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Life should be lived like you mean it without limits. . .

Wednesday Wisdom – NOT A REGULAR FEMINIST — November 28, 2018

Wednesday Wisdom – NOT A REGULAR FEMINIST

Our WonderWoman couldn’t have said it better! ❤

Everyone is fighting for the girl child, creating NGOs for that cause. Don’t get me wrong, I’m equally passionate about it. I personally believe that empowering the girl-child and educating her will liberate her from the ignorance that makes her victims of abuse, child-parenting (early marriage), sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancies and so on. But, we often forget that male and female created Him them and somehow, we’ve forgotten that the girl-child we’re striving for is one half of the society. To truly get it right, both parties need to be nurtured right. Empowering the girls won’t be enough if the boys remain uneducated and we’ll only end up raising superwomen with weak men, hence, leading to a society littered with over-burdened wives, mothers, sisters, daughters, bosses, subordinates and friends, where women will be wearied, stressed and drained from having to fix themselves as well as fix an adult who ought to be fixing himself and fixing things around the house or office.
I recently wrote an article on Violence Against Women (VAW) for a women activism programme where I wrote about my personal knowledge and experiences with VAW, the causes and panacea. Amongst the panacea I wrote about was equal education for both genders. The cycle of raising strong daughters and weak sons is wrong, sons who grew to become nonchalant and feast away while the women work. I believe this education starts with the family, the picture painted by parents and how the kids are raised. Boy-child needs attention as do the girl-child, they should be equally educated on the impacts of stunted dreams, violence, unwanted pregnancy, rape, addictions, etc.
Sons should be raised to be the picture of the husbands you desire for your daughters. Sons should be raised to be accountable for their actions and not feel untouchable for shameful acts just because of their gender. They should be educated on the importance of staying committed, loving and providing for their family exclusively such that when they get support from their spouses, her input will be very much appreciated. Sons should be taught that they are the sole protector of their homes, hence, will not run off to chase pleasure with the notion that ‘my wife will handle it‘.

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Dear 20Something, — August 11, 2018

Dear 20Something,

Love and Light

After my 10th birthday, my mum got so sick even she was scared of dying. As a child, I couldn’t do much than stay by her sick bed, help her sit up, get her stuffs, cry with her while I assure her she’ll get through (which she eventually did) and I’ll make promises of things I’ll do for her. I begged her one night to please stay with me and my brothers, that, in ten (10) years time, I’ll be old enough to take proper care of her (commonsensically, my 10 year old self summed up 6 years in high school and 4 years in the university and figured I should be okay enough to take on huge responsibilities by age 20).
Well, I did my 18th birthday as a freshman in the university and had my 23rd birthday just a month after graduating (I did a 5-year course). I definitely grew into taking up responsibilities long before I was 20 years old, but, the point is, left to my futuristic calculations at age 10, I wouldn’t be ready by that age 20 for that which I promised her. Four years into my 20’s, I’m still not there yet.

I was depressed for my 23rd birthday worrying about figuring it all out (thought I was having midlife crisis until a friend asked me if I intended to die at 46 – lol). After that brief dark moment, I realized if I want to enjoy my 20’s in a peaceful fulfilling way, I can’t fit everything into just this magical decade.

There is so much pressure to discover purpose, travel around the world, get a bearing on your career, find a healthy balance, stay committed to your fitness routine, get partnered, make millions, write a book, make babies, start a podcast, get your doctorate degree – all in a space of a decade.

Some people probably get it right before age 22, and some age 25 or even 29, that’s them. I’ve purposefully chosen not to accomplish some goals until I’m 60. I probably won’t explore the world until I’m in my 70’s. I don’t plan on making babies until my late 20’s and early 30’s. You probably won’t catch me lifting weights until I’m in my 40’s (and my bones have started hissing). I may even not get to the peak of my career until I’m in my mid 50’s (I look forward to 2040’s already). But, in my 20’s, I’ll take my vitamins, do my situps, dream, find myself and live like I mean it. Continue reading.

It’s a new month and the beginning of the 2nd half of the YEAR! — July 6, 2017

It’s a new month and the beginning of the 2nd half of the YEAR!

Life they say is not a Pass-fail test

But a trial-and-error process

This I hold on to as I put aside all hurts and blames

And reach out to the greater good that comes with the new season

Life they say is not promised to anyone

But there is one promise of God’s mercies never ending

This I hold on to as I embrace new beginnings hopefully

And I welcome this new season with new mercies for everyday in it.
Happy New Month and I pray this 2nd half of the year brings forth double good tidings of what we may have experienced in the 1st half… Amen!
Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

# it’s More Than Love. . . — August 19, 2016

# it’s More Than Love. . .

Hi everyone, its been a while and there’s been numerous reasons for my inconsistencies, I really hope the change will be feasible one day *covers face*.
I have here today another guest blogger, a friend and I hope you enjoy her writeup.

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Writer- Michelle

You know what they say:
It’s not over ’till it’s OVER.

But sometimes a relationship ends for the wrong reasons.
And realistically, it is possible for a couple to break up and then make up, leading to a more intimate connection.
But regardless of how the story is meant to end, isn’t it worth knowing for sure whether you two can ultimately find happiness with each other again ?

Sometimes people give up too easily and take the easy way out, which is to separate.

People aren’t always what you want them to be.
Sometimes they disappoint you or let you down, but you have to give them a second chance first.
You can’t just meet someone and expect them to be everything you’re looking for and then be angry when they’re not every hope and aspiration you projected onto them.

It’s foolish to believe that someone will be what you imagine them to be.
And sometimes, when you give them a chance, they turn out to be Better than you imagined.

Different, but better.

Fact is :
Everyone deserves a second chance

Michelle Joshua….

BLEEDING EDUCATIONAL SECTOR: OUR MINISTER OF EDUCATION IS ASLEEP — May 21, 2016

BLEEDING EDUCATIONAL SECTOR: OUR MINISTER OF EDUCATION IS ASLEEP

This is a special post considering I have a guess blogger penning down his thoughts on the education sector. He’s a friend I really respect and a visionary leader. Enjoy his writeup and I sincerely pray, one day, our heart desires will be granted in this nation…

BLEEDING EDUCATIONAL SECTOR: OUR MINISTER OF EDUCATION IS ASLEEP.
It is no more a news that our educational system is under attack and the minister in charge is sleeping ferociously. If he were to be at slumber, it could have been fair. But he is not just sleeping, he is also snoring at duty. 
Recently, several federal universities were on heat with vice chancellors giving Union leaders suspensions for fighting for their rights as a student. Most of the protests were due to occurrence of social injustice, monster welfarism, poor administration and management to mention but a few. Permit me to take you on a memory lane, in 2013, the Academic Staff Union of Universities embarked on a 6 month strike due to the same issues mention earlier yet the status quo has changed. 
I would like to advice the minister of education to wake up from his dream land and work towards a POSITIVE CHANGE in the educational sector before it gets out of hands. 
It should be underscored that the younger generation is the future of this country. They are the ones who will find the formula that will guarantee development process and stability both for themselves and future generation. Hence a need for rehabilitation of the educational sector to promote education rather than schooling.
I mentioned schooling earlier because education in this country is bleeding to death in spite the establishment of schools daily. This indicates that building of schools is not the solution to this problem. By observation, many have turned establishment of schools into a business which of course is profitable as people have been brainwashed that going to school is your ticket to harnessing a comfortable life. If going to school or building more schools is not the answer, then what is the answer? A question we must ask ourselves and strive to implement our various answers.
Here are my TO-DO List for the minister of education:
1) Go back to the drawing board and get a blue print of your vision for Nigeria’s educational sector.
2) Get an operational plan with time schedule for each the realization of each plans and put together the work team.
3) Mobilize resources both man power, financial and institutional. These can be gotten by partnership with private sectors.
4) Implement a change in curriculum, training and thinking as well as government procedures and priorities. Like the new economy itself, most of the tools are new and the necessary changes should be introduced to allow them to be used successfully.
5) Be aware that this age is the one of great ideas and innovation that produce outstanding projects and not one of filling minds with information.
6) Our younger generation should not only be taught the whole spectrum of available knowledge, they must acquire and master practical skills and competencies by working in companies and on projects as a first step towards establishing their own successful ventures. They should be given chance to interact with the business community and market, enabling them to develop and enrich our national economy.
I would like to stop here for now but the main thing is timely implementation and formulation of policies that will develop education sector. Inside every Nigerian is a gold mine, good, right and quality education is needed to dig it out.

Oni Babajide David (OBD),
Agrocapitalism Initiative (AcI)
#progressivenigeria

Its Another Valentine! — February 14, 2016

Its Another Valentine!

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No need beating around the bush, all I’ll say is show someone love. You know that person that needs what you have surplus of, show some love by giving, help someone who can’t even repay your kindness, express your love nature in the most ideal and healthy way.
The true essence of Valentine ain’t just for people you’re in love with but for people who need or desire to be loved.
Finally, love yourself too because the truth is you can’t give what you don’t have.

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Check 1John 4:16-21

Happy Valentine!
Much Love, Oluwafunmibi.

IG & Twitter; @phunmiborn

Forbidden — February 3, 2016

Forbidden

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It has always been a blurry augury
One minute you’re here and the next you’re gone
Leaving me with detritus of memories
Even the long time camaraderie could not bring us together
And I wonder can love be this bilious
Making it impossible to identify the nuance
That makes what we have peculiar
The volition to have you in my fantasy
Seems to be the panacea for the ambivalent feelings entwined in my heart

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I’ve got so much to say to you
But I’ll rather will myself out of this morass
I’ll pretend I don’t know what’s happening to us
And painfully watch as the feelings go
Because above all, i dread losing the friendship
Loving you ain’t an hearsay
But the chances of being together looks incongruous
Just so you know, you’re always loved.

I.G & Twitter: @phunmiborn

RESOLUTION — January 7, 2016

RESOLUTION

     Yah! Its Jan 2016 and everyone is trying to make plans for the year. People writing resolutions, noting things they want to achieve and what they want to let go. Well, I’ll admonish in my opinion to resolute to feasible and achievable goals. I’ve seen many goals not achieved over the years not because it ain’t right but mostly due to wrong timing and a bad work plan. Why write 20 far fetched goals when you can go for just 7 and it will be attainable?! Continue reading

BEFORE 2015 ENDS — December 29, 2015

BEFORE 2015 ENDS

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Before 2015 ends, I want to personally say “THANK YOU” to all  my readers and followers that made 2015 an awesome year for me as a blogger. I pray this season brings forth good tidings to you and a prosperous 2016 ahead; May FAVOUR, GRACE and MERCY speaks for you in all your endeavors.

#Grateful #Thanks #Merci #Gracias #Danke #Grazie #Obrigado #спасибо

#ILoveYouMore!
#HappyNewYearInAdvance!

My Loud Silence — July 18, 2015

My Loud Silence

     This is the story of me accessing freedom for my mind.
     I used to have a deafening scream that couldn’t be heard even when the voices in my head strived to be heard and I’ll have a million and one things on my mind but won’t be able to express even the one on it. I was always so scared of outcomes that I never had the nerve to leave my comfort zone. . .
Was it trust issues I had??!
Or was just afraid of being rejected??! Continue reading