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Wake Up — March 19, 2018

Wake Up

Wake up from dreaming and live your dreams out! Your 🌎 needs the actualization of that dream.
I think one of the easiest thing to do as humans is to dream. It’s very normal and easy to build castles in the air and imagine yourself in that sleek black Porsche cruising the town and even helping the poor (blah blah blah) but, the honest question is, how hard are you working towards owing one or doing that dream??! In life, it’s not just enough to be a dreamer, you have to be a doer too. Who would have taught Joseph with all those beautiful dreams will be sold for slavery and even jailed before living his dream? But, truth is in those moments he was being trained for the destined post and that’s him working).

Success don’t just come knocking on your door in your sleep, uhhhhmmmmm! NO! Nor does it come beaming at you while tanning your skin by the beach side, I don’t think so. You’ve got to pick yourself off that bed and go out to work because even your talents are useless if you don’t put them to work (Remember the bible story on Talent, Matthew 25:14-28). The multiplying factor only works on the Talent put to use.

If Steve Jobs had restricted himself to just his dreams then APPLE wouldn’t have been birthed.


If that your particular favourite actor didn’t go for his/her first audition, you’d probably not see them on your screen today.


If Da Vinci didn’t paint the Mona Lisa even after getting inspired no one will behold the beauty sight.


If Ayo Makun  & Kelvin Harts didn’t work hard giving appearances in shows and events no matter how funny they are, their talent is a waste.


If Thomas Edison didn’t work hard to invent Electric Light Bulb then I wonder how we’ll illuminate a dark room.

Bottom line: In REALITY you’ll work before having success, so wake up and quit dreaming to start doing. The beauty of dreaming and learning is when it all leads to action and trust me, the world needs MEN & WOMEN with dreams like yours who are ready to ACTUALIZE IT!

#DreamItLiveIt! 💪✌
Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

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Writer’s Block — March 13, 2018

Writer’s Block

Celebrate you for every big and small achievement you make as you chase your dreams. Allow yourself to refresh your soul and rekindle the fire from within to move on.

For over two hours, typing the first word has been so hard. Truth is, I don’t know where to start from. If you’ve ever had ‘Writer’s block‘, then you’ll understand what it is I’m going through for the past 3 weeks. Its been a serious struggle between trying to think/picking interest in something or event, stay focus, conjure the images together and write. I mean everything and everywhere just went *blank*. I’ve tried so hard to force it until I realized I was just running on a spot. I need a break!

Since I can’t write, I can as well just read so I picked a book I got December, 2017 to read, “Eat the 🍪… Buy the 👠 by Joyce Meyer” and amazingly, its just the right book for the break. I realized I’ve been so caught up in my so many activities at a time that I’ve hardly given myself enough credit by attending to my emotional needs thereby making me run dry and exhausted and overwhelmed which lead to the Block. I need a refreshing of my spirit, body and soul. Give me what me need to push on and go a little further, get things done and be inspired.

Most of the times, we see it as being wasteful or that we don’t deserve the luxury of celebrating ourselves in the process of our endeavours and would rather we give someone else than take care of our needs.

Sometimes, all we need to do to celebrate our souls, this might not even cost a dime. You could just take a long nap, go fishing, visit a spa, watch comedy and laugh healthy, go swimming, buy yourself that new pair of shoes, or the tiny silver earrings you saw the other day, buy yourself a cup of 🍦and pepperoni 🍕 and the list is endless. Its not like you get to do this everyday.

The point is, its tiring doing all these bulky stuffs all by yourself with no break and you can’t expect someone else to give you that break your being yearns for although its helpful sometimes, it doesn’t come as often as you need it nor always address the need like you’d know what you want. But, the best way is you learning how to celebrate your own progress so you have strength to begin the next one without resentment.

Now I have a better angle to deal with the block and see it as a break time where I get to refresh myself.

Leave your comments and feedback. Share your opinions too. Thanks!

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

On Life’s Journey — February 10, 2018

On Life’s Journey

Strictly my quote 😉
Recently, I had to relocate from home to my place of National service and this involved a lot of packing. My brother (he did most of my packing tho, thanks again!) had to pack some things separately to dispose off because I’ll never need them, they are junks I’ve kept over the years (partially because I just hate to loose things, even the ones I don’t need). They would have been extra load, taking extra space, consuming extra energy.

This recent episode further buttressed one of the lessons growth has been teaching me that to achieve so much in life; You need to cut a lot of habits off. Lay off some friendships. Freeze some unhealthy lifestyle. Let go of some harsh words said to you. Break off a bad relationship. Surround yourself with only people who believe in you. Repel from every negativity clouding you. Deal only with positivities and the necessities. Simply because, with too much junks here and there you won’t be able to get a lot of things done in time and effectively. The so much baggage tends to weigh you down, limits how far you can go and how fast you’ll get there. I’m sure you don’t want to live life getting dragged down by all these, free some space in your life and enjoy the journey.

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

​Not Too Early — February 2, 2018

​Not Too Early

This is not me being overly romantic when I say it’s not early to start preparing for marriage and kids irrespective of the gender. Just out of no where I suddenly realize how much I enjoy Parenting (all thanks to my kid sister who I’m 17years older than by the way). She made me see motherhood in a whole different amazing ways.
I practically skip shelves with relationship books when I go to bookshops cos it doesn’t really look like a big deal kinda to me *shrugs*, so, I usually end up buying books on Christianity, leadership, attitude and business most times, neglecting that one important part of life RELATIONSHIP.

But amongst the growth process being 20-something has done to me is realizing the need to balance up. The need to buy and read good books on relationships and marriage and family that is supposed to last a lifetime or click on that blog link or go for that conference. If you are like I used to be trust me there is so much you don’t know (Hollywood alone is never going to provide the best guide, sometimes you need to look closely at the people around and sometimes you sure have to pay a price to learn too). Even those who are years deep in marriages say the same.

I’m not a pathetic feminist that doesn’t yearn for marriage. I believe my kids deserve to have better parents than I did, even if mine were the best. Your marriage deserves to be happy and sexy and long lasting. You deserve a lifetime of strong bonds with the people who share blood and life and ups and downs with you.

But, you can’t just expect you’ll wake up one day to be that better parent you want to be to your kids. You’ve got to prepare for it now. We should crave to be a better generation when it comes to parenting especially for people who knows how it feels to be a product of a bad (sour) marriage, it can be frustrating, painful & scary. I’m sure you don’t want your kids near that spot. We are in the age where information is easy to get. Go online and download articles. Check blogs on relationship. Read books. Ask questions. Go for seminars. Learn from others, not by making your own mistakes too.

You don’t run from your past and avoid repeating mistakes by running from them. 

You resolve issues by facing them head on and gathering the wealth of information that was not available before. I got a book by Gary Chapman, “THINGS I WISH I’D KNOWN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED” (you should lay your hands on that book too) for my 21st birthday gift and that launched me into reading many more books related. In fact, it was like my January was tagged for Relationship because of the books I read. 

I pray for my future family already. I pray for the little humans in my body waiting for growth. I sow seeds for them in advance. I love twins and I already have awesome names for them. I have specific names for my beautiful girl and handsome boy and I can’t explain the excitement from just the thought of it. I build walls around them with the words and promises of God.

It’s not too early for you too, nor too late.

Happy New Month!
Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Not Too Young/Old — December 23, 2017

Not Too Young/Old

I suddenly realize that I don’t have time (note; Not that I’m so old to get things done but then, I’m also not too young to have a lot done). You don’t either. There is nothing like being too young. I started writing around age 10 and now I wish I had believe in my writing and my stories and my voice earlier. I kind of wish I had gone into a relationship earlier (maybe?). I wish I had started saving earlier. I wish I had nurtured my entrepreneurship spirit earlier. I wish I had dropped some friends earlier. I wish I had been proactive about a lot of things.

Going forward, I’m not going to capture a caterpillar in a jar and keep a butterfly hostage.

I’m truly living and going for what I believe in and my dreams. No more startup excuses, No fears, No inhibitions.

Everyday looks mundane and the same and nothing changes yet when you look back, everything has changed. Truth is, sometimes, we get lost while searching for ourselves and we sometimes feel like we don’t have it together (Real life-scary feelings). You will not always have it all figured out and everything won’t always go as planned. Instead of toiling so hard, stressing about the future, while not focus on what you have at hand. That particular thing you’re skilled with today, do it right. Stop wasting so much time thinking you are saving it for the future. 

The future is now. Live like you don’t have time. Because you don’t.

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

TRUST — December 14, 2017

TRUST

A happy man is the man who does not depend or have high expectations from men cos he won’t be heart broken from disappointment (strictly my quote). Well, not really a quote but I guess its what I’ve come up with over years of learning not to put my trust in men but in the never failing supreme being who love me enough to sacrifice and provide for all my needs long before I was conceived.

Yeah, I have friends and family members around me who cares, in fact my MUM is a great woman that combines the role of the father & mother (story for another day) and can do anything for me but sometimes fall under the spell of the human nature, awesome siblings that priotizes my needs, terrific friends we could stick our necks out on blade for eachother. . . But then, In the area of trust I’ve grown to depend on God, whether things are good or not, downright ugly or beautiful, I truly know that God is my source, my sole source. Whether it is financial, or emotional or health wise or my academics or my writing or my business, I’ve come to trust God true and through.
My resolution is to step back and let God take over even in the simplest things, like who’s going to give me a free ride to my destination or who’s recharging my cellphone.


I’m not testing God’s ability to, I’m testing my trust in His ability – Ayotola

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi


WRITE IT DOWN — December 6, 2017

WRITE IT DOWN

If there  is one lesson I’ve learnt over the years, it is keeping track of the happenings around me by penning them down and this has helped me gone a long way. I have the habit of reading my journal when I’m idle or less busy thereby measuring my past thoughts and actions. I discovered that Writing it down, whatever it is: reminds you, keeps you accountable, heals you and measures your growth. I’ve learnt to write that business strategy to apply, that WORD for my life from God, that gift given to me, that advice, that thing I need to do, that place I need  to go, that thing I need to buy, that habit I need to drop and steps I need to take to get over it, etc… In fact, I keep a personal 🏆 cup (I’ll explain better sometimes in the future), where I keep short notes of almost every good happenings in my life and reminisces on them when I need remembrance of God’s love in my life.

Write it down. Just write it and keep it. You will forget, I promise. 

The shortest pencil is longer than the smartest memory or so the quote goes.

Since this is my first post this month, Happy New Month! Xmas is around the corner! 🙌

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Loving Me — November 29, 2017

Loving Me

Love yourself enough to rock your choices and decisions!

Sometimes you just have to let go or walk out of some things or situations and these I’ve been known to do lately and I honestly understand why my loved ones couldn’t wrap their head around it but I’ve learnt to say my ‘Yes‘ or ‘No‘ and rock it cos’ I mean it.

People will talk especially loved ones and most times some decisions are not easy to explain but I’ve learnt to respect the fact that People won’t shut up. The ones that love you the most might even be the loudest voices.

Listen to people and stuff but make sure you’re not auditioning for the okay of humans.

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Do It Anyway — October 3, 2017

Do It Anyway

Drop your fears and be limitless!

I once read a quote by Nelson Mandela that says;

“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”

Fear should never stop you…

If I wait to stop being afraid, then I just might never do it. Inhale. Do it. Exhale. Do it. Wet sticky palms, shaky feet: do it anyway.

Much Love 💘,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

THE SHOW MUST GO ON — September 28, 2017

THE SHOW MUST GO ON

Giving up is not an option, you’ve gotta finish what you started… This show ain’t over until you earn the prize!

That a dancer falls mid-performance doesn’t change nada. That a model twists her ankle on the runway makes for more drama.
In Summary: the show must go on.



Things will always crop up in life. Circumstances will change and almost nothing will go as planned. Sorrow and tragedy will knock and sometimes you will fall flat on your face. Your past mistakes will hunt you and the future turns into a beast hounding you down at night. Amongst all these, the show must go on. You can’t afford to give up by losing hope. You can’t let your life and future be determined by your environment. You can’t judge yourself based on what people say. You can’t lose it because of your skin color. You can’t shy away because you’ve been made to feel you don’t have what it takes. You can’t just let it all go just because you ain’t getting it right yet. You must keep hoping and trying. You can’t just stop when you’re tired except you’re done. When you’re going through hell, you need to keep moving because hell ain’t your bus-stop. You have to believe in yourself and see to the end of it. Persevere. Be persistent in achieving the impossible. Face your fears, Don’t give up. Don’t end your life being a mediocrist, in fact, nothing feels better than proving someone who tried to put you down for what you wanted wrong. I see myself as GOLD most times, whenever the road is rough, I remind myself that the gold must pass through a hot furnace before its beauty can be seen. I’m a WILDFLOWER that will thrive no matter the condition of the desert.
Get up. Dust your pants. Pick your baton. Get back on track.


You have to fight some of the bad days to earn some of the best days of your life 

(strictly my quote).



Trust it was a great read. Thought I should share this editted excerpt from the original post 21 Lessons @21, check for other lessons.
Much Love 💘,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi