OluwafunmibiFayemi

Life should be lived like you mean it without limits. . .

Happy Valentine’s Day — February 14, 2018

Happy Valentine’s Day

Love is the reason for the season, show someone love. You know that one person that needs what you have surplus of, show some love by giving, help someone who can’t even repay your kindness, express your love nature in the most ideal and healthy way.

The true essence of Valentine ain’t just for people you’re in love with but for people who need or desire to be loved. Put a smile on someone’s face and don’t let it stop when today is over, make expression of love a lifestyle because love is your nature.

Finally, love yourself too because the truth is you can’t give what you don’t have. If life has been so tough on you lately, take a break today to pamper you.

Happy Valentine’s Day! ❤💕💞💝

Scriptural reference: 1John 4:16-21

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

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The Wait (Book Review) — January 26, 2018

The Wait (Book Review)

The Superstar-Preacher and his Superstar-Actress Wife ❤💋

​“God doesn’t show your heart to everybody. He only shows it to people He can trust with it.”

                            – DeVon to Meagan


Pre- The Wait

A friend (Abimbola) actually sent me the book and I was super excited when she did because prio to that, I’ve always been a big fan of Meagan Good. Apart from my love for Meagan, I’ve seen and read quite a number of interviews by the couple so I know they make a great pair and I’ve been super interested in knowing how Meagan nailed a Minister *lol*, I mean, if you’ll look from the angle of Hollywood, it’s so not the cliche, so I got the book with expectations of learning a lot. I yearned to know what they know. I delved into the book with an open mind full of expectations.
The Wait

I must say this is the best Christian book I’ve read on Relationship yet (No sentiments). Meagan and DeVon definitely brought the concept of Love, Sex, Human and God home. They didn’t just tell you what to do, they explicitly explained how to do it, they discussed the part of God, where Grace works, the Human part and how to stay in it.

They were downright real, touched the depth of people’s fears on Sex and how to practice ‘The Wait’, they made their story relatable and discussed all sides to the coin. I think one of my best parts to the book is learning about celibacy from people who have had a fair share of their bad choices too. I’ve read about people who choose to be celibate where either of the couple has once been wayward and I even have a Pastor who is married to his first girlfriend and didn’t even kiss her until wedding day so the concept of celibacy is not so strange or new but when you have Hollywood stars practising it, even in the midst of the messed up celebrity lifestyles and voices and opinions, you get to sit tight and listen twice to know what they know and how they did it.

Post- The Wait

I can’t quantify how many things I learnt cos I think every sentence in the book has a message in it, but, I will talk about one particular lesson/new knowledge that stands out.

So, I figured that all along, what I’ve been doing is Abstinence not Celibacy? Yh kinda, because I know why I don’t explore my sexuality is because I’m convinced that somehow, I’m not ready for whatever emotional stress that comes with it; I’m not ready for the post-sex dramas or the ills of an unprotected sex or unwanted pregnancy(cos I won’t subscribe to abortion) and I basically like to be in charge of my life and emotions always, so, if that part of my life is the only one I still have 100% control on, its gonna be like that till I feel otherwise and apparently, I don’t feel otherwise then I entered my twenties and I concluded, I’ll just chill till marriage. . . And then, I read a book that made me realize I’ve been missing out on the main prize that comes from making God the centre of that Abstinence which makes whatever I’m doing different from Celibacy. Celibacy is abstinence with a purpose (an attached meaning because of my faith and trust in God, not for my fears, insecurities and selfish reasons) but for better submitting myself to God and his will for my life, allowing him place me at the centre of his purpose for me.

The act was the same but the difference and the root of the problem is the heart behind the act. I’ve learnt and now, I’m submitting my will to God because I can’t afford to miss out on his Original plan (can’t settle for Plan B or C or D). There is a total change of the heart behind the act. I’ll give in to the process no matter how tough it could be at first, after all, we are all a work in progress. But I’m sure I’m getting it right this time around.

Meagan and DeVon sure makes a terrific couple and the book is just as great as I envisioned, even greater. Thanks for being such a huge blessing!



Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

FELLOWSHIP — January 20, 2018

FELLOWSHIP

I HAVE A FATHER, I CALL HIM GOD!

This ain’t just about church attendance or some little prayers or the daily verses you supposedly meditate on.

Over the years, I’ve come to see God as my father and I’ve never been so CONVINCE about any other fact like this.

I see us in a Father-Daughter relationship where I’m the apple of his eyes (that precious daughter nothing must do). He’s committed to me his girl and I to him as a well trained child. He has some duties and obligations towards me, his beautiful daughter and I have some duties and obligations towards Him too.

It’s a strong family ties where we go through every ups and down together. When we have cold arguments on my choices due to youthful exuberance and sometimes full blown fights. He provides for all my needs, teaches me everything, protects me, listens to me when I need to talk, comforts me during hard times, reprove me when I’m wrong and fight for me if need be. I have an obligation to honor and obey and serve with the time, strength and
resources He has given me.

It makes much sense to me when I know i have a supernatural father who has my best interests in heart and will stick out His neck for me till the very end. His words reminds me everyday of how loving a father he is and I feel the realness through the manifestation of his promises in my life. Even if I go astray like the lost sheep or act like the prodigal son, he won’t rest until I’m found and will always welcome me back with a stronger bond between us.

I have a FATHER, I call him GOD! 🙌 ❤ 💋

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Heal My Soul — January 18, 2018

Heal My Soul

Take my heart, take my pain

Take my mind, take my shame

Like the wool soaks up the fluid

Heal my soul from its nemesis.
Exchange my scars for your love

Exchange my bitterness for your sweetness

Encapsule me in the solace of your peace

Heal my soul from its nemesis.
Wipe my tears with the tenderness of your attention

Wipe my fears with the strength of your assuring words

Watch me bare my soul to you guilelessly

Heal my soul from its nemesis.
Love me like its doom day

Kiss me like my last breathe hinges on it

Show me the wonders of being truly loved

Heal my soul from its nemesis.
Hear my cry M’Lord

Hear my voice as I fall at your feet

Purge me out and fill me with the joy of your salvation

Heal my soul from its nemesis.
Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Hello Artist, — January 15, 2018

Hello Artist,

Your relationships goes a long way in affecting the other aspects of your life.

Relationship is like a blank canvas. No matter the people we are, no matter the past and no matter the stumbling blocks, we get a fresh white blank canvas and we have tons of water color and we choose what to put on that

canvas. You need to learn to make good use of your canvas. Relationships will always be difficult whether it is  marital or friendship or family and most times We stay in relationships by choice; not because they’re convenient. We just decide to move past the betrayals and pains and hurts and hardships till we can’t anymore.

Cheers to the beautiful pieces of art on my canvas. I appreciate you all wonderful friends in my life ❤

Trust me the friends you keep at this age will likely be the ones you’ll be stuck with for the rest of your life. You can never undermine the effect of friendship especially if you keep the right ones (Lately, I’ve been feeling blessed for the awesome friends I’ve met along the way that has helped shapen me to the woman I’m becoming). These are the kind of friends you even see as family because they’re who you see in all kinds of time. When things are right and when all goes wrong. They give you straight talks. They support you. They pray with you. They believe in your dreams. They comfort you. They argue with you. They push you to your limits. They annoy you. They protect you. . . The list is endless!

If you need to dump some junks, please do and move on. But you’ll definitely have some friends that are the real deal. It’s not always going to be smooth and sometimes they feel like a stone round your neck and they grate on your nerves but really, they contribute to lifetime memories that will grace your biography.

Appreciate the good friends in your life and be creative with your blank canvas!

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

And Its A. D. 2018 — January 1, 2018

And Its A. D. 2018

May this be your year of Divine Elevation! 🎉🎉🎉

May this New year bring you long lasting Happiness and Success, a great new start that will launch you & Your family into divine elevation.
Happy New year peeps!

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Christmas 2017 — December 25, 2017
#LOVING SOMEONE FROM A BROKEN HOME – Conclusion — October 19, 2016

#LOVING SOMEONE FROM A BROKEN HOME – Conclusion

This is the last part of my honorable guest writer’s post… Happy Reading!

Those ones who have lived in broken households don’t usually reveal that aspect of their past,
especially when they get into romantic relationships.

But when it’s brought into light, it can change the way you look at things, including the way you love them:

Continuing from where we stopped, here are the rest of the facts about them that will help you understand and love them better……

6.
ARGUMENTS WILL EITHER BE FILLED WITH EMOTION, OR BE COMPLETELY SHUT OFF…..

They don’t necessarily want to disagree with you, and
In the heat of an argument at this point, they will feel extremely anxious, and wonder if this might lead to you leaving them
Regardless of the situation you find yourself at, don’t leave things unsettled.
At the end of the day, they need to know that everything is okay.

7.
ONCE THEY FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU, THEY ARE DONE HIDING FROM YOU

However long it might take for this to happen, when it does, you will know.
You are worth letting in.
You are understanding and non-judgmental, and they know you love them back.

8.
MARRIAGE WILL BE AN AWKWARD CONVERSATION FOR THEM

To most, marriage is a fairy tale, and one that didn’t go so well in their family.
Don’t get mad, as it’s all they know.
Over time they will start to see a long future with you, and they will be more open to trying to understand what marriage with you could be like.

9.
MARRYING YOU WILL BE THE HAPPIEST DAY OF THEIR LIFE…..

Once they get over the initial shock that they are actually getting married, they will be overjoyed. At this point, they have moved on from their past, and they are looking forward to starting a new life with you.
They are all about you, and this will genuinely be the happiest day of their lives.

10.
THEY WILL MAKE AN AMAZING PARENT……

Because of all they have gone through as a child,
they will know exactly how they want to be with their children.
They will want to give their children the life they wish they would have had.
Becoming a parent can be terrifying for anyone, but they will take it in stride.
If you are lucky enough to make it this far with them, then you are their everything,
and they will look forward to making your little family the best it can be.

Like I said earlier….
I know it’s a lot to take in but in the end….. You will be glad you stayed to the end..

I’m Michelle Joshua…

#LOVING SOMEONE FROM A BROKEN HOME – Part 1 — October 9, 2016

#LOVING SOMEONE FROM A BROKEN HOME – Part 1

Michelle is a friend and guest blogger, she’s been featured here before so I hope you enjoy this beautiful write up from her…

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It’s not simple to explain, it’s not what most would see as normal, and it’s something that can bring both happiness and pain.
Those who come from a broken home are doing their best to figure life out, just like everyone else.

Don’t get me wrong here, loving someone who comes from a broken family can be work, but they will love you and cherish you with all of their heart.
You are their safe place, and they will always have your back for that.

To be able to give back the love and loyalty you are getting, here are a few facts of people from broken homes that will help you to better understand how to love someone who comes from a broken family.

1.
THEY DON’T TRUST EASILY

Trust is something that is earned for them, and it is taken very seriously.
But when they let you in, they likely won’t hold anything back.

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2.
AT THE BEGINNING OF THE RELATIONSHIP, THEY WON’T THINK THEY DESERVE YOU

You are simply too good for them. They don’t deserve the love, or even the attention that you are showing them.  When they seem down to you, just give them a compliment and hold them close.

3.
WHILE IN THE EARLY STAGES OF DATING, THEY WILL FOCUS ON YOU, AND AVOID LONG CONVERSATIONS ABOUT THEMSELVES….

At some point at the beginning of dating, you will feel like they know everything about you, but you don’t exactly know everything about them.
When they trust you, they will tell you what growing up was like for them.

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4.
THEY WILL BE THE INDEPENDENT ONE IN THE RELATIONSHIP…..

If at times it seems like they don’t act like they need you,
They can get by without you, but they don’t want to.
Don’t hold this against them, as it will benefit them when they have a family of their own.
And if you’re lucky, that family will be with you.

5.
MEETING YOUR FAMILY WILL BE HARD FOR THEM

A normal family is something only dreams are made of for them.
Talking about your family is uneasy for them, and meeting them is terrifying.
They don’t know what to expect, Be supportive, and introduce them to the family slowly.

“”I know it’s a lot to take in but in the end….. You will be glad you stayed to the end””..

I’m Michelle Joshua…

Heavenly Earth — September 20, 2016

Heavenly Earth

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“Why do we have to die to go to heaven when we have the earth already in the space? Why don’t we just make where we are right now into heaven and make life pleasant for ourselves??!”
– Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

With LOVE, even in the midst of chaos, earth will still feel heavenly.
Love yourself;
Love others;
Allow yourself to be loved.

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi