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#LOVING SOMEONE FROM A BROKEN HOME – Conclusion — October 19, 2016

#LOVING SOMEONE FROM A BROKEN HOME – Conclusion

This is the last part of my honorable guest writer’s post… Happy Reading!

Those ones who have lived in broken households don’t usually reveal that aspect of their past,
especially when they get into romantic relationships.

But when it’s brought into light, it can change the way you look at things, including the way you love them:

Continuing from where we stopped, here are the rest of the facts about them that will help you understand and love them better……

6.
ARGUMENTS WILL EITHER BE FILLED WITH EMOTION, OR BE COMPLETELY SHUT OFF…..

They don’t necessarily want to disagree with you, and
In the heat of an argument at this point, they will feel extremely anxious, and wonder if this might lead to you leaving them
Regardless of the situation you find yourself at, don’t leave things unsettled.
At the end of the day, they need to know that everything is okay.

7.
ONCE THEY FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU, THEY ARE DONE HIDING FROM YOU

However long it might take for this to happen, when it does, you will know.
You are worth letting in.
You are understanding and non-judgmental, and they know you love them back.

8.
MARRIAGE WILL BE AN AWKWARD CONVERSATION FOR THEM

To most, marriage is a fairy tale, and one that didn’t go so well in their family.
Don’t get mad, as it’s all they know.
Over time they will start to see a long future with you, and they will be more open to trying to understand what marriage with you could be like.

9.
MARRYING YOU WILL BE THE HAPPIEST DAY OF THEIR LIFE…..

Once they get over the initial shock that they are actually getting married, they will be overjoyed. At this point, they have moved on from their past, and they are looking forward to starting a new life with you.
They are all about you, and this will genuinely be the happiest day of their lives.

10.
THEY WILL MAKE AN AMAZING PARENT……

Because of all they have gone through as a child,
they will know exactly how they want to be with their children.
They will want to give their children the life they wish they would have had.
Becoming a parent can be terrifying for anyone, but they will take it in stride.
If you are lucky enough to make it this far with them, then you are their everything,
and they will look forward to making your little family the best it can be.

Like I said earlier….
I know it’s a lot to take in but in the end….. You will be glad you stayed to the end..

I’m Michelle Joshua…

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#LOVING SOMEONE FROM A BROKEN HOME – Part 1 — October 9, 2016

#LOVING SOMEONE FROM A BROKEN HOME – Part 1

Michelle is a friend and guest blogger, she’s been featured here before so I hope you enjoy this beautiful write up from her…

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It’s not simple to explain, it’s not what most would see as normal, and it’s something that can bring both happiness and pain.
Those who come from a broken home are doing their best to figure life out, just like everyone else.

Don’t get me wrong here, loving someone who comes from a broken family can be work, but they will love you and cherish you with all of their heart.
You are their safe place, and they will always have your back for that.

To be able to give back the love and loyalty you are getting, here are a few facts of people from broken homes that will help you to better understand how to love someone who comes from a broken family.

1.
THEY DON’T TRUST EASILY

Trust is something that is earned for them, and it is taken very seriously.
But when they let you in, they likely won’t hold anything back.

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2.
AT THE BEGINNING OF THE RELATIONSHIP, THEY WON’T THINK THEY DESERVE YOU

You are simply too good for them. They don’t deserve the love, or even the attention that you are showing them.  When they seem down to you, just give them a compliment and hold them close.

3.
WHILE IN THE EARLY STAGES OF DATING, THEY WILL FOCUS ON YOU, AND AVOID LONG CONVERSATIONS ABOUT THEMSELVES….

At some point at the beginning of dating, you will feel like they know everything about you, but you don’t exactly know everything about them.
When they trust you, they will tell you what growing up was like for them.

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4.
THEY WILL BE THE INDEPENDENT ONE IN THE RELATIONSHIP…..

If at times it seems like they don’t act like they need you,
They can get by without you, but they don’t want to.
Don’t hold this against them, as it will benefit them when they have a family of their own.
And if you’re lucky, that family will be with you.

5.
MEETING YOUR FAMILY WILL BE HARD FOR THEM

A normal family is something only dreams are made of for them.
Talking about your family is uneasy for them, and meeting them is terrifying.
They don’t know what to expect, Be supportive, and introduce them to the family slowly.

“”I know it’s a lot to take in but in the end….. You will be glad you stayed to the end””..

I’m Michelle Joshua…

Heavenly Earth — September 20, 2016

Heavenly Earth

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“Why do we have to die to go to heaven when we have the earth already in the space? Why don’t we just make where we are right now into heaven and make life pleasant for ourselves??!”
– Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

With LOVE, even in the midst of chaos, earth will still feel heavenly.
Love yourself;
Love others;
Allow yourself to be loved.

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

# it’s More Than Love. . . — August 19, 2016

# it’s More Than Love. . .

Hi everyone, its been a while and there’s been numerous reasons for my inconsistencies, I really hope the change will be feasible one day *covers face*.
I have here today another guest blogger, a friend and I hope you enjoy her writeup.

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Writer- Michelle

You know what they say:
It’s not over ’till it’s OVER.

But sometimes a relationship ends for the wrong reasons.
And realistically, it is possible for a couple to break up and then make up, leading to a more intimate connection.
But regardless of how the story is meant to end, isn’t it worth knowing for sure whether you two can ultimately find happiness with each other again ?

Sometimes people give up too easily and take the easy way out, which is to separate.

People aren’t always what you want them to be.
Sometimes they disappoint you or let you down, but you have to give them a second chance first.
You can’t just meet someone and expect them to be everything you’re looking for and then be angry when they’re not every hope and aspiration you projected onto them.

It’s foolish to believe that someone will be what you imagine them to be.
And sometimes, when you give them a chance, they turn out to be Better than you imagined.

Different, but better.

Fact is :
Everyone deserves a second chance

Michelle Joshua….

Its Another Valentine! — February 14, 2016

Its Another Valentine!

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No need beating around the bush, all I’ll say is show someone love. You know that person that needs what you have surplus of, show some love by giving, help someone who can’t even repay your kindness, express your love nature in the most ideal and healthy way.
The true essence of Valentine ain’t just for people you’re in love with but for people who need or desire to be loved.
Finally, love yourself too because the truth is you can’t give what you don’t have.

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Check 1John 4:16-21

Happy Valentine!
Much Love, Oluwafunmibi.

IG & Twitter; @phunmiborn

Forbidden — February 3, 2016

Forbidden

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It has always been a blurry augury
One minute you’re here and the next you’re gone
Leaving me with detritus of memories
Even the long time camaraderie could not bring us together
And I wonder can love be this bilious
Making it impossible to identify the nuance
That makes what we have peculiar
The volition to have you in my fantasy
Seems to be the panacea for the ambivalent feelings entwined in my heart

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I’ve got so much to say to you
But I’ll rather will myself out of this morass
I’ll pretend I don’t know what’s happening to us
And painfully watch as the feelings go
Because above all, i dread losing the friendship
Loving you ain’t an hearsay
But the chances of being together looks incongruous
Just so you know, you’re always loved.

I.G & Twitter: @phunmiborn

PART OF ME — November 17, 2015

PART OF ME

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I was always a slave to freedom,
Of those who know how to float;
And who kiss the sky;
Until you appeared there.
I decided to land and stay in your soil,
I discovered my faith in your land.
My soul recognized your voice,
So my heart followed you.
I fly through your wings;
I wake up between your soul and my peace.
They are part of me.
I travel in your gaze,
You uplift me,
I’m better than I used to be,
All thanks to you dear.

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INCEST WITH GOD II — October 21, 2015

INCEST WITH GOD II

                  God the LOVER

     In the last post I talked about being in a FATHER-CHILD relationship with God and how awesome it can be. Well, you’re gonna read the LOVERS aspect today. Have you ever been in love?! Trust me at some point in your life, feeling butterflies in your belly is one experience you’ll always treasure. Continue reading

Without A Word — September 23, 2015
HER TOME; HER LOVE; HER PAIN (4) — September 2, 2015

HER TOME; HER LOVE; HER PAIN (4)

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     After my experience with Jude I’ve decided to stay single for as long as God wants because I’m not ready to go through heart breaks anymore. I’m fine with JUST ME and my career is growing cos’ I work on contract with some private companies so YES! I’m doing great with no problem from a man.
     For good ten (10) months, I was so much in love with myself. It wasn’t like men ain’t coming around but I just chose to decline all advances simply because I don’t want to be any man’s victim anymore. I enjoyed attending to my hot rocking body; daily exercise (including 50 sit ups) & eating good food.
     Well, on the evening of the End of the year’s party, I had the option of going to the cinema to see “Spy” because its an action movie and I love Melissa McCarthy but I was compelled to be at the Evening’s event because its also part of the job (I’m not the partying type). I met many people at the party, mostly the staffs that works for the Telecommunications company. Amongst these people was Temitope, I mean Engr. Temitope. He’s a Civil Engineer. It was amazing at the end of the evening when I felt like I’ve known him all my life. We exchanged contacts and became pretty close. He professes his love every opportunity he has, he provides for me even without asking & would do anything to protect me. He gave me reasons to love again. Continue reading