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On Life’s Journey — February 10, 2018

On Life’s Journey

Strictly my quote 😉
Recently, I had to relocate from home to my place of National service and this involved a lot of packing. My brother (he did most of my packing tho, thanks again!) had to pack some things separately to dispose off because I’ll never need them, they are junks I’ve kept over the years (partially because I just hate to loose things, even the ones I don’t need). They would have been extra load, taking extra space, consuming extra energy.

This recent episode further buttressed one of the lessons growth has been teaching me that to achieve so much in life; You need to cut a lot of habits off. Lay off some friendships. Freeze some unhealthy lifestyle. Let go of some harsh words said to you. Break off a bad relationship. Surround yourself with only people who believe in you. Repel from every negativity clouding you. Deal only with positivities and the necessities. Simply because, with too much junks here and there you won’t be able to get a lot of things done in time and effectively. The so much baggage tends to weigh you down, limits how far you can go and how fast you’ll get there. I’m sure you don’t want to live life getting dragged down by all these, free some space in your life and enjoy the journey.

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

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Break The Box — February 6, 2018

Break The Box

Life should be lived without limits!

I don’t know how else to explain this short quote of mine but all I’m simply saying is you’re young and full of vigour to get a lot done. This is the time of your life when there is strength to even move mountains *sarcasm*.
There is time for everything and your youthful days are meant to be a landmark for creativity that constitute to your great future. It should be Adventurous and Fun; It should be Educative and Innovative; It should be Inspiring and Challenging.

     What I’m saying in short is that this is the time you can conveniently live your DREAMS. . . Don’t get your life boxed up because of your; Environment. Exposure. People’s opinions. Your Family. Your Past. Your Friends. Your Boss. The Economy. Past ResultsFear of the Unknown. . . Truth is, Success doesn’t come easily but the heart by which you do things counts a lot, the conviction of being able to do it encourages you and even when it doesn’t feel like achieving the goal is feasible, remember the motive behind starting it anyway. This quote from one of ofili’s book caught me;

“[If you are reading this]… You’re alive! That
means you have infinite potential. You can do anything. If you change the world, the world will change.” – Neil Gaiman

     Finally, friends, I just feel its high time we stopped restricting ourselves to boundaries set by others and start to think outside the box, in fact, we need to break out of the box and live free fulfilling purpose and working out our dreams. The only box you should find yourself should be the coffin and that’s after you’re dead, but, if you’re alive, you have more than enough potentials to make a lot of changes around here.
#JustBelieve #BeOptimistic #PutInTheEffort #NeverGiveUp

#BreakOutOfTheBox 💪

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

The Wait (Book Review) — January 26, 2018

The Wait (Book Review)

The Superstar-Preacher and his Superstar-Actress Wife ❤💋

​“God doesn’t show your heart to everybody. He only shows it to people He can trust with it.”

                            – DeVon to Meagan


Pre- The Wait

A friend (Abimbola) actually sent me the book and I was super excited when she did because prio to that, I’ve always been a big fan of Meagan Good. Apart from my love for Meagan, I’ve seen and read quite a number of interviews by the couple so I know they make a great pair and I’ve been super interested in knowing how Meagan nailed a Minister *lol*, I mean, if you’ll look from the angle of Hollywood, it’s so not the cliche, so I got the book with expectations of learning a lot. I yearned to know what they know. I delved into the book with an open mind full of expectations.
The Wait

I must say this is the best Christian book I’ve read on Relationship yet (No sentiments). Meagan and DeVon definitely brought the concept of Love, Sex, Human and God home. They didn’t just tell you what to do, they explicitly explained how to do it, they discussed the part of God, where Grace works, the Human part and how to stay in it.

They were downright real, touched the depth of people’s fears on Sex and how to practice ‘The Wait’, they made their story relatable and discussed all sides to the coin. I think one of my best parts to the book is learning about celibacy from people who have had a fair share of their bad choices too. I’ve read about people who choose to be celibate where either of the couple has once been wayward and I even have a Pastor who is married to his first girlfriend and didn’t even kiss her until wedding day so the concept of celibacy is not so strange or new but when you have Hollywood stars practising it, even in the midst of the messed up celebrity lifestyles and voices and opinions, you get to sit tight and listen twice to know what they know and how they did it.

Post- The Wait

I can’t quantify how many things I learnt cos I think every sentence in the book has a message in it, but, I will talk about one particular lesson/new knowledge that stands out.

So, I figured that all along, what I’ve been doing is Abstinence not Celibacy? Yh kinda, because I know why I don’t explore my sexuality is because I’m convinced that somehow, I’m not ready for whatever emotional stress that comes with it; I’m not ready for the post-sex dramas or the ills of an unprotected sex or unwanted pregnancy(cos I won’t subscribe to abortion) and I basically like to be in charge of my life and emotions always, so, if that part of my life is the only one I still have 100% control on, its gonna be like that till I feel otherwise and apparently, I don’t feel otherwise then I entered my twenties and I concluded, I’ll just chill till marriage. . . And then, I read a book that made me realize I’ve been missing out on the main prize that comes from making God the centre of that Abstinence which makes whatever I’m doing different from Celibacy. Celibacy is abstinence with a purpose (an attached meaning because of my faith and trust in God, not for my fears, insecurities and selfish reasons) but for better submitting myself to God and his will for my life, allowing him place me at the centre of his purpose for me.

The act was the same but the difference and the root of the problem is the heart behind the act. I’ve learnt and now, I’m submitting my will to God because I can’t afford to miss out on his Original plan (can’t settle for Plan B or C or D). There is a total change of the heart behind the act. I’ll give in to the process no matter how tough it could be at first, after all, we are all a work in progress. But I’m sure I’m getting it right this time around.

Meagan and DeVon sure makes a terrific couple and the book is just as great as I envisioned, even greater. Thanks for being such a huge blessing!



Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Setting the Year right! — January 9, 2018

Setting the Year right!

The year is all yours Lord, Bless it up!

Hi guys, trust 2018 has been awesome? This is like the official first post for the new year and I figured we should set things right.

Even with our plans, goals, to-dos, positive vibes and the whole preparation we have for the year, we need to remember that through it all, God is set to put us through. I came to realize that If my sufficiency is from God and God is unlimited, then I have unlimited resources available to me, therefore, once I got that settled actualizing the dreams or attaining the goals is way easier for me, even when it won’t look or play out as expected, I know God got me covered and with this settled, the year can begin. Just trust God and His amazing processes, He hasn’t failed and have NO intentions to.

“While the resources in your hand are not sufficient; I am your Sufficiency.”

                                              God

Once again have an amazing, fulfilling and Prosperous 2018!

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Not Too Young/Old — December 23, 2017

Not Too Young/Old

I suddenly realize that I don’t have time (note; Not that I’m so old to get things done but then, I’m also not too young to have a lot done). You don’t either. There is nothing like being too young. I started writing around age 10 and now I wish I had believe in my writing and my stories and my voice earlier. I kind of wish I had gone into a relationship earlier (maybe?). I wish I had started saving earlier. I wish I had nurtured my entrepreneurship spirit earlier. I wish I had dropped some friends earlier. I wish I had been proactive about a lot of things.

Going forward, I’m not going to capture a caterpillar in a jar and keep a butterfly hostage.

I’m truly living and going for what I believe in and my dreams. No more startup excuses, No fears, No inhibitions.

Everyday looks mundane and the same and nothing changes yet when you look back, everything has changed. Truth is, sometimes, we get lost while searching for ourselves and we sometimes feel like we don’t have it together (Real life-scary feelings). You will not always have it all figured out and everything won’t always go as planned. Instead of toiling so hard, stressing about the future, while not focus on what you have at hand. That particular thing you’re skilled with today, do it right. Stop wasting so much time thinking you are saving it for the future. 

The future is now. Live like you don’t have time. Because you don’t.

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Yes, You Can! — December 19, 2017

Yes, You Can!

Yes! You shouldn’t too. No matter how tired you are, believe you can and you will! 💪

The boldness and strength to break boundaries is one lesson I’ve learnt over the years.I’m quite optimistic and I don’t believe there is anything too hard or much for me to do. I believe I can do just whatever I put my mind to. I’ve learnt not to be myopic about things, I just pray for directions, seek advice, ask myself if that’s what I really want and give it my best shot. Success doesn’t come easily but the heart by which you do things counts a lot, the conviction of being able to do it encourages you and even when it doesn’t feel like achieving the goal is feasible I only remember the motive behind starting it anyway. This quote from one of ofili’s book caught me;

“[If you are reading this]… You’re alive! That
means you have infinite potential. You can do
anything. If you change the world, the world will
change.” – Neil Gaiman


The road won’t always be smooth, you’d sometimes worry if you actually know what you’re doing, nothing will look in place for some days, giving up will look like the only option left. Yes, Sometimes you’ll feel you’ve reached the dead end and no more cards to play up your sleeves but trust me;

“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was
over it became a butterfly.” – Anonymous

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

TRUST — December 14, 2017

TRUST

A happy man is the man who does not depend or have high expectations from men cos he won’t be heart broken from disappointment (strictly my quote). Well, not really a quote but I guess its what I’ve come up with over years of learning not to put my trust in men but in the never failing supreme being who love me enough to sacrifice and provide for all my needs long before I was conceived.

Yeah, I have friends and family members around me who cares, in fact my MUM is a great woman that combines the role of the father & mother (story for another day) and can do anything for me but sometimes fall under the spell of the human nature, awesome siblings that priotizes my needs, terrific friends we could stick our necks out on blade for eachother. . . But then, In the area of trust I’ve grown to depend on God, whether things are good or not, downright ugly or beautiful, I truly know that God is my source, my sole source. Whether it is financial, or emotional or health wise or my academics or my writing or my business, I’ve come to trust God true and through.
My resolution is to step back and let God take over even in the simplest things, like who’s going to give me a free ride to my destination or who’s recharging my cellphone.


I’m not testing God’s ability to, I’m testing my trust in His ability – Ayotola

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi


WRITE IT DOWN — December 6, 2017

WRITE IT DOWN

If there  is one lesson I’ve learnt over the years, it is keeping track of the happenings around me by penning them down and this has helped me gone a long way. I have the habit of reading my journal when I’m idle or less busy thereby measuring my past thoughts and actions. I discovered that Writing it down, whatever it is: reminds you, keeps you accountable, heals you and measures your growth. I’ve learnt to write that business strategy to apply, that WORD for my life from God, that gift given to me, that advice, that thing I need to do, that place I need  to go, that thing I need to buy, that habit I need to drop and steps I need to take to get over it, etc… In fact, I keep a personal 🏆 cup (I’ll explain better sometimes in the future), where I keep short notes of almost every good happenings in my life and reminisces on them when I need remembrance of God’s love in my life.

Write it down. Just write it and keep it. You will forget, I promise. 

The shortest pencil is longer than the smartest memory or so the quote goes.

Since this is my first post this month, Happy New Month! Xmas is around the corner! 🙌

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

There’s A Hero In You — October 14, 2017

There’s A Hero In You

Believe in yourself to unleash the hero that resides in you.

     I birthed this post originally 2 years ago while doing the dishes on a good evening. My mind wandered off towards the great movie “FANTASTIC FOUR”, I reminisced on how VictorReedBenJohnny & Susan transformed and something caught my attention. I realized what they transformed to was actually based on their Initial Personality i.e what & who they really are on the inside (Their inner man).

     I can’t remember a scene in the movie where what I’m saying was acted or explained. We were just made to believe; Victor became the Steel (Metal man), Sue became the Invisible woman, Ben (Thing) became the Hefty man, Johnny became the Human torch and Reed (Mr. Fantastic) became the Stretchy man.

– Come to think of it, Victor was the one who has a metal sculpture made for him in the first scene and till the end of the movie, he had a great thirst for power. He wanted to be invincible.
– Sue (Susan) is just very comfortable with being a scientist. She doesn’t want the limelight and popularity that comes with being an hero. She wanted a NORMAL life where people doesn’t have to know her. She wanted to hide behind the scenes (be invisible) and live like regular people.
– Ben, the big boy, he was the fearless one who actually faced the storm in the space. He does the heavy lifting, fighting, defends and protects Reed on a normal day so he got a good dose of heaviness when he transformed to have more strength and power to save the world.

– Johnny, the cute guy who was so all over himself. He feels he’s hot and he dates hot babes too. He craves for attention and can go to any length to be noticed. The Fire-power seems touché for him because flame can’t be hidden.

– Reed (Mr. Fantastic) on the other hand is a scientist with high curiosity. He loves what he does and was always ready to expand his scope. He could go extra miles to see to getting solutions to scientific problems. He was able to stretch himself farther than his comfort zone even when he had to work alongside Sue after she dumped him.

     So far, using the main characters in FANTASTIC FOUR, I discovered that whether Natural or Supernatural, you become what you are on the inside. Your thoughts and confessions becomes you. Everything you become or attracts starts from the inside (You are what you eat or so the says go) and that’s why there is need to feed your inner man right so it can produce the right fruit on the outside. You need to tap into the positive side of you to see the good things about you spring forth on the outside. Your fears becomes you or so the quote goes too. Step out of your comfort zone and choose to be optimistic about life. Don’t be deceived, there will definitely be storms but Peace definitely comes afterward. You have all it takes to get there. 
     We all have a HERO sitting deep in us and we don’t have to be exposed to some radioactive materials before we become the hero, all we need to do is bring out the best in ourselves and every situation we find ourselves and the KING in us will emerge. . . Remember, No matter how small the light is, it terrifies the darkness *strictly my quote*.

I’m sorry I can’t help it, some posts can’t just be short.

#PeaceOut!✌

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

From Now On — October 11, 2017

From Now On

The way I live from now on. . .

“Life should be lived like you mean it without limits.”                                      – Oluwafunmibi

Everything about life changed since I discovered how I honestly want to live it. Everyday promises to be better than the former because I’ve chosen to truly live and go for what I believe in and my dreams. No more startup excuses, No fears, No inhibitions, No limitations.

From now on, I’m not going to capture a caterpillar in a jar and keep a butterfly hostage.

Much Love 💘,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi