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Life should be lived like you mean it without limits. . .

Dear 20Something, — August 11, 2018

Dear 20Something,

Love and Light

After my 10th birthday, my mum got so sick even she was scared of dying. As a child, I couldn’t do much than stay by her sick bed, help her sit up, get her stuffs, cry with her while I assure her she’ll get through (which she eventually did) and I’ll make promises of things I’ll do for her. I begged her one night to please stay with me and my brothers, that, in ten (10) years time, I’ll be old enough to take proper care of her (commonsensically, my 10 year old self summed up 6 years in high school and 4 years in the university and figured I should be okay enough to take on huge responsibilities by age 20).
Well, I did my 18th birthday as a freshman in the university and had my 23rd birthday just a month after graduating (I did a 5-year course). I definitely grew into taking up responsibilities long before I was 20 years old, but, the point is, left to my futuristic calculations at age 10, I wouldn’t be ready by that age 20 for that which I promised her. Four years into my 20’s, I’m still not there yet.

I was depressed for my 23rd birthday worrying about figuring it all out (thought I was having midlife crisis until a friend asked me if I intended to die at 46 – lol). After that brief dark moment, I realized if I want to enjoy my 20’s in a peaceful fulfilling way, I can’t fit everything into just this magical decade.

There is so much pressure to discover purpose, travel around the world, get a bearing on your career, find a healthy balance, stay committed to your fitness routine, get partnered, make millions, write a book, make babies, start a podcast, get your doctorate degree – all in a space of a decade.

Some people probably get it right before age 22, and some age 25 or even 29, that’s them. I’ve purposefully chosen not to accomplish some goals until I’m 60. I probably won’t explore the world until I’m in my 70’s. I don’t plan on making babies until my late 20’s and early 30’s. You probably won’t catch me lifting weights until I’m in my 40’s (and my bones have started hissing). I may even not get to the peak of my career until I’m in my mid 50’s (I look forward to 2040’s already). But, in my 20’s, I’ll take my vitamins, do my situps, dream, find myself and live like I mean it. Continue reading.

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It’s a new month and the beginning of the 2nd half of the YEAR! — July 6, 2017

It’s a new month and the beginning of the 2nd half of the YEAR!

Life they say is not a Pass-fail test

But a trial-and-error process

This I hold on to as I put aside all hurts and blames

And reach out to the greater good that comes with the new season

Life they say is not promised to anyone

But there is one promise of God’s mercies never ending

This I hold on to as I embrace new beginnings hopefully

And I welcome this new season with new mercies for everyday in it.
Happy New Month and I pray this 2nd half of the year brings forth double good tidings of what we may have experienced in the 1st half… Amen!
Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

# it’s More Than Love. . . — August 19, 2016

# it’s More Than Love. . .

Hi everyone, its been a while and there’s been numerous reasons for my inconsistencies, I really hope the change will be feasible one day *covers face*.
I have here today another guest blogger, a friend and I hope you enjoy her writeup.

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Writer- Michelle

You know what they say:
It’s not over ’till it’s OVER.

But sometimes a relationship ends for the wrong reasons.
And realistically, it is possible for a couple to break up and then make up, leading to a more intimate connection.
But regardless of how the story is meant to end, isn’t it worth knowing for sure whether you two can ultimately find happiness with each other again ?

Sometimes people give up too easily and take the easy way out, which is to separate.

People aren’t always what you want them to be.
Sometimes they disappoint you or let you down, but you have to give them a second chance first.
You can’t just meet someone and expect them to be everything you’re looking for and then be angry when they’re not every hope and aspiration you projected onto them.

It’s foolish to believe that someone will be what you imagine them to be.
And sometimes, when you give them a chance, they turn out to be Better than you imagined.

Different, but better.

Fact is :
Everyone deserves a second chance

Michelle Joshua….

BLEEDING EDUCATIONAL SECTOR: OUR MINISTER OF EDUCATION IS ASLEEP — May 21, 2016

BLEEDING EDUCATIONAL SECTOR: OUR MINISTER OF EDUCATION IS ASLEEP

This is a special post considering I have a guess blogger penning down his thoughts on the education sector. He’s a friend I really respect and a visionary leader. Enjoy his writeup and I sincerely pray, one day, our heart desires will be granted in this nation…

BLEEDING EDUCATIONAL SECTOR: OUR MINISTER OF EDUCATION IS ASLEEP.
It is no more a news that our educational system is under attack and the minister in charge is sleeping ferociously. If he were to be at slumber, it could have been fair. But he is not just sleeping, he is also snoring at duty. 
Recently, several federal universities were on heat with vice chancellors giving Union leaders suspensions for fighting for their rights as a student. Most of the protests were due to occurrence of social injustice, monster welfarism, poor administration and management to mention but a few. Permit me to take you on a memory lane, in 2013, the Academic Staff Union of Universities embarked on a 6 month strike due to the same issues mention earlier yet the status quo has changed. 
I would like to advice the minister of education to wake up from his dream land and work towards a POSITIVE CHANGE in the educational sector before it gets out of hands. 
It should be underscored that the younger generation is the future of this country. They are the ones who will find the formula that will guarantee development process and stability both for themselves and future generation. Hence a need for rehabilitation of the educational sector to promote education rather than schooling.
I mentioned schooling earlier because education in this country is bleeding to death in spite the establishment of schools daily. This indicates that building of schools is not the solution to this problem. By observation, many have turned establishment of schools into a business which of course is profitable as people have been brainwashed that going to school is your ticket to harnessing a comfortable life. If going to school or building more schools is not the answer, then what is the answer? A question we must ask ourselves and strive to implement our various answers.
Here are my TO-DO List for the minister of education:
1) Go back to the drawing board and get a blue print of your vision for Nigeria’s educational sector.
2) Get an operational plan with time schedule for each the realization of each plans and put together the work team.
3) Mobilize resources both man power, financial and institutional. These can be gotten by partnership with private sectors.
4) Implement a change in curriculum, training and thinking as well as government procedures and priorities. Like the new economy itself, most of the tools are new and the necessary changes should be introduced to allow them to be used successfully.
5) Be aware that this age is the one of great ideas and innovation that produce outstanding projects and not one of filling minds with information.
6) Our younger generation should not only be taught the whole spectrum of available knowledge, they must acquire and master practical skills and competencies by working in companies and on projects as a first step towards establishing their own successful ventures. They should be given chance to interact with the business community and market, enabling them to develop and enrich our national economy.
I would like to stop here for now but the main thing is timely implementation and formulation of policies that will develop education sector. Inside every Nigerian is a gold mine, good, right and quality education is needed to dig it out.

Oni Babajide David (OBD),
Agrocapitalism Initiative (AcI)
#progressivenigeria

Its Another Valentine! — February 14, 2016

Its Another Valentine!

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No need beating around the bush, all I’ll say is show someone love. You know that person that needs what you have surplus of, show some love by giving, help someone who can’t even repay your kindness, express your love nature in the most ideal and healthy way.
The true essence of Valentine ain’t just for people you’re in love with but for people who need or desire to be loved.
Finally, love yourself too because the truth is you can’t give what you don’t have.

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Check 1John 4:16-21

Happy Valentine!
Much Love, Oluwafunmibi.

IG & Twitter; @phunmiborn

Forbidden — February 3, 2016

Forbidden

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It has always been a blurry augury
One minute you’re here and the next you’re gone
Leaving me with detritus of memories
Even the long time camaraderie could not bring us together
And I wonder can love be this bilious
Making it impossible to identify the nuance
That makes what we have peculiar
The volition to have you in my fantasy
Seems to be the panacea for the ambivalent feelings entwined in my heart

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I’ve got so much to say to you
But I’ll rather will myself out of this morass
I’ll pretend I don’t know what’s happening to us
And painfully watch as the feelings go
Because above all, i dread losing the friendship
Loving you ain’t an hearsay
But the chances of being together looks incongruous
Just so you know, you’re always loved.

I.G & Twitter: @phunmiborn

RESOLUTION — January 7, 2016

RESOLUTION

     Yah! Its Jan 2016 and everyone is trying to make plans for the year. People writing resolutions, noting things they want to achieve and what they want to let go. Well, I’ll admonish in my opinion to resolute to feasible and achievable goals. I’ve seen many goals not achieved over the years not because it ain’t right but mostly due to wrong timing and a bad work plan. Why write 20 far fetched goals when you can go for just 7 and it will be attainable?! Continue reading

BEFORE 2015 ENDS — December 29, 2015

BEFORE 2015 ENDS

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Before 2015 ends, I want to personally say “THANK YOU” to all  my readers and followers that made 2015 an awesome year for me as a blogger. I pray this season brings forth good tidings to you and a prosperous 2016 ahead; May FAVOUR, GRACE and MERCY speaks for you in all your endeavors.

#Grateful #Thanks #Merci #Gracias #Danke #Grazie #Obrigado #спасибо

#ILoveYouMore!
#HappyNewYearInAdvance!

My Loud Silence — July 18, 2015

My Loud Silence

     This is the story of me accessing freedom for my mind.
     I used to have a deafening scream that couldn’t be heard even when the voices in my head strived to be heard and I’ll have a million and one things on my mind but won’t be able to express even the one on it. I was always so scared of outcomes that I never had the nerve to leave my comfort zone. . .
Was it trust issues I had??!
Or was just afraid of being rejected??! Continue reading

LET IT GO (2) ; IT’S NOT OVER — March 26, 2015

LET IT GO (2) ; IT’S NOT OVER

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     Hello everyone! I’m sorry I’ve been unable to post anything since my last post “LET IT GO” and this was due to the fact that I’ve been busy writing my tests and should start exams pretty soon. This post is a sequel to LET IT GO, if you can recollect I wrote its to be continued and here you are today reading the second part.
     I’m going to be sharing with us life experiences and principles that has been practiced and has worked for many people of which I’m an example. Some of these stories we already know and might not have seen how it applies to us or we simply overlooked it.
     Most of the time when we face challenges in life, we don’t see the possibilities of getting over it,we only tend to wish it doesn’t affect us much and when its finally over, we draw the curtain and accept defeat. It should not be like that because really when we LET GO of our fears we should EMBRACE the challenge again and keep at it until we win. We should never give up on ourselves. We need to learn to pick ourselves UP every time we found ourselves where we started from even after LETTING GO. Its not just enough to LET GO but to see the POSSIBILITIES in the word IMPOSSIBLE. We can do whatever we set our minds to if only we won’t give up. Sometimes, we tend to be paralyzed by our overanalytical thoughts and get blinded by the number of defeats and stories we heard that we tend to lose FAITH in ourselves.
    In my years of reading books and learning to develop myself, one thing distinct those who are successful in their field or path from others and its CONSISTENCY. . . These people won’t give up on themselves even in worst life scary situations, when nobody even believe in them, they kept on doing that which they believe in and never gave up on their dreams. They pick themselves up each time they fail and try all over again.

     “The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” – NELSON MANDELA

There was a conscious effort from these people never to give up on their dreams and not see the difficulty in it. Instead they try to work it out better and stronger each time they fail. For some of us, all we need is to read a book while for some, we need to talk to someone. I can practically make do with both, reading books related to my challenges help a lot (I love reading) and I can talk too. . . It helps a lot to talk if you’re talking to the right person. You need to check your friends and everyone around you,do they believe in you and are they supportive?! Are you comfortable sharing your problems with them?! I’ve had my share of friends like that (that’s a story for another day) but was able to overcome that by positively seeing who I am not what they see me as.

     “If you’re not prepared to be wrong, you’ll never come up with anything original.” – Sir Ken Robinson

     There was a course I took in my year one that I failed because I needed to cram it which ain’t a talent on my part, Its an automatic extra if you have an outstanding year 1 course before internship year in my faculty. With anxiety and fear, I retook it in my year 2 only to fail again and I’m left with only one slot to save me from an extra year. At a point i thought of quitting and starting all over or probably just travel out and start afresh just because I was scared of failure again and couldn’t stand having an extra over a 3-units course, I was frustrated and devastated until I talked to some people about it and was admonished on what to do then I read books on ATTITUDE. I realized I just had to give in my best and be optimistic so I cancelled my travelling plans and gave my last shot my best which resulted in an “A” at my 3rd time of doing it.

     “[If you are reading this]… You’re alive! That means you have infinite potential. You can do anything. If you change the world, the world will change.” – Neil Gaiman

     Below are also humans like you and me who made it after failing many times but whose consistency to succeed worked for. . .

     Abraham Lincoln was born, February 12,1809. He lived through so much without giving up: Failed in business at age 31. Defeated for the Legislature at 32. Again failed in business at 34. Sweetheart died at 35. Had a nervous breakdown at 36. Defeated in election at 38. Defeated for Congress at 43. Defeated for congress at 46. Defeated for congress at 48. Defeated for senate at 55. Defeated for Vice president at 56. Defeated for senate at 58. Elected President at age 60.

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     Nelson Rolihlahla Mandela was the world’s most famous political prisoner and a Nobel Peace Prize Winner renowned for his work in fighting apartheid in South Africa. Even when in prison for 27 years, Mandela maintained his optimism and his strong belief in the fight against apartheid. His consistency gave hope to his fellow inmates and to the black population of S. Africa which culminated to the defeat of apartheid rule in S. Africa and his release from prison. Even in worst circumstances, he maintained a steady and consistent character which accounts to making South Africa one of the most respected and successful nations in the world.

     One of the most popular works of art in the world is the Mona Lisa. Known for its mystical beauty and flawless execution, it is often referred to as Leonardo da Vinci’s finest work. He worked on it between 1503-1516. Behind the heavy layers of painting is a hidden secret. In 1888, the painting was X-rayed by William Forsyth, who discovered that there were three other versions of the Mona Lisa under the final product. Da Vinci had redone his painting 3 times over the course of the decade. He didn’t get it at the first try but kept at it for many years before he created his final product.

     “Life is truly known only to those who suffer, lose, endure adversity and stumble from defeat to defeat.” – Anais Nin

     These people and many more like; Joyce Meyer, Isaac Newton, Ben Carson, Albeit Einstein, Oprah Winfrey, Robert Kiyosaki, Bill gates, John Maxwell, Hugh Jackman, Jordan, Serena Williams, Marie Curie, Mike Tyson and so on never had the journey so smooth and promising at first, for some a lot was lost and for some a lot of sacrifices were paid but the idea was they NEVER gave up on themselves. They saw the possibilities of making it in their choice of field even when it doesn’t look like it, they never saw the end in their failure rather they were optimistic and try till they become successful and who we CELEBRATE today . . .

     “Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over it became a butterfly.” – Anonymous

#MuchLove!!
#ToBeContinued. . .