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#LOVING SOMEONE FROM A BROKEN HOME – Conclusion — October 19, 2016

#LOVING SOMEONE FROM A BROKEN HOME – Conclusion

This is the last part of my honorable guest writer’s post… Happy Reading!

Those ones who have lived in broken households don’t usually reveal that aspect of their past,
especially when they get into romantic relationships.

But when it’s brought into light, it can change the way you look at things, including the way you love them:

Continuing from where we stopped, here are the rest of the facts about them that will help you understand and love them better……

6.
ARGUMENTS WILL EITHER BE FILLED WITH EMOTION, OR BE COMPLETELY SHUT OFF…..

They don’t necessarily want to disagree with you, and
In the heat of an argument at this point, they will feel extremely anxious, and wonder if this might lead to you leaving them
Regardless of the situation you find yourself at, don’t leave things unsettled.
At the end of the day, they need to know that everything is okay.

7.
ONCE THEY FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU, THEY ARE DONE HIDING FROM YOU

However long it might take for this to happen, when it does, you will know.
You are worth letting in.
You are understanding and non-judgmental, and they know you love them back.

8.
MARRIAGE WILL BE AN AWKWARD CONVERSATION FOR THEM

To most, marriage is a fairy tale, and one that didn’t go so well in their family.
Don’t get mad, as it’s all they know.
Over time they will start to see a long future with you, and they will be more open to trying to understand what marriage with you could be like.

9.
MARRYING YOU WILL BE THE HAPPIEST DAY OF THEIR LIFE…..

Once they get over the initial shock that they are actually getting married, they will be overjoyed. At this point, they have moved on from their past, and they are looking forward to starting a new life with you.
They are all about you, and this will genuinely be the happiest day of their lives.

10.
THEY WILL MAKE AN AMAZING PARENT……

Because of all they have gone through as a child,
they will know exactly how they want to be with their children.
They will want to give their children the life they wish they would have had.
Becoming a parent can be terrifying for anyone, but they will take it in stride.
If you are lucky enough to make it this far with them, then you are their everything,
and they will look forward to making your little family the best it can be.

Like I said earlier….
I know it’s a lot to take in but in the end….. You will be glad you stayed to the end..

I’m Michelle Joshua…

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#LOVING SOMEONE FROM A BROKEN HOME – Part 1 — October 9, 2016

#LOVING SOMEONE FROM A BROKEN HOME – Part 1

Michelle is a friend and guest blogger, she’s been featured here before so I hope you enjoy this beautiful write up from her…

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It’s not simple to explain, it’s not what most would see as normal, and it’s something that can bring both happiness and pain.
Those who come from a broken home are doing their best to figure life out, just like everyone else.

Don’t get me wrong here, loving someone who comes from a broken family can be work, but they will love you and cherish you with all of their heart.
You are their safe place, and they will always have your back for that.

To be able to give back the love and loyalty you are getting, here are a few facts of people from broken homes that will help you to better understand how to love someone who comes from a broken family.

1.
THEY DON’T TRUST EASILY

Trust is something that is earned for them, and it is taken very seriously.
But when they let you in, they likely won’t hold anything back.

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2.
AT THE BEGINNING OF THE RELATIONSHIP, THEY WON’T THINK THEY DESERVE YOU

You are simply too good for them. They don’t deserve the love, or even the attention that you are showing them.  When they seem down to you, just give them a compliment and hold them close.

3.
WHILE IN THE EARLY STAGES OF DATING, THEY WILL FOCUS ON YOU, AND AVOID LONG CONVERSATIONS ABOUT THEMSELVES….

At some point at the beginning of dating, you will feel like they know everything about you, but you don’t exactly know everything about them.
When they trust you, they will tell you what growing up was like for them.

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4.
THEY WILL BE THE INDEPENDENT ONE IN THE RELATIONSHIP…..

If at times it seems like they don’t act like they need you,
They can get by without you, but they don’t want to.
Don’t hold this against them, as it will benefit them when they have a family of their own.
And if you’re lucky, that family will be with you.

5.
MEETING YOUR FAMILY WILL BE HARD FOR THEM

A normal family is something only dreams are made of for them.
Talking about your family is uneasy for them, and meeting them is terrifying.
They don’t know what to expect, Be supportive, and introduce them to the family slowly.

“”I know it’s a lot to take in but in the end….. You will be glad you stayed to the end””..

I’m Michelle Joshua…

How I Knew I Can’t Be A Politician — March 5, 2016

How I Knew I Can’t Be A Politician

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I'm so proud of my BROTHER!

My brother contested for the post of president in the faculty *we’re in the same faculty* and he lost; Yeah, he lost honorably! Not because he wasn’t good enough or didn’t do his best. In fact, I should say we lost cos’ I was as involved in it as he was. Being the first time for him to lose at something, I’m sure he has a lot of lessons to learn but really politics ain’t my type of thing, not just because I hate confrontations & competitions but I’m too honest a being to play the game called Politics. I learnt few words yesterday like: Politicking *though its in the dict.*, Voting Permutation, the new definition for loyalty & honesty, etc.
Yesterday I saw friends assuring me of their votes voting for another person, I saw friends sly me by not showing up as promised, I saw people playing neutrality at the expense of friendship & trust. I saw so much that assures me that politics is that dirty game I don’t wanna play. I’m the type of person that say what’s on my mind and do what I say but I learnt yesterday that it doesn’t work for politics. Some say its diplomacy but I’ll say its just being ignorant because the truth is they know what’s best but prefer to just play the game wrongly *in my word*.

To those who supported us:
You guys are the best and words can’t express how honored I feel to know you.

To our Mum;
Thanks for the support all the way. You’re the best and you’ll always be loved till infinity.
We love you!

Finally To my brother;
Baby! You’re always my hero and I’ll always be proud of you & here for you till my last breath.
I know you’re going to places and I’m ready for the ride. This happened for your best and being the first time you’ll ever lose something I believe the lessons are well learnt.
I love you blooda!

Much love,
Oluwafunmibi.

Hbd Blooda — March 1, 2016

Hbd Blooda

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Handsome birthday boy

Yesterday was my brother’s birthday 29/02 and I tried all my best to upload this post to no avail till I was frustrated to sleep. It’s a unique birthday cos he only does it once in every four years so I’ll just get my short note over with.

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#Moments

Family by blood
Friend by choice
Still the dude who in the best of moments
The worst of times
And in the most special of days
Makes me laugh till it hurts.
I wish you the very best
As you begin a new year!

Much love,
Oluwafunmibi.

And I must say HAPPY NEW MONTH TO YOU ALL!

INCEST WITH GOD — October 11, 2015

INCEST WITH GOD

* God the FATHER
* God the LOVER (SPOUSE)

     Okay, before you conclude the title is an heresy or blasphemy, I need to let you know I’m going to be sharing this post base on my perspective.
     To start with, People have different perspectives about who God is to them but to me I’ll like to talk about the part where he is my FATHER and at the same time my SPOUSE. Continue reading

21 LESSONS @ 21 II — June 9, 2015

21 LESSONS @ 21 II

Lesson 12 :- DON’T LET THE PRESSURE GET TO YOU

Honestly, you just have to learn to be in control of situation because trust me the demands are not going to let
up. People’s voices are never going to drown at your insistence.

The pressure will come and you’ll feel the realness. It will
come from all facets of your life. You’ll feel it in your life spiritually, academically, emotionally, financially, socially, morally, mentally, psychologically, and the toughest in your relationships.
You’ll be torn in between making decisions and setting priorities right which is never done easily if you have so many people looking up to you or high expectations from yourself.
Sometimes it feels like the weight of the world rest on my little shoulder and I’ll wish I have a fairy Godmother like Julia Roberts or probably a more fierce one that can fight like maleficent. If you’re not in a relationship there’s pressure all around you and people start to link you up but if you’re in a relationship too my dear there are pressures too. So just face it, there will always be pressure in almost everything you do.

I’ve learnt to feel the pressure, process it and let it go if nothing good comes out of it.

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HOME — May 1, 2015

HOME

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Photo credit: My buildings gallery

  Hi everyone! God knows I miss everyone of you in just my few days of being offline. Sometimes when you’re home you forget who you are. Okay, technically its not like I forgot who I am but I just discovered I’m always too busy all day doing this all that for someone or the whole house.
     I’ve been home for the session’s break for some days now and trust me its been a long time I felt so happy and comfortable. Nothing beats the love I feel all around; seeing my siblings and love ones, enjoying homemade foods, catching up with friends, weddings around and so on *chortles* it feels so good to be HOME. . . Reminds me of the song, “so good to me home, where I know that I belong. . .” Continue reading

Happy Birthday Bro’ — April 25, 2015

Happy Birthday Bro’

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Photo credit: My gallery

I’m fortunate and I’m glad
I got you for my brother;
Even if I had the chance,
I wouldn’t pick another.
I’m happy you’re in my life;
You’re my winner, come what may.
Another 365 days of our lovely moments,
Stupid lil fights; awesome comments.
Crazy freestyles; cold arguments.
Times when we were broke,
Sad cries; joyful shouts.
Truce; sleepless nights. Continue reading