I don’t know how else to explain this short quote of mine but all I’m simply saying is you’re young and full of vigour to get a lot done. This is the time of your life when there is strength to even move mountains *sarcasm*.
There is time for everything and your youthful days are meant to be a landmark for creativity that constitute to your great future. It should be Adventurous and Fun; It should be Educative and Innovative; It should be Inspiring and Challenging.
What I’m saying in short is that this is the time you can conveniently live your DREAMS. . . Don’t get your life boxed up because of your; Environment. Exposure. People’s opinions. Your Family. Your Past. Your Friends. Your Boss. The Economy. Past Results. Fear of the Unknown. . . Truth is, Success doesn’t come easily but the heart by which you do things counts a lot, the conviction of being able to do it encourages you and even when it doesn’t feel like achieving the goal is feasible, remember the motive behind starting it anyway. This quote from one of ofili’s book caught me;
“[If you are reading this]… You’re alive! That means you have infinite potential. You can do anything. If you change the world, the world will change.” – Neil Gaiman
Finally, friends, I just feel its high time we stopped restricting ourselves to boundaries set by others and start to think outside the box, in fact, we need to break out of the box and live free fulfilling purpose and working out our dreams. The only box you should find yourself should be the coffin and that’s after you’re dead, but, if you’re alive, you have more than enough potentials to make a lot of changes around here.
#JustBelieve #BeOptimistic #PutInTheEffort #NeverGiveUp
“God doesn’t show your heart to everybody. He only shows it to people He can trust with it.”
– DeVon to Meagan
Pre- The Wait
A friend (Abimbola) actually sent me the book and I was super excited when she did because prio to that, I’ve always been a big fan of Meagan Good. Apart from my love for Meagan, I’ve seen and read quite a number of interviews by the couple so I know they make a great pair and I’ve been super interested in knowing how Meagan nailed a Minister *lol*, I mean, if you’ll look from the angle of Hollywood, it’s so not the cliche, so I got the book with expectations of learning a lot. I yearned to know what they know. I delved into the book with an open mind full of expectations. The Wait
I must say this is the best Christian book I’ve read on Relationship yet (No sentiments). Meagan and DeVon definitely brought the concept of Love, Sex, Human and God home. They didn’t just tell you what to do, they explicitly explained how to do it, they discussed the part of God, where Grace works, the Human part and how to stay in it.
They were downright real, touched the depth of people’s fears on Sex and how to practice ‘The Wait’, they made their story relatable and discussed all sides to the coin. I think one of my best parts to the book is learning about celibacy from people who have had a fair share of their bad choices too. I’ve read about people who choose to be celibate where either of the couple has once been wayward and I even have a Pastor who is married to his first girlfriend and didn’t even kiss her until wedding day so the concept of celibacy is not so strange or new but when you have Hollywood stars practising it, even in the midst of the messed up celebrity lifestyles and voices and opinions, you get to sit tight and listen twice to know what they know and how they did it.
Post- The Wait
I can’t quantify how many things I learnt cos I think every sentence in the book has a message in it, but, I will talk about one particular lesson/new knowledge that stands out.
So, I figured that all along, what I’ve been doing is Abstinence not Celibacy? Yh kinda, because I know why I don’t explore my sexuality is because I’m convinced that somehow, I’m not ready for whatever emotional stress that comes with it; I’m not ready for the post-sex dramas or the ills of an unprotected sex or unwanted pregnancy(cos I won’t subscribe to abortion) and I basically like to be in charge of my life and emotions always, so, if that part of my life is the only one I still have 100% control on, its gonna be like that till I feel otherwise and apparently, I don’t feel otherwise then I entered my twenties and I concluded, I’ll just chill till marriage. . . And then, I read a book that made me realize I’ve been missing out on the main prize that comes from making God the centre of that Abstinence which makes whatever I’m doing different from Celibacy. Celibacy is abstinence with a purpose (an attached meaning because of my faith and trust in God, not for my fears, insecurities and selfish reasons) but for better submitting myself to God and his will for my life, allowing him place me at the centre of his purpose for me.
The act was the same but the difference and the root of the problem is the heart behind the act. I’ve learnt and now, I’m submitting my will to God because I can’t afford to miss out on his Original plan (can’t settle for Plan B or C or D). There is a total change of the heart behind the act. I’ll give in to the process no matter how tough it could be at first, after all, we are all a work in progress. But I’m sure I’m getting it right this time around.
Meagan and DeVon sure makes a terrific couple and the book is just as great as I envisioned, even greater. Thanks for being such a huge blessing!
Sometimes, talk is worthless and silence is gold. An old friend once told me about a mouth check formula she did which goes somewhat like this:
» Is it good and beneficial to the progress of others?
» Is it fitting to the need and occasion?
» Is it a blessing?
» Is it kind and graceful?
According to 1Peter 3:9-10 , here is the recipe for long life:
» No lying
» No deceitful, unreliable or betraying speech
» No evil or hurtful words
Ephesians 4:29 demands that your words be a gift, a balm to others and foul and offensive speech be far from your lips. There’s no tolerance for speaking out of anger, slandering, abusing, backbiting, blaspheming or quarreling. All these ain’t just restricted to your spirituality, even morally and socially it is not acceptable. It only speak ill of your personality and separate you from the will of God.
You need to always remember that You can’t take words back, its as fragile as the egg.
A wise man once said nothing. . .
Sticks and stones may break the bones but words will break the heart.
One of the lines that got to me most in Boy Meet Girl by Joshua Harris is the part where he talked about what his Dad told his brother, “God gave people two ears and one mouth because he wants us to listen twice as much as we talk”. Even the Bible tells us that a fool “delights in airing his own opinions” (Proverbs 18:2). Don’t be a fool, listen twice as much as you talk. Think twice, talk once or maybe not at all. Be quick to listen and slow to talk. We know all these things. So keep quiet.
We all are a work in progress, well, I am, even in this aspect but it also require a conscious effort to see the effect of the changes. So just SHUT UP! It won’t hurt to anyways. . . Much Love,
This ain’t just about church attendance or some little prayers or the daily verses you supposedly meditate on.
Over the years, I’ve come to see God as my father and I’ve never been so CONVINCE about any other fact like this.
I see us in a Father-Daughter relationship where I’m the apple of his eyes (that precious daughter nothing must do). He’s committed to me his girl and I to him as a well trained child. He has some duties and obligations towards me, his beautiful daughter and I have some duties and obligations towards Him too.
It’s a strong family ties where we go through every ups and down together. When we have cold arguments on my choices due to youthful exuberance and sometimes full blown fights. He provides for all my needs, teaches me everything, protects me, listens to me when I need to talk, comforts me during hard times, reprove me when I’m wrong and fight for me if need be. I have an obligation to honor and obey and serve with the time, strength and
resources He has given me.
It makes much sense to me when I know i have a supernatural father who has my best interests in heart and will stick out His neck for me till the very end. His words reminds me everyday of how loving a father he is and I feel the realness through the manifestation of his promises in my life. Even if I go astray like the lost sheep or act like the prodigal son, he won’t rest until I’m found and will always welcome me back with a stronger bond between us.
Relationship is like a blank canvas. No matter the people we are, no matter the past and no matter the stumbling blocks, we get a fresh white blank canvas and we have tons of water color and we choose what to put on that
canvas. You need to learn to make good use of your canvas. Relationships will always be difficult whether it is marital or friendship or family and most times We stay in relationships by choice; not because they’re convenient. We just decide to move past the betrayals and pains and hurts and hardships till we can’t anymore.
Trust me the friends you keep at this age will likely be the ones you’ll be stuck with for the rest of your life. You can never undermine the effect of friendship especially if you keep the right ones (Lately, I’ve been feeling blessed for the awesome friends I’ve met along the way that has helped shapen me to the woman I’m becoming). These are the kind of friends you even see as family because they’re who you see in all kinds of time. When things are right and when all goes wrong. They give you straight talks. They support you. They pray with you. They believe in your dreams. They comfort you. They argue with you. They push you to your limits. They annoy you. They protect you. . . The list is endless!
If you need to dump some junks, please do and move on. But you’ll definitely have some friends that are the real deal. It’s not always going to be smooth and sometimes they feel like a stone round your neck and they grate on your nerves but really, they contribute to lifetime memories that will grace your biography.
Appreciate the good friends in your life and be creative with your blank canvas!
I’ve lost track on how many times I’ve been told that I’m too principled or uptight; I need to loosen up; was even told at a point that I’m proud. . . Well, as far as I’m concern, what’s bad in a little dose of pride. All I know is I setRULESthat I ensure I maintain and if I can do that then no one is allowed to defile it.
Trust me, you don’t have to be in a relationship where you are being asked what you can’t give. You don’t create rules to cage yourself. NO! You create it for your freedom.
Sex is not a tool nor the key nor evidence for the test of love. It is a covenant. Using and abusing sex cheapens the originality of God’s plan. Just because you can work around the details of right and wrong and twist God’s word to suit you doesn’t make it spiritually appropriate.
When you start to find excuses in and out of God’s word to suit your intentions, you’re a slave to your whims, to your flesh. And the worst part is feeling unclean & not worthy afterwards when you know you can actually avoid feeling that way.
Good news: You can be undefiled. When it is practiced as God intends, spirituality and sexuality both draws us closer to God. There is hope because Spiritual maturity and sexual maturity go hand-in-hand, and together they hold out the promise of redemption and restoration needed by everyone who has been damaged by sexual sin.
When its all said and done, we all know what we are doing wrong but the most common challenge is how to do it right. You only need to make a conscious effort, pray, read books(including bible), stop whatever pollute your soul. . . It is feasible, trust me!
Rules are good. Fences (not walls) are good.
Confines, sometimes, are safe.
Hi guys, trust 2018 has been awesome? This is like the official first post for the new year and I figured we should set things right.
Even with our plans, goals, to-dos, positive vibes and the whole preparation we have for the year, we need to remember that through it all, God is set to put us through. I came to realize that If my sufficiency is from God and God is unlimited, then I have unlimited resources available to me, therefore, once I got that settled actualizing the dreams or attaining the goals is way easier for me, even when it won’t look or play out as expected, I know God got me covered and with this settled, the year can begin. Just trust God and His amazing processes, He hasn’t failed and have NO intentions to.
“While the resources in your hand are not sufficient; I am your Sufficiency.”
Once again have an amazing, fulfilling and Prosperous 2018!
I suddenly realize that I don’t have time (note; Not that I’m so old to get things done but then, I’m also not too young to have a lot done). You don’t either. There is nothing like being too young. I started writing around age 10 and now I wish I had believe in my writing and my stories and my voice earlier. I kind of wish I had gone into a relationship earlier (maybe?). I wish I had started saving earlier. I wish I had nurtured my entrepreneurship spirit earlier. I wish I had dropped some friends earlier. I wish I had been proactive about a lot of things.
Going forward, I’m not going to capture a caterpillar in a jar and keep a butterfly hostage.
I’m truly living and going for what I believe in and my dreams. No more startup excuses, No fears, No inhibitions.
Everyday looks mundane and the same and nothing changes yet when you look back, everything has changed. Truth is, sometimes, we get lost while searching for ourselves and we sometimes feel like we don’t have it together (Real life-scary feelings). You will not always have it all figured out and everything won’t always go as planned. Instead of toiling so hard, stressing about the future, while not focus on what you have at hand. That particular thing you’re skilled with today, do it right. Stop wasting so much time thinking you are saving it for the future.
The future is now. Live like you don’t have time. Because you don’t.
The boldness and strength to break boundaries is one lesson I’ve learnt over the years.I’m quite optimistic and I don’t believe there is anything too hard or much for me to do. I believe I can do just whatever I put my mind to. I’ve learnt not to be myopic about things, I just pray for directions, seek advice, ask myself if that’s what I really want and give it my best shot. Success doesn’t come easily but the heart by which you do things counts a lot, the conviction of being able to do it encourages you and even when it doesn’t feel like achieving the goal is feasible I only remember the motive behind starting it anyway. This quote from one of ofili’s book caught me;
“[If you are reading this]… You’re alive! That means you have infinite potential. You can do anything. If you change the world, the world will change.” – Neil Gaiman
The road won’t always be smooth, you’d sometimes worry if you actually know what you’re doing, nothing will look in place for some days, giving up will look like the only option left. Yes, Sometimes you’ll feel you’ve reached the dead end and no more cards to play up your sleeves but trust me;
“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over it became a butterfly.” – Anonymous
A happy man is the man who does not depend or have high expectations from men cos he won’t be heart broken from disappointment (strictly my quote). Well, not really a quote but I guess its what I’ve come up with over years of learning not to put my trust in men but in the never failing supreme being who love me enough to sacrifice and provide for all my needs long before I was conceived.
Yeah, I have friends and family members around me who cares, in fact my MUM is a great woman that combines the role of the father & mother (story for another day) and can do anything for me but sometimes fall under the spell of the human nature, awesome siblings that priotizes my needs, terrific friends we could stick our necks out on blade for eachother. . . But then, In the area of trust I’ve grown to depend on God, whether things are good or not, downright ugly or beautiful, I truly know that God is my source, my sole source. Whether it is financial, or emotional or health wise or my academics or my writing or my business, I’ve come to trust God true and through. My resolution is to step back and let God take over even in the simplest things, like who’s going to give me a free ride to my destination or who’s recharging my cellphone.
I’m not testing God’s ability to, I’m testing my trust in His ability – Ayotola