July 18, 2015

My Loud Silence

     This is the story of me accessing freedom for my mind.
     I used to have a deafening scream that couldn’t be heard even when the voices in my head strived to be heard and I’ll have a million and one things on my mind but won’t be able to express even the one on it. I was always so scared of outcomes that I never had the nerve to leave my comfort zone. . .
Was it trust issues I had??!
Or was just afraid of being rejected??! Continue reading

LET IT GO (2) ; IT’S NOT OVER — March 26, 2015

LET IT GO (2) ; IT’S NOT OVER

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     Hello everyone! I’m sorry I’ve been unable to post anything since my last post “LET IT GO” and this was due to the fact that I’ve been busy writing my tests and should start exams pretty soon. This post is a sequel to LET IT GO, if you can recollect I wrote its to be continued and here you are today reading the second part.
     I’m going to be sharing with us life experiences and principles that has been practiced and has worked for many people of which I’m an example. Some of these stories we already know and might not have seen how it applies to us or we simply overlooked it.
     Most of the time when we face challenges in life, we don’t see the possibilities of getting over it,we only tend to wish it doesn’t affect us much and when its finally over, we draw the curtain and accept defeat. It should not be like that because really when we LET GO of our fears we should EMBRACE the challenge again and keep at it until we win. We should never give up on ourselves. We need to learn to pick ourselves UP every time we found ourselves where we started from even after LETTING GO. Its not just enough to LET GO but to see the POSSIBILITIES in the word IMPOSSIBLE. We can do whatever we set our minds to if only we won’t give up. Sometimes, we tend to be paralyzed by our overanalytical thoughts and get blinded by the number of defeats and stories we heard that we tend to lose FAITH in ourselves.
    In my years of reading books and learning to develop myself, one thing distinct those who are successful in their field or path from others and its CONSISTENCY. . . These people won’t give up on themselves even in worst life scary situations, when nobody even believe in them, they kept on doing that which they believe in and never gave up on their dreams. They pick themselves up each time they fail and try all over again.

     “The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” – NELSON MANDELA

There was a conscious effort from these people never to give up on their dreams and not see the difficulty in it. Instead they try to work it out better and stronger each time they fail. For some of us, all we need is to read a book while for some, we need to talk to someone. I can practically make do with both, reading books related to my challenges help a lot (I love reading) and I can talk too. . . It helps a lot to talk if you’re talking to the right person. You need to check your friends and everyone around you,do they believe in you and are they supportive?! Are you comfortable sharing your problems with them?! I’ve had my share of friends like that (that’s a story for another day) but was able to overcome that by positively seeing who I am not what they see me as.

     “If you’re not prepared to be wrong, you’ll never come up with anything original.” – Sir Ken Robinson

     There was a course I took in my year one that I failed because I needed to cram it which ain’t a talent on my part, Its an automatic extra if you have an outstanding year 1 course before internship year in my faculty. With anxiety and fear, I retook it in my year 2 only to fail again and I’m left with only one slot to save me from an extra year. At a point i thought of quitting and starting all over or probably just travel out and start afresh just because I was scared of failure again and couldn’t stand having an extra over a 3-units course, I was frustrated and devastated until I talked to some people about it and was admonished on what to do then I read books on ATTITUDE. I realized I just had to give in my best and be optimistic so I cancelled my travelling plans and gave my last shot my best which resulted in an “A” at my 3rd time of doing it.

     “[If you are reading this]… You’re alive! That means you have infinite potential. You can do anything. If you change the world, the world will change.” – Neil Gaiman

     Below are also humans like you and me who made it after failing many times but whose consistency to succeed worked for. . .

     Abraham Lincoln was born, February 12,1809. He lived through so much without giving up: Failed in business at age 31. Defeated for the Legislature at 32. Again failed in business at 34. Sweetheart died at 35. Had a nervous breakdown at 36. Defeated in election at 38. Defeated for Congress at 43. Defeated for congress at 46. Defeated for congress at 48. Defeated for senate at 55. Defeated for Vice president at 56. Defeated for senate at 58. Elected President at age 60.

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     Nelson Rolihlahla Mandela was the world’s most famous political prisoner and a Nobel Peace Prize Winner renowned for his work in fighting apartheid in South Africa. Even when in prison for 27 years, Mandela maintained his optimism and his strong belief in the fight against apartheid. His consistency gave hope to his fellow inmates and to the black population of S. Africa which culminated to the defeat of apartheid rule in S. Africa and his release from prison. Even in worst circumstances, he maintained a steady and consistent character which accounts to making South Africa one of the most respected and successful nations in the world.

     One of the most popular works of art in the world is the Mona Lisa. Known for its mystical beauty and flawless execution, it is often referred to as Leonardo da Vinci’s finest work. He worked on it between 1503-1516. Behind the heavy layers of painting is a hidden secret. In 1888, the painting was X-rayed by William Forsyth, who discovered that there were three other versions of the Mona Lisa under the final product. Da Vinci had redone his painting 3 times over the course of the decade. He didn’t get it at the first try but kept at it for many years before he created his final product.

     “Life is truly known only to those who suffer, lose, endure adversity and stumble from defeat to defeat.” – Anais Nin

     These people and many more like; Joyce Meyer, Isaac Newton, Ben Carson, Albeit Einstein, Oprah Winfrey, Robert Kiyosaki, Bill gates, John Maxwell, Hugh Jackman, Jordan, Serena Williams, Marie Curie, Mike Tyson and so on never had the journey so smooth and promising at first, for some a lot was lost and for some a lot of sacrifices were paid but the idea was they NEVER gave up on themselves. They saw the possibilities of making it in their choice of field even when it doesn’t look like it, they never saw the end in their failure rather they were optimistic and try till they become successful and who we CELEBRATE today . . .

     “Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over it became a butterfly.” – Anonymous

#MuchLove!!
#ToBeContinued. . .

LET IT GO — March 6, 2015

LET IT GO

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     The question is do you sometimes feel like you’re @ that juncture of your life where it seems like your best ain’t just enough??! Have you ever felt like making a decision and it seems like your lifespan depends on it so you gotta think more than twice??! Or everything on your mind seems so much that it feels like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders??!
     If I’m to think of it, I guess I’ve been on these kind of roads countless times. I can remember checking results of exams I burnt everything on including candles & calories only not to be as expected yet I’m expected to read harder for the upcoming ones in a condition where I don’t have all necessary resources, no favourable atmosphere, not enough time for personal timetable cos the whole week is filled with class works, no time to take care of yourself because you’re too busy catching up with school works and everything seems to just not look like it yet I know I have no excuse or anyone to blame for any failure, I’ve got to be responsible for all I do. I guess its at this point the decision making part comes in, here you decide what you really want for yourself, whether to sink in self pity or self condemnation of not being good enough or pick yourself up to take the next challenge and prove to your problem that you can be its challenge too.
     Personally, I used to be the type that gets weighed down with fear of the unknown but the day I decided to “live my life one day at a time” I started seeing things differently. I ain’t saying you shouldn’t make plans for the future but if there’s something on your mind not allowing you to see beyond the present that makes you feel like you’re in a labyrinth cage of misery just LET IT GO. . . life is worth more than wallowing in self pity or fear of the future. Take a bold step of facing your challenges than running away from them. It always seems like its more than you can handle but the truth is you’re greater than it is, you only need to see its weak point. Your life ain’t depending on that 68B or 44E or 39F, you determine how far you wanna go in life not your result. Yes, I know you’re gonna argue you could have done better, sure you’re right but that doesn’t mark the end, why can’t you just trace your steps down the reflection of the light beaming at the end of the tunnel.
     You’re out there feeling you need to make a decision and you’re so scared you don’t wanna make mistakes, y not ask yourself what you really want for yourself or better still just get a sheet of paper, on a page write out your old choice with the advantages & disadvantages while on the other page write out your new choice with its advantages & disadvantages then look out for the decision that outweighs the other and I feel sometimes we need other people’s discretion, I grew up learning from my mum that no man is an embodiment of knowledge, she believes you learn everyday and from different people too which brought us to the idea of letting people in on whatever we’re facing. To a large extent it helps a lot when you share whatever the issue is with people around you especially your close friends or relatives. I remember a course I had issues with and I told some couple of friends I read with (Sanwo, Benedict, Ife, . . .), I was told how to read for the course and that helped a lot cos I ended up passing it excellently. I also believe in the word PRAYER, I believe when you communicate with God a lot of things can be settled and this is a tested approach that has worked so many times for so many people.
     I understand that sometimes it feels like you have the weight of the world on your shoulder which can happen a lot as a result of many things like work, school, relationship, purpose, family,personal goals and so on. I’ll admonish you take a chill pill, why not just take a break??! It won’t hurt to get yourself distracted for a while, do something you’ve always wanted to do outside the regulars, ask a friend for a massage, go grab some bites outside, if you hardly cook why not try a new recipe, if you feel your lecturers are screening your life out why not just pick an interesting novel to chill out, just do something fun and lively. You need to enjoy whatever you’re doing else you’ll always be stressed out doing it with no zeal and enthusiasm.

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     Life is worth more than living it with worries or condemnation or pity or anger. How you spend your life today goes a long way to determine what it will look like in the nearest future. Don’t stop when you’re tired, stop when you’re done! And prove your problems wrong that you’re stronger than it is. I always tell myself in times like this that I must remember I’m a GOLD and before you can appreciate the beauty of the GOLD it must have gone through a great hot furnace, not everything comes so easily but to a large extent you determine how easy you make things by your approach to life.
     This article is to let you know you ain’t the only one who feels that way and that you feel it makes you human and also remember you can always work it out. This is just another phase that will also roll over like the rest. Don’t give up on yourself just because of whatever you’re facing now . . . You’re bigger and greater than your problem. . .
#MuchLove!!
#ToBeContinued. . .

Valentine — February 13, 2015

Valentine

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    Hello guys, its another valentine season again and my heart has been heavy on sharing some things with ourselves.
     LOVE. . . that’s a huge word you know? Its the wheel behind the journey of life. At some point you’ll be in love and how you felt or you’ve been made to feel goes a long way to leave footprints of the meaning of love to you. Recently, I’ve seen a lot of break ups & couples cheating on each other and I’m like where is the love they started the relationship with??! Who or what went wrong?! I rarely hear happy love stories these days which makes me think, doesn’t true love exist anymore? Or maybe it’s just the environment that I’m in or the people around me. I’m not saying there are no happy relationships either but the ratio to the latter is quite small. Many kids are hurt from separated homes and are so scared to love, many its the film they’ve seen or books they’ve read or just other people around them that they care for but has seen gotten hurt by loving someone. For some reasons, some people has been made to believe  the fault is in them and that made them believe that they may not be worthy to be with,  because when the person you get to be with for a long time can’t decide to commit, how much more with someone you’re just getting to know or about to meet?
For one person, the moment you feel the love, you’re willing to give it all. It seems though that at the moment you give in and show your vulnerability, you get manipulated. Then there’s unrequited love, inconsistencies, hot and cold, complacency or ego.

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      Well, if you’ve been down that road you don’t have to let go, there will be someone someday who will treasure a special someone like you for who you are. Personally, I’ve learnt that I could be enough for someone. That there will be someone who will make you realize you’re all they ever need.
That you don’t have to earn their love and you don’t have to beg for it because you already know that they love all of you from the beginning. If you’ve given it all and it didn’t work out, it’s not about you, it’s about them and their issues. The fact that you are able to give it all without expecting anything in return but just a hope of appreciation, makes you special, it’s just the quality of the people you are loving and you chose to love. You don’t have to give up on love, there will be someone someday who will treasure a special someone like you because they’ll know you’re hard to find, that someone will love you with all their heart and soul, they will surrender, they will never give up on you, they will give you everything there is and more, so much that it scares you.

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     True love maybe do exist. We’ll never know until it hits us and the moment that happens, it could be the best feeling in the world. You have to believe in love and choose to love because I’m sure you still have a lot of love to give cos its in you and love is a follow come nature embedded in you by God.

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      Tomorrow, February 14, while everyone is out celebrating with their love ones, you can celebrate it too with the one you have just started loving. . . Yourself!
If you don’t learn to love yourself first you can’t learn to love others
likewise you can’t learn to love yourself by first loving others – My quote.” Its the love you’ve learnt to maximize in you that you’ll spread abroad to every other person around you. So babe or dude, you’ve got to give yourself a nice treat tomorrow, take some time out, meet your friends, watch movies that will make you laugh so much you’ll almost crack your ribs not emotional movies, do something different from the regulars, go to the spa and relax your tensed muscles, eat chocolates and cake, eat pizza with the girls, play soccer with the boys, get yourself a gift, make someone else happy. . . just Love yourself so well you won’t notice you spent it alone at the end of the day.
      Another thing to do tomorrow is showing compassion to the less privilege. Reach out to someone who won’t be able to give back, reach out to the poor,the sick. . . They need that love most and trust me there’s a satisfaction and joy you feel in your heart when you help the needy and you really don’t know how much seed you’ve sown into that person’s life but what goes around definitely comes back around. Make it a lifestyle to help the needy the joy of doing that is enough and the blessing for spreading the love is jaw breaking.
      According to the greatest law it says “love your neighbour as yourself ” so once again let us allow the love of God in us rule and conquer everything. I’ll love to rest my pen now on the wish that everyone will have a splendid VALENTINE tomorrow loving themselves more than ever and sharing the LOVE in them abroad to everyone.
#ILoveYouAll!
#HappyValentine!!