Saying Happy New Month will be the most appropriate thing to say since this is my first post this month but we are half way gone into the month already, nonetheless, Happy New Month! 🙌 Honestly, I miss it here. I miss the adrenaline rush and excitement and this time, I’m done giving up excuses why I couldn’t write and post them in due time or execute some plans laid down for specific goals. I’m trying a new way, a new dimension and working a new realistic plan.
The purpose of planning is not to struggle around the goal, planning is to help achieve the goal and maximize resources in doing so and if in anyway the plan stops to work, you change the plan not the goal.
Well, that’s a trending phrase from a comedy skit. But, I actually do deserve some accolades. Recently, I wrote about going through ‘Writer’s block‘ and it was one of the toughest struggles have had recently. When you’re trying so hard to do what usually seems like a second nature. You search in and out of yourself and all you see is just an empty blank space. Nothing just seems to interest you or bring out that side you thought you will always have or knew so well, blahblahblah. Read Writer’s block for more on that.
Well, today is not about the ‘Writer’s block‘ cos in a way, I feel I have a hold on it now and that’s all thanks to the wisdom of taking a *Chill pill* and do other things (in my case – I read books, went to see movies at the cinema, did few shoppings, ate a lot of Pringles and chocolates and even travelled to spend some time with Family) and now I feel a lot better with a clearer head.
So, back to the accolades, earlier this week, I finished some courses I started in the beginning of the year. Trust me, online courses are not as easy as it sounds especially if you’re the type that procrastinate a lot and you have a couple of other things to do, meeting up with weekly deadlines, availability of good networks and all. I’m just so glad that against all logistics that could have made me stop mid-way, I finished those courses excellently and the best part to that is assessing the year so far and knowing I’m actually doing what I set out to do, even way faster than I thought.
One secret I discovered during the ‘Writer’s block’ is that “Celebrate you for every big and small achievement you make as you chase your dreams. Allow yourself to refresh your soul and rekindle the fire from within to move on”. With that in mind, I believe you’ve seen why I started this post with ‘I deserve some accolades! 🙌🙌 🙌’ and indeed I gave myself, got from loved ones too (my brother even got me 🍕, 🍦and paid for my movie ticket to see Rampage 2018 by Dwayne Johnson).
Truth is, there is a way you can feel less of yourself because according to your timing, you’ve not covered all you said you’d do. I challenge you to celebrate you for how far you’ve come and see how gratitude reciprocate.
And if you’re still having cold feet starting, you’ve got 8 months 1 week 4 days to be precise to still get your dreams going (That’s about enough time to conceive and have a healthy baby). 😉
I think one of the easiest thing to do as humans is to dream. It’s very normal and easy to build castles in the air and imagine yourself in that sleek black Porsche cruising the town and even helping the poor (blah blah blah) but, the honest question is, how hard are you working towards owing one or doing that dream??! In life, it’s not just enough to be a dreamer, you have to be a doer too. Who would have taught Joseph with all those beautiful dreams will be sold for slavery and even jailed before living his dream? But, truth is in those moments he was being trained for the destined post and that’s him working).
Success don’t just come knocking on your door in your sleep, uhhhhmmmmm! NO! Nor does it come beaming at you while tanning your skin by the beach side, I don’t think so. You’ve got to pick yourself off that bed and go out to work because even your talents are useless if you don’t put them to work (Remember the bible story on Talent, Matthew 25:14-28). The multiplying factor only works on the Talent put to use.
If Steve Jobs had restricted himself to just his dreams then APPLE wouldn’t have been birthed.
If that your particular favourite actor didn’t go for his/her first audition, you’d probably not see them on your screen today.
If Da Vinci didn’t paint the Mona Lisa even after getting inspired no one will behold the beauty sight.
If Ayo Makun & Kelvin Harts didn’t work hard giving appearances in shows and events no matter how funny they are, their talent is a waste.
If Thomas Edison didn’t work hard to invent Electric Light Bulb then I wonder how we’ll illuminate a dark room.
Bottom line: In REALITY you’ll work before having success, so wake up and quit dreaming to start doing. The beauty of dreaming and learning is when it all leads to action and trust me, the world needs MEN & WOMEN with dreams like yours who are ready to ACTUALIZE IT!
For over two hours, typing the first word has been so hard. Truth is, I don’t know where to start from. If you’ve ever had ‘Writer’s block‘, then you’ll understand what it is I’m going through for the past 3 weeks. Its been a serious struggle between trying to think/picking interest in something or event, stay focus, conjure the images together and write. I mean everything and everywhere just went *blank*. I’ve tried so hard to force it until I realized I was just running on a spot. I need a break!
Since I can’t write, I can as well just read so I picked a book I got December, 2017 to read, “Eat the 🍪… Buy the 👠 by Joyce Meyer” and amazingly, its just the right book for the break. I realized I’ve been so caught up in my so many activities at a time that I’ve hardly given myself enough credit by attending to my emotional needs thereby making me run dry and exhausted and overwhelmed which lead to the Block. I need a refreshing of my spirit, body and soul. Give me what me need to push on and go a little further, get things done and be inspired.
Most of the times, we see it as being wasteful or that we don’t deserve the luxury of celebrating ourselves in the process of our endeavours and would rather we give someone else than take care of our needs.
Sometimes, all we need to do to celebrate our souls, this might not even cost a dime. You could just take a long nap, go fishing, visit a spa, watch comedy and laugh healthy, go swimming, buy yourself that new pair of shoes, or the tiny silver earrings you saw the other day, buy yourself a cup of 🍦and pepperoni 🍕 and the list is endless. Its not like you get to do this everyday.
The point is, its tiring doing all these bulky stuffs all by yourself with no break and you can’t expect someone else to give you that break your being yearns for although its helpful sometimes, it doesn’t come as often as you need it nor always address the need like you’d know what you want. But, the best way is you learning how to celebrate your own progress so you have strength to begin the next one without resentment.
Now I have a better angle to deal with the block and see it as a break time where I get to refresh myself.
Leave your comments and feedback. Share your opinions too. Thanks!
Putting to practice what I’ve learnt from reading books on Mind control, Attitude, Personal transformation and Positive thinking made me further believe that truly the most powerful law of the universe is the *Law of Attraction*. Well, thanks to this quote,
“ Don’t let your learning lead to knowledge, let your learning lead to action – Jim Rohn”.
I’ve learnt both from Head and Experiential knowlegde that, You attract everything that comes into your life, whether Good or Bad; Beautiful or Ugly and these you attract by virtue of the images you hold dear in your mind. What happens on the outside responds to what your thoughts are no matter what they are. If you can master and understand the dynamics and the power of your mind then you’ll know how to channel its energy into controlling situations. As humans, there is capacity to create, therefore, allowing life to happen to you because you can’t see the best even out of the worst of times shouldn’t be our excuse out of taking responsibility for our lives, all you’ll see is your Failings not Opportunities to do things better. Mistakes not Lessons. I’ve learnt from experience that if you dwell too long in a sticky situation, you’ll never see the way forward. Water will find its level (or so they say), you just have to change your attitude towards every not-so-good time you have and let just that little ray of light illuminate that dark phase.
– Trust God.
– See the bigger picture.
– Hope by processing it in your mind.
– Activate your faith.
– Take conscious efforts by acting it out.
– Leave the Universe to align itself.
Remember, what starts the change is just that little conviction that its going to be alright. Just that little light and the darkness clouding over you will disappear.
My church has a daily devotional we run by and yesterday’s was titled *Invest in yourself*. In a way, it was a sent word that buttressed what I’ve been up to because lately I’ve been doing a lot of personal investment which mainly ain’t financial (it will one day give me that in returns tho from the knowledge and skills acquired) but the investment has been mainly adding knowledge and personal development and after seeing the devotional, I felt I’ll be doing wrong if I can’t share this gold.
Investment is the sacrifice you make today for the sake of tomorrow. Investment consciousness will make you deny yourself of certain pleasures at the present time so that your future can be better.
Most people know about financial investments such as real estate investment, stock market and retirement plans. However, there is a greater form of investment which will determine what your future will be like. This is investing in self-development (Which is a journey I’m on).
You must put enough value on yourself to the point that you are willing to spend any amount of money on your personal development, I realized that me not spending on my growth is not being frugal but it only means I don’t believe in myself enough (I don’t trust myself to multiply the seeds). There is need to convince the world that you believe enough in yourself by committing to your personal development.
Begin to consciously schedule time for your personal improvement. Do things that will develop the gifts and talents that you are endowed with. Get materials that will enhance your knowledge and wisdom. It is time to prepare for your manifestation. Every great manifestation is a product of adequate preparation. Your world is waiting for your excellent display. Give them a SHOW! 👍
Tips to Invest in your vision
– Write the vision down. Habakkuk 2:1-3
– Take the vision to the word of God. Connect it to the source. Jeremiah 29:11
I don’t know how else to explain this short quote of mine but all I’m simply saying is you’re young and full of vigour to get a lot done. This is the time of your life when there is strength to even move mountains *sarcasm*.
There is time for everything and your youthful days are meant to be a landmark for creativity that constitute to your great future. It should be Adventurous and Fun; It should be Educative and Innovative; It should be Inspiring and Challenging.
What I’m saying in short is that this is the time you can conveniently live your DREAMS. . . Don’t get your life boxed up because of your; Environment. Exposure. People’s opinions. Your Family. Your Past. Your Friends. Your Boss. The Economy. Past Results. Fear of the Unknown. . . Truth is, Success doesn’t come easily but the heart by which you do things counts a lot, the conviction of being able to do it encourages you and even when it doesn’t feel like achieving the goal is feasible, remember the motive behind starting it anyway. This quote from one of ofili’s book caught me;
“[If you are reading this]… You’re alive! That means you have infinite potential. You can do anything. If you change the world, the world will change.” – Neil Gaiman
Finally, friends, I just feel its high time we stopped restricting ourselves to boundaries set by others and start to think outside the box, in fact, we need to break out of the box and live free fulfilling purpose and working out our dreams. The only box you should find yourself should be the coffin and that’s after you’re dead, but, if you’re alive, you have more than enough potentials to make a lot of changes around here.
#JustBelieve #BeOptimistic #PutInTheEffort #NeverGiveUp
“God doesn’t show your heart to everybody. He only shows it to people He can trust with it.”
– DeVon to Meagan
Pre- The Wait
A friend (Abimbola) actually sent me the book and I was super excited when she did because prio to that, I’ve always been a big fan of Meagan Good. Apart from my love for Meagan, I’ve seen and read quite a number of interviews by the couple so I know they make a great pair and I’ve been super interested in knowing how Meagan nailed a Minister *lol*, I mean, if you’ll look from the angle of Hollywood, it’s so not the cliche, so I got the book with expectations of learning a lot. I yearned to know what they know. I delved into the book with an open mind full of expectations. The Wait
I must say this is the best Christian book I’ve read on Relationship yet (No sentiments). Meagan and DeVon definitely brought the concept of Love, Sex, Human and God home. They didn’t just tell you what to do, they explicitly explained how to do it, they discussed the part of God, where Grace works, the Human part and how to stay in it.
They were downright real, touched the depth of people’s fears on Sex and how to practice ‘The Wait’, they made their story relatable and discussed all sides to the coin. I think one of my best parts to the book is learning about celibacy from people who have had a fair share of their bad choices too. I’ve read about people who choose to be celibate where either of the couple has once been wayward and I even have a Pastor who is married to his first girlfriend and didn’t even kiss her until wedding day so the concept of celibacy is not so strange or new but when you have Hollywood stars practising it, even in the midst of the messed up celebrity lifestyles and voices and opinions, you get to sit tight and listen twice to know what they know and how they did it.
Post- The Wait
I can’t quantify how many things I learnt cos I think every sentence in the book has a message in it, but, I will talk about one particular lesson/new knowledge that stands out.
So, I figured that all along, what I’ve been doing is Abstinence not Celibacy? Yh kinda, because I know why I don’t explore my sexuality is because I’m convinced that somehow, I’m not ready for whatever emotional stress that comes with it; I’m not ready for the post-sex dramas or the ills of an unprotected sex or unwanted pregnancy(cos I won’t subscribe to abortion) and I basically like to be in charge of my life and emotions always, so, if that part of my life is the only one I still have 100% control on, its gonna be like that till I feel otherwise and apparently, I don’t feel otherwise then I entered my twenties and I concluded, I’ll just chill till marriage. . . And then, I read a book that made me realize I’ve been missing out on the main prize that comes from making God the centre of that Abstinence which makes whatever I’m doing different from Celibacy. Celibacy is abstinence with a purpose (an attached meaning because of my faith and trust in God, not for my fears, insecurities and selfish reasons) but for better submitting myself to God and his will for my life, allowing him place me at the centre of his purpose for me.
The act was the same but the difference and the root of the problem is the heart behind the act. I’ve learnt and now, I’m submitting my will to God because I can’t afford to miss out on his Original plan (can’t settle for Plan B or C or D). There is a total change of the heart behind the act. I’ll give in to the process no matter how tough it could be at first, after all, we are all a work in progress. But I’m sure I’m getting it right this time around.
Meagan and DeVon sure makes a terrific couple and the book is just as great as I envisioned, even greater. Thanks for being such a huge blessing!
Sometimes, talk is worthless and silence is gold. An old friend once told me about a mouth check formula she did which goes somewhat like this:
» Is it good and beneficial to the progress of others?
» Is it fitting to the need and occasion?
» Is it a blessing?
» Is it kind and graceful?
According to 1Peter 3:9-10 , here is the recipe for long life:
» No lying
» No deceitful, unreliable or betraying speech
» No evil or hurtful words
Ephesians 4:29 demands that your words be a gift, a balm to others and foul and offensive speech be far from your lips. There’s no tolerance for speaking out of anger, slandering, abusing, backbiting, blaspheming or quarreling. All these ain’t just restricted to your spirituality, even morally and socially it is not acceptable. It only speak ill of your personality and separate you from the will of God.
You need to always remember that You can’t take words back, its as fragile as the egg.
A wise man once said nothing. . .
Sticks and stones may break the bones but words will break the heart.
One of the lines that got to me most in Boy Meet Girl by Joshua Harris is the part where he talked about what his Dad told his brother, “God gave people two ears and one mouth because he wants us to listen twice as much as we talk”. Even the Bible tells us that a fool “delights in airing his own opinions” (Proverbs 18:2). Don’t be a fool, listen twice as much as you talk. Think twice, talk once or maybe not at all. Be quick to listen and slow to talk. We know all these things. So keep quiet.
We all are a work in progress, well, I am, even in this aspect but it also require a conscious effort to see the effect of the changes. So just SHUT UP! It won’t hurt to anyways. . . Much Love,