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On Life’s Journey — February 10, 2018

On Life’s Journey

Strictly my quote 😉
Recently, I had to relocate from home to my place of National service and this involved a lot of packing. My brother (he did most of my packing tho, thanks again!) had to pack some things separately to dispose off because I’ll never need them, they are junks I’ve kept over the years (partially because I just hate to loose things, even the ones I don’t need). They would have been extra load, taking extra space, consuming extra energy.

This recent episode further buttressed one of the lessons growth has been teaching me that to achieve so much in life; You need to cut a lot of habits off. Lay off some friendships. Freeze some unhealthy lifestyle. Let go of some harsh words said to you. Break off a bad relationship. Surround yourself with only people who believe in you. Repel from every negativity clouding you. Deal only with positivities and the necessities. Simply because, with too much junks here and there you won’t be able to get a lot of things done in time and effectively. The so much baggage tends to weigh you down, limits how far you can go and how fast you’ll get there. I’m sure you don’t want to live life getting dragged down by all these, free some space in your life and enjoy the journey.

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

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​Not Too Early — February 2, 2018

​Not Too Early

This is not me being overly romantic when I say it’s not early to start preparing for marriage and kids irrespective of the gender. Just out of no where I suddenly realize how much I enjoy Parenting (all thanks to my kid sister who I’m 17years older than by the way). She made me see motherhood in a whole different amazing ways.
I practically skip shelves with relationship books when I go to bookshops cos it doesn’t really look like a big deal kinda to me *shrugs*, so, I usually end up buying books on Christianity, leadership, attitude and business most times, neglecting that one important part of life RELATIONSHIP.

But amongst the growth process being 20-something has done to me is realizing the need to balance up. The need to buy and read good books on relationships and marriage and family that is supposed to last a lifetime or click on that blog link or go for that conference. If you are like I used to be trust me there is so much you don’t know (Hollywood alone is never going to provide the best guide, sometimes you need to look closely at the people around and sometimes you sure have to pay a price to learn too). Even those who are years deep in marriages say the same.

I’m not a pathetic feminist that doesn’t yearn for marriage. I believe my kids deserve to have better parents than I did, even if mine were the best. Your marriage deserves to be happy and sexy and long lasting. You deserve a lifetime of strong bonds with the people who share blood and life and ups and downs with you.

But, you can’t just expect you’ll wake up one day to be that better parent you want to be to your kids. You’ve got to prepare for it now. We should crave to be a better generation when it comes to parenting especially for people who knows how it feels to be a product of a bad (sour) marriage, it can be frustrating, painful & scary. I’m sure you don’t want your kids near that spot. We are in the age where information is easy to get. Go online and download articles. Check blogs on relationship. Read books. Ask questions. Go for seminars. Learn from others, not by making your own mistakes too.

You don’t run from your past and avoid repeating mistakes by running from them. 

You resolve issues by facing them head on and gathering the wealth of information that was not available before. I got a book by Gary Chapman, “THINGS I WISH I’D KNOWN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED” (you should lay your hands on that book too) for my 21st birthday gift and that launched me into reading many more books related. In fact, it was like my January was tagged for Relationship because of the books I read. 

I pray for my future family already. I pray for the little humans in my body waiting for growth. I sow seeds for them in advance. I love twins and I already have awesome names for them. I have specific names for my beautiful girl and handsome boy and I can’t explain the excitement from just the thought of it. I build walls around them with the words and promises of God.

It’s not too early for you too, nor too late.

Happy New Month!
Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Not Too Young/Old — December 23, 2017

Not Too Young/Old

I suddenly realize that I don’t have time (note; Not that I’m so old to get things done but then, I’m also not too young to have a lot done). You don’t either. There is nothing like being too young. I started writing around age 10 and now I wish I had believe in my writing and my stories and my voice earlier. I kind of wish I had gone into a relationship earlier (maybe?). I wish I had started saving earlier. I wish I had nurtured my entrepreneurship spirit earlier. I wish I had dropped some friends earlier. I wish I had been proactive about a lot of things.

Going forward, I’m not going to capture a caterpillar in a jar and keep a butterfly hostage.

I’m truly living and going for what I believe in and my dreams. No more startup excuses, No fears, No inhibitions.

Everyday looks mundane and the same and nothing changes yet when you look back, everything has changed. Truth is, sometimes, we get lost while searching for ourselves and we sometimes feel like we don’t have it together (Real life-scary feelings). You will not always have it all figured out and everything won’t always go as planned. Instead of toiling so hard, stressing about the future, while not focus on what you have at hand. That particular thing you’re skilled with today, do it right. Stop wasting so much time thinking you are saving it for the future. 

The future is now. Live like you don’t have time. Because you don’t.

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

TRUST — December 14, 2017

TRUST

A happy man is the man who does not depend or have high expectations from men cos he won’t be heart broken from disappointment (strictly my quote). Well, not really a quote but I guess its what I’ve come up with over years of learning not to put my trust in men but in the never failing supreme being who love me enough to sacrifice and provide for all my needs long before I was conceived.

Yeah, I have friends and family members around me who cares, in fact my MUM is a great woman that combines the role of the father & mother (story for another day) and can do anything for me but sometimes fall under the spell of the human nature, awesome siblings that priotizes my needs, terrific friends we could stick our necks out on blade for eachother. . . But then, In the area of trust I’ve grown to depend on God, whether things are good or not, downright ugly or beautiful, I truly know that God is my source, my sole source. Whether it is financial, or emotional or health wise or my academics or my writing or my business, I’ve come to trust God true and through.
My resolution is to step back and let God take over even in the simplest things, like who’s going to give me a free ride to my destination or who’s recharging my cellphone.


I’m not testing God’s ability to, I’m testing my trust in His ability – Ayotola

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi


WRITE IT DOWN — December 6, 2017

WRITE IT DOWN

If there  is one lesson I’ve learnt over the years, it is keeping track of the happenings around me by penning them down and this has helped me gone a long way. I have the habit of reading my journal when I’m idle or less busy thereby measuring my past thoughts and actions. I discovered that Writing it down, whatever it is: reminds you, keeps you accountable, heals you and measures your growth. I’ve learnt to write that business strategy to apply, that WORD for my life from God, that gift given to me, that advice, that thing I need to do, that place I need  to go, that thing I need to buy, that habit I need to drop and steps I need to take to get over it, etc… In fact, I keep a personal 🏆 cup (I’ll explain better sometimes in the future), where I keep short notes of almost every good happenings in my life and reminisces on them when I need remembrance of God’s love in my life.

Write it down. Just write it and keep it. You will forget, I promise. 

The shortest pencil is longer than the smartest memory or so the quote goes.

Since this is my first post this month, Happy New Month! Xmas is around the corner! 🙌

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Loving Me — November 29, 2017

Loving Me

Love yourself enough to rock your choices and decisions!

Sometimes you just have to let go or walk out of some things or situations and these I’ve been known to do lately and I honestly understand why my loved ones couldn’t wrap their head around it but I’ve learnt to say my ‘Yes‘ or ‘No‘ and rock it cos’ I mean it.

People will talk especially loved ones and most times some decisions are not easy to explain but I’ve learnt to respect the fact that People won’t shut up. The ones that love you the most might even be the loudest voices.

Listen to people and stuff but make sure you’re not auditioning for the okay of humans.

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Do It Anyway — October 3, 2017

Do It Anyway

Drop your fears and be limitless!

I once read a quote by Nelson Mandela that says;

“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”

Fear should never stop you…

If I wait to stop being afraid, then I just might never do it. Inhale. Do it. Exhale. Do it. Wet sticky palms, shaky feet: do it anyway.

Much Love 💘,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

THE SHOW MUST GO ON — September 28, 2017

THE SHOW MUST GO ON

Giving up is not an option, you’ve gotta finish what you started… This show ain’t over until you earn the prize!

That a dancer falls mid-performance doesn’t change nada. That a model twists her ankle on the runway makes for more drama.
In Summary: the show must go on.



Things will always crop up in life. Circumstances will change and almost nothing will go as planned. Sorrow and tragedy will knock and sometimes you will fall flat on your face. Your past mistakes will hunt you and the future turns into a beast hounding you down at night. Amongst all these, the show must go on. You can’t afford to give up by losing hope. You can’t let your life and future be determined by your environment. You can’t judge yourself based on what people say. You can’t lose it because of your skin color. You can’t shy away because you’ve been made to feel you don’t have what it takes. You can’t just let it all go just because you ain’t getting it right yet. You must keep hoping and trying. You can’t just stop when you’re tired except you’re done. When you’re going through hell, you need to keep moving because hell ain’t your bus-stop. You have to believe in yourself and see to the end of it. Persevere. Be persistent in achieving the impossible. Face your fears, Don’t give up. Don’t end your life being a mediocrist, in fact, nothing feels better than proving someone who tried to put you down for what you wanted wrong. I see myself as GOLD most times, whenever the road is rough, I remind myself that the gold must pass through a hot furnace before its beauty can be seen. I’m a WILDFLOWER that will thrive no matter the condition of the desert.
Get up. Dust your pants. Pick your baton. Get back on track.


You have to fight some of the bad days to earn some of the best days of your life 

(strictly my quote).



Trust it was a great read. Thought I should share this editted excerpt from the original post 21 Lessons @21, check for other lessons.
Much Love 💘,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Purpose and Relationship — September 20, 2017

Purpose and Relationship

Purpose is in seed form and just as the seed requires the right environment to flourish, so does the seed of purpose in you require the right environment. Keep around you people that will stretch the limits of your thinking and inspire you to rise higher.
Note: Avoid toxic people at all costs!

Much Love 💘,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Revisiting The Child In You ii — September 18, 2017

Revisiting The Child In You ii

We’ve all got at least one

Usually people worry a lot about why they are not making progress in life thereby choking their ability to allow their potentials find expression. People worry if they’ll get things right; If their purpose can afford them the lifestyle they desire and they end up working for a living with no joy of living. Working in purpose makes life look like a playground. You just enjoy what you’re doing without worries. You take limits off of your ability and there is motivation to push further.
Truth is, I’m on the path of discovery too and along this way, I’ve decided not to put limits on the dreams I’ve conceived and I’m sure I’m on the right path because I’ve read, see and talk to people who living a purposeful life has worked/is working for. 

You’ll always enjoy doing what you’re passionate about.

The principle is as simple as doing that one thing you enjoy, gives you peace, completes you but you’ve been having cold-feet starting or resuming to do. Go back to your canvass and bring those imaginations to life. Go to your early days and sort through the crumbs of your childhood dreams. Revisit the child in you and dream again (I’m sure you will be amazed by what you’ll find). Take the brakes off of your mind. Neglect thoughts of whether the dreams are achievable or realistic (It’s all in the head), Read – Quote-Restrictions. Let your thoughts blossom to the fullness of what could be of your life and you’ll be surprised to find these activities are within your comfort zone, don’t relax in your zone but stretch… Break the barriers of your mind and start living out your dreams.

An Exercise;

“If there were no limitations and failure, what would you dare to do? Where would your imagination take you?”

Much Love 💘,

Oluwafunmibi  Fayemi