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Life should be lived like you mean it without limits. . .

Girlfriends ❤ — June 19, 2018

Girlfriends ❤

Before you continue reading this post, I should let you know it has nothing to do with Self-righteousness. Thanks!
While studying in my room this evening, I hBefore you continue reading this post, I should let you know it has nothing to do with Self-righteousness. Thanks!
While studying in my room this evening, I had a stray thought to one of my girlfriends and then I thought of every other ones and then I built on the thoughts further and felt so grateful to God for gifting me with such relationships. And then I further thought of the person I might have been if I’ve had a different set of ladies in my life (I’m pretty sure I won’t have this blog nor will you be reading this). My stray thoughts made me realize I am who I am today partly because of the people in my inner circle and honestly, I see it as a favour from God.
Sometimes, when people (especially men) talk about women (like a conversation I had with some bunch over the weekend), I usually ask them, “where do you go to for you to meet these women you’re so bitter about?“. I mean, I get it that there are lots of women out there that justifies these wrong notions about the feminine gender. Women who abuses their spouses both verbally and physically, women who cheat, women who are deep into crimes, and the list is endless (at least my recent contacts and exposures had made me seen things more clearly). But in the midst of these, there are still some good women who are all about the good stuffs (nobody is entirely perfect but some are really putting in the effort to be a better version of themselves).
I have a friend who recently got married as a virgin (hello, nobody says you’re not entitled to marriage cos you’re deflowered or virginity is a criteria for a good home nor does it cover for character flaws), but the point is, it’s worth celebrating (this is 21st century where sexuality is being exploited more negatively) so, if there’s a girl still vintage about it, I believe she should be applauded.
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Hello Saturday, — June 16, 2018

Hello Saturday,

“Live by Decision, not Emotion.”

Honestly, you’ll never feel like doing a lot of things. Its just better we stop deceiving ourselves by trying to wait for that moment we’ll “feel” like doing a thing to do it. I remember drafting this post since Wednesday and if I’m to be honest with myself, I didn’t feel like posting it immediately because I kept giving myself reasons why I shouldn’t yet (especially my media upload that keeps failing) and kept on promising myself, I’ll do it later and the later comes and I’ll pick another later. I woke up earlier today to get rid of that “Later Syndrome” only to find out my media upload is not yet functioning, which has been like that since I got the domain name (hiccups you face when a layman tries to design her blog herself – it’s been fun and educative for me tho). So, yet, another reason to postpone the post. But, Hell-No, not today! I tried to install a couple of Plugins for media upload and none seems to work so I finally concluded that I’ll just keep posting without media till I get help or have it all figured out by a developer (so, now you know why there is no picture story).

Activity is exactly like a light switch, you only ignite it when you flip the switch despite the fact that there is power in it all the time. There is always the ability to be active, but no energy flows until you actually get moving.Continue reading.

@24 II — June 9, 2018

@24 II

So, in my last post, I started a discussion on my 24th lesson and I labeled it “Be Purposeful“. I talked briefly about purpose and gave some ideas on some things to be proactive about in order to live our desired purposeful lives. Like I said in my previous posts, these points are not listed in order of importance, I write them as they come to mind, they are all important and I’ll try to wrap it all up in this post.
4. Practice
Living purposefully focuses on growth and improvement. You have to keep moving forward to achieve this. Naturally, you experience fear of failure, but, when you are living purposefully, you come to understand that you learn from every result. You accept full responsibility for the results you achieve. You breathe life into your craft when you practice it everyday as a lifestyle and not just a job. It could be a physical, mental, or spiritual practice, and it could be all three, but, practice defines our life and what our purpose is for living.
What differentiates a life of fulfillment and that of discontentment ultimately comes down to our intention to practice growth every day. We see beyond the limitations presented by our mind or body. We make decisions because we know what we want from life and keep at it.
5. Work With Your Standard
When you’re purposeful, you know who you are, your purpose, your values, your goals. You dedicate your life to pursue these and when making tough decisions comes up, you are not under pressure. You have standards set for yourself and act in accordance with your values. You seek supportive collaborative relationships aimed at achieving mutual benefits, you don’t have need for competition, comparison or jealousy. Your standard includes continuous growth, you constantly develop new knowledge and skills which can be of use to serve others while you work on achieving your personal goals and objectives. And you see the beauty in life, you appreciate every moment. . . Continue reading.

GrownUp Decisions — May 30, 2018

GrownUp Decisions

Some Grown-up Look huh! 🙈👌

Earlier last week, I had a conversation with one of my girlfriends and it was about how she’s having a hard time making some real grownup decisions. How she’s not so sure about what to do or how to act. What to say. The effects of the past and present choices. . .
Honestly, when we had the conversation, I was in a very good place to talk to her. It felt like I know just the exact thing to say to her. At that moment, I was almost sure of what I want for myself and even the ones I wasn’t sure of, I was at a place of peace with myself and the right mind to share with another what I think works. Well, that was it until last weekend (during and after my grandma’s burial – May her soul rest in peace), I had moments of Reflection (which I’ve been having since the beginning of the month by-the-way). I reflected on the past one year and years before that and I realize my next birthday is just few days (well, I drafted this post days to my birthday but couldn’t post it due to bad network) away and then I got coldfeet on some major decisions I thought I already have figured out. Suddenly, I’m not just sure about a lot of things. Suddenly, I want to hide behind the shadows of juvenile days. Suddenly, I desire days I don’t have to dance to the tunes I make. .

20-something is Awesome! #stillinmy20s

Then, I remembered a friend was at this point too earlier on and I helped out. Maybe its time I take a dose of my own medicine, afterall, it worked already. So, below are excerpt from the conversation especially my part of it and the part I’m administering to my soul now because I’ve got a lot of grownup decisions to make too and I need a taste of me;

* First, don’t let the pressure get to you. Always remember its nothing but a phase that will roll over like the ones in the past.
* And for major decisions, some times (most times), its better to concentrate on the smaller goals and channel your positive energy into it. Achievable short goals has a way of reminding you how great you are rather than weighing yourself down with long term goals that drains you.
* Make decisions you want not because its an expectation of people from you but because you are sure you want to.
* We all have those moments of doubts, fears and uncertainties but just like moments, it eventually passes and if its the same girl (person) I’m fond of, you’ll come out on the other side wiser, stronger, bolder, better and finer.
* And last, remember no matter what you’re facing at the moment, you’re not alone, you are enough and God has put in you all you’ll ever need to get through; Strength, Wisdom, Peace, Tranquility, Joy, Perseverance, Love and the required Grace.
* I love you always and forever💖

Reading this ☝ and sharing it now just made me smile. Just like I’m trusting God with my grownup decisions, I hope you find Peace with yours too.

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

P. S.; Share your experience too and how you got over that moment of fear, doubt and uncertainty in the comment box. Thanks!

New Plan — May 15, 2018

New Plan

New Plans; Same Goals 👌

Saying Happy New Month will be the most appropriate thing to say since this is my first post this month but we are half way gone into the month already, nonetheless, Happy New Month! 🙌 Honestly, I miss it here. I miss the adrenaline rush and excitement and this time, I’m done giving up excuses why I couldn’t write and post them in due time or execute some plans laid down for specific goals. I’m trying a new way, a new dimension and working a new realistic plan.
The purpose of planning is not to struggle around the goal, planning is to help achieve the goal and maximize resources in doing so and if in anyway the plan stops to work, you change the plan not the goal.

#NewMonth #NewWeek #NewDay #NewPlanSameGoal

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Another Chance — April 23, 2018

Another Chance

Another Week and Day to Try Again!

Just because it’s not working out as planned or envisioned does not mean you should break the baton or throw it away 🙍. Every new dawn is another chance to try again.

Take a deep breath. Look your dream at its core. And Try Again.

Pick up your baton and finish the race! You can do this!

Have a great dream-fulfilling blessed week. 😉

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

SOME ACCOLADES — April 19, 2018

SOME ACCOLADES

Give yourself some credits for actually trying. Appreciate the joy and thrill of the journey. Take some accolades for the difference between where you used to be and where you are now because you’re doing a great job! 👍

I deserve some accolades! 🙌🙌 🙌

Well, that’s a trending phrase from a comedy skit. But, I actually do deserve some accolades. Recently, I wrote about going through ‘Writer’s block‘ and it was one of the toughest struggles have had recently. When you’re trying so hard to do what usually seems like a second nature. You search in and out of yourself and all you see is just an empty blank space. Nothing just seems to interest you or bring out that side you thought you will always have or knew so well, blahblahblah. Read Writer’s block for more on that.
Well, today is not about the ‘Writer’s block‘ cos in a way, I feel I have a hold on it now and that’s all thanks to the wisdom of taking a *Chill pill* and do other things (in my case – I read books, went to see movies at the cinema, did few shoppings, ate a lot of Pringles and chocolates and even travelled to spend some time with Family) and now I feel a lot better with a clearer head.
So, back to the accolades, earlier this week, I finished some courses I started in the beginning of the year. Trust me, online courses are not as easy as it sounds especially if you’re the type that procrastinate a lot and you have a couple of other things to do, meeting up with weekly deadlines, availability of good networks and all. I’m just so glad that against all logistics that could have made me stop mid-way, I finished those courses excellently and the best part to that is assessing the year so far and knowing I’m actually doing what I set out to do, even way faster than I thought.
One secret I discovered during the ‘Writer’s block’ is that “Celebrate you for every big and small achievement you make as you chase your dreams. Allow yourself to refresh your soul and rekindle the fire from within to move on”. With that in mind, I believe you’ve seen why I started this post with ‘I deserve some accolades! 🙌🙌 🙌’ and indeed I gave myself, got from loved ones too (my brother even got me 🍕, 🍦and paid for my movie ticket to see Rampage 2018 by Dwayne Johnson).

Truth is, there is a way you can feel less of yourself because according to your timing, you’ve not covered all you said you’d do. I challenge you to celebrate you for how far you’ve come and see how gratitude reciprocate.

And if you’re still having cold feet starting, you’ve got 8 months 1 week 4 days to be precise to still get your dreams going (That’s about enough time to conceive and have a healthy baby). 😉

#SomeAccolades #GiveYourselfSomeAccolades #Gratitude #CelebrateEverything #CelebrateYourself #YouCanDoIt #EmpoweredWomenEmpowerWomen #GoalSetting

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Keep Going! — April 14, 2018

Keep Going!

You’re a Wonder. You are strong. You are Enough.

Even when it feels like walking through hell. Keep Going!

💪💪👧👑

#GirlPower #GirlGang #Queening

#EmpoweredWomenEmpowerWomen

#Fighting #StayStrong #GirlsRock #You’veGotThis #YouAreEnough #YouAreAWonder #YouAreStrong

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Wake Up — March 19, 2018

Wake Up

Wake up from dreaming and live your dreams out! Your 🌎 needs the actualization of that dream.
I think one of the easiest thing to do as humans is to dream. It’s very normal and easy to build castles in the air and imagine yourself in that sleek black Porsche cruising the town and even helping the poor (blah blah blah) but, the honest question is, how hard are you working towards owing one or doing that dream??! In life, it’s not just enough to be a dreamer, you have to be a doer too. Who would have taught Joseph with all those beautiful dreams will be sold for slavery and even jailed before living his dream? But, truth is in those moments he was being trained for the destined post and that’s him working).

Success don’t just come knocking on your door in your sleep, uhhhhmmmmm! NO! Nor does it come beaming at you while tanning your skin by the beach side, I don’t think so. You’ve got to pick yourself off that bed and go out to work because even your talents are useless if you don’t put them to work (Remember the bible story on Talent, Matthew 25:14-28). The multiplying factor only works on the Talent put to use.

If Steve Jobs had restricted himself to just his dreams then APPLE wouldn’t have been birthed.


If that your particular favourite actor didn’t go for his/her first audition, you’d probably not see them on your screen today.


If Da Vinci didn’t paint the Mona Lisa even after getting inspired no one will behold the beauty sight.


If Ayo Makun  & Kelvin Harts didn’t work hard giving appearances in shows and events no matter how funny they are, their talent is a waste.


If Thomas Edison didn’t work hard to invent Electric Light Bulb then I wonder how we’ll illuminate a dark room.

Bottom line: In REALITY you’ll work before having success, so wake up and quit dreaming to start doing. The beauty of dreaming and learning is when it all leads to action and trust me, the world needs MEN & WOMEN with dreams like yours who are ready to ACTUALIZE IT!

#DreamItLiveIt! 💪✌
Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

The Universe’s Most Powerful Law — February 27, 2018

The Universe’s Most Powerful Law

Don’t be afraid of facing that darkness. Shine your light! 💪 🔥
 Putting to practice what I’ve learnt from reading books on Mind control, Attitude, Personal transformation and Positive thinking made me further believe that truly the most powerful law of the universe is the *Law of Attraction*. Well, thanks to this quote, 

“ Don’t let your learning lead to knowledge, let your learning lead to action – Jim Rohn”.

I’ve learnt both from Head and Experiential knowlegde that, You attract everything that comes into your life, whether Good or Bad; Beautiful or Ugly and these you attract by virtue of the images you hold dear in your mind. What happens on the outside responds to what your thoughts are no matter what they are. If you can master and understand the dynamics and the power of your mind then you’ll know how to channel its energy into controlling situations. As humans, there is capacity to create, therefore, allowing life to happen to you because you can’t see the best even out of the worst of times shouldn’t be our excuse out of taking responsibility for our lives, all you’ll see is your Failings not Opportunities to do things better. Mistakes not Lessons. I’ve learnt from experience that if you dwell too long in a sticky situation, you’ll never see the way forward. Water will find its level (or so they say), you just have to change your attitude towards every not-so-good time you have and let just that little ray of light illuminate that dark phase. 

– Trust God.

– See the bigger picture.

– Hope by processing it in your mind.

– Activate your faith.

– Take conscious efforts by acting it out.

– Leave the Universe to align itself.

Remember, what starts the change is just that little conviction that its going to be alright. Just that little light and the darkness clouding over you will disappear.

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi