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The Wait (Book Review) — January 26, 2018

The Wait (Book Review)

The Superstar-Preacher and his Superstar-Actress Wife ❤💋

​“God doesn’t show your heart to everybody. He only shows it to people He can trust with it.”

                            – DeVon to Meagan


Pre- The Wait

A friend (Abimbola) actually sent me the book and I was super excited when she did because prio to that, I’ve always been a big fan of Meagan Good. Apart from my love for Meagan, I’ve seen and read quite a number of interviews by the couple so I know they make a great pair and I’ve been super interested in knowing how Meagan nailed a Minister *lol*, I mean, if you’ll look from the angle of Hollywood, it’s so not the cliche, so I got the book with expectations of learning a lot. I yearned to know what they know. I delved into the book with an open mind full of expectations.
The Wait

I must say this is the best Christian book I’ve read on Relationship yet (No sentiments). Meagan and DeVon definitely brought the concept of Love, Sex, Human and God home. They didn’t just tell you what to do, they explicitly explained how to do it, they discussed the part of God, where Grace works, the Human part and how to stay in it.

They were downright real, touched the depth of people’s fears on Sex and how to practice ‘The Wait’, they made their story relatable and discussed all sides to the coin. I think one of my best parts to the book is learning about celibacy from people who have had a fair share of their bad choices too. I’ve read about people who choose to be celibate where either of the couple has once been wayward and I even have a Pastor who is married to his first girlfriend and didn’t even kiss her until wedding day so the concept of celibacy is not so strange or new but when you have Hollywood stars practising it, even in the midst of the messed up celebrity lifestyles and voices and opinions, you get to sit tight and listen twice to know what they know and how they did it.

Post- The Wait

I can’t quantify how many things I learnt cos I think every sentence in the book has a message in it, but, I will talk about one particular lesson/new knowledge that stands out.

So, I figured that all along, what I’ve been doing is Abstinence not Celibacy? Yh kinda, because I know why I don’t explore my sexuality is because I’m convinced that somehow, I’m not ready for whatever emotional stress that comes with it; I’m not ready for the post-sex dramas or the ills of an unprotected sex or unwanted pregnancy(cos I won’t subscribe to abortion) and I basically like to be in charge of my life and emotions always, so, if that part of my life is the only one I still have 100% control on, its gonna be like that till I feel otherwise and apparently, I don’t feel otherwise then I entered my twenties and I concluded, I’ll just chill till marriage. . . And then, I read a book that made me realize I’ve been missing out on the main prize that comes from making God the centre of that Abstinence which makes whatever I’m doing different from Celibacy. Celibacy is abstinence with a purpose (an attached meaning because of my faith and trust in God, not for my fears, insecurities and selfish reasons) but for better submitting myself to God and his will for my life, allowing him place me at the centre of his purpose for me.

The act was the same but the difference and the root of the problem is the heart behind the act. I’ve learnt and now, I’m submitting my will to God because I can’t afford to miss out on his Original plan (can’t settle for Plan B or C or D). There is a total change of the heart behind the act. I’ll give in to the process no matter how tough it could be at first, after all, we are all a work in progress. But I’m sure I’m getting it right this time around.

Meagan and DeVon sure makes a terrific couple and the book is just as great as I envisioned, even greater. Thanks for being such a huge blessing!



Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

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SHUT UP! — January 23, 2018

SHUT UP!

Sometimes, talk is worthless and silence is gold. An old friend once told me about a mouth check formula she did which goes somewhat like this:

» Is it good and beneficial to the progress of others?

» Is it fitting to the need and occasion?

» Is it a blessing?

» Is it kind and graceful?

According to 1Peter 3:9-10 , here is the recipe for long life:

» No lying

» No deceitful, unreliable or betraying speech

» No evil or hurtful words

Ephesians 4:29 demands that your words be a gift, a balm to others and foul and offensive speech be far from your lips. There’s no tolerance for speaking out of anger, slandering, abusing, backbiting, blaspheming or quarreling. All these ain’t just restricted to your spirituality, even morally and socially it is not acceptable. It only speak ill of your personality and separate you from the will of God.

You need to always remember that You can’t take words back, its as fragile as the egg.

A wise man once said nothing. . .

Sticks and stones may break the bones but words will break the heart.

One of the lines that got to me most in Boy Meet Girl by Joshua Harris is the part where he talked about what his Dad told his brother, “God gave people two ears and one mouth because he wants us to listen twice as much as we talk”. Even the Bible tells us that a fool “delights in airing his own opinions” (Proverbs 18:2). Don’t be a fool, listen twice as much as you talk. Think twice, talk once or maybe not at all. Be quick to listen and slow to talk. We know all these things. So keep quiet.

We all are a work in progress, well, I am, even in this aspect but it also require a conscious effort to see the effect of the changes. So just SHUT UP! It won’t hurt to anyways. . .
Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

FELLOWSHIP — January 20, 2018

FELLOWSHIP

I HAVE A FATHER, I CALL HIM GOD!

This ain’t just about church attendance or some little prayers or the daily verses you supposedly meditate on.

Over the years, I’ve come to see God as my father and I’ve never been so CONVINCE about any other fact like this.

I see us in a Father-Daughter relationship where I’m the apple of his eyes (that precious daughter nothing must do). He’s committed to me his girl and I to him as a well trained child. He has some duties and obligations towards me, his beautiful daughter and I have some duties and obligations towards Him too.

It’s a strong family ties where we go through every ups and down together. When we have cold arguments on my choices due to youthful exuberance and sometimes full blown fights. He provides for all my needs, teaches me everything, protects me, listens to me when I need to talk, comforts me during hard times, reprove me when I’m wrong and fight for me if need be. I have an obligation to honor and obey and serve with the time, strength and
resources He has given me.

It makes much sense to me when I know i have a supernatural father who has my best interests in heart and will stick out His neck for me till the very end. His words reminds me everyday of how loving a father he is and I feel the realness through the manifestation of his promises in my life. Even if I go astray like the lost sheep or act like the prodigal son, he won’t rest until I’m found and will always welcome me back with a stronger bond between us.

I have a FATHER, I call him GOD! 🙌 ❤ 💋

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Heal My Soul — January 18, 2018

Heal My Soul

Take my heart, take my pain

Take my mind, take my shame

Like the wool soaks up the fluid

Heal my soul from its nemesis.
Exchange my scars for your love

Exchange my bitterness for your sweetness

Encapsule me in the solace of your peace

Heal my soul from its nemesis.
Wipe my tears with the tenderness of your attention

Wipe my fears with the strength of your assuring words

Watch me bare my soul to you guilelessly

Heal my soul from its nemesis.
Love me like its doom day

Kiss me like my last breathe hinges on it

Show me the wonders of being truly loved

Heal my soul from its nemesis.
Hear my cry M’Lord

Hear my voice as I fall at your feet

Purge me out and fill me with the joy of your salvation

Heal my soul from its nemesis.
Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

RULES — January 13, 2018

RULES

Good relationships are meant to MAKE you, not MAR you!

I’ve lost track on how many times I’ve been told that I’m too principled or uptight; I need to loosen up; was even told at a point that I’m proud. . . Well, as far as I’m concern, what’s bad in a little dose of pride. All I know is I set RULES that I ensure I maintain and if I can do that then no one is allowed to defile it.

Trust me, you don’t have to be in a relationship where you are being asked what you can’t give. You don’t create rules to cage yourself. NO! You create it for your freedom.

Sex is not a tool nor the key nor evidence for the test of love. It is a covenant. Using and abusing sex cheapens the originality of God’s plan. Just because you can work around the details of right and wrong and twist God’s word to suit you doesn’t make it spiritually appropriate.
When you start to find excuses in and out of God’s word to suit your intentions, you’re a slave to your whims, to your flesh. And the worst part is feeling unclean & not worthy afterwards when you know you can actually avoid feeling that way.

Good news: You can be undefiled. When it is practiced as God intends, spirituality and sexuality both draws us closer to God. There is hope because Spiritual maturity and sexual maturity go hand-in-hand, and together they hold out the promise of redemption and restoration needed by everyone who has been damaged by sexual sin.
When its all said and done, we all know what we are doing wrong but the most common challenge is how to do it right. You only need to make a conscious effort, pray, read books(including bible), stop whatever pollute your soul. . . It is feasible, trust me!

Rules are good. Fences (not walls) are good.
Confines, sometimes, are safe.

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Setting the Year right! — January 9, 2018

Setting the Year right!

The year is all yours Lord, Bless it up!

Hi guys, trust 2018 has been awesome? This is like the official first post for the new year and I figured we should set things right.

Even with our plans, goals, to-dos, positive vibes and the whole preparation we have for the year, we need to remember that through it all, God is set to put us through. I came to realize that If my sufficiency is from God and God is unlimited, then I have unlimited resources available to me, therefore, once I got that settled actualizing the dreams or attaining the goals is way easier for me, even when it won’t look or play out as expected, I know God got me covered and with this settled, the year can begin. Just trust God and His amazing processes, He hasn’t failed and have NO intentions to.

“While the resources in your hand are not sufficient; I am your Sufficiency.”

                                              God

Once again have an amazing, fulfilling and Prosperous 2018!

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

TRUST — December 14, 2017

TRUST

A happy man is the man who does not depend or have high expectations from men cos he won’t be heart broken from disappointment (strictly my quote). Well, not really a quote but I guess its what I’ve come up with over years of learning not to put my trust in men but in the never failing supreme being who love me enough to sacrifice and provide for all my needs long before I was conceived.

Yeah, I have friends and family members around me who cares, in fact my MUM is a great woman that combines the role of the father & mother (story for another day) and can do anything for me but sometimes fall under the spell of the human nature, awesome siblings that priotizes my needs, terrific friends we could stick our necks out on blade for eachother. . . But then, In the area of trust I’ve grown to depend on God, whether things are good or not, downright ugly or beautiful, I truly know that God is my source, my sole source. Whether it is financial, or emotional or health wise or my academics or my writing or my business, I’ve come to trust God true and through.
My resolution is to step back and let God take over even in the simplest things, like who’s going to give me a free ride to my destination or who’s recharging my cellphone.


I’m not testing God’s ability to, I’m testing my trust in His ability – Ayotola

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi


​Blessed, Broken and Served — December 10, 2017

​Blessed, Broken and Served

I’m Blessed, Broken and Served! And its never a one time thing, this is my life now! 🙌

Since I discovered this secret to be an awesome multiplying factor, it has been a constant weapon of usage in my arsenal. I just yearn and crave more of these three (3) steps to keep reoccurring in my life.
– To be Blessed

– To be Broken

– To be Served

I’ve come to the realization that whenever and whatever God Bless, Break and Serve multiplies. The first time I realized this, it got dawn on me on my way home from work one evening and subconsciously, I silently prayed it out that God should Bless, Break and Serve Me! My life hasn’t been the same ever since that 2 mins short request and that’s why I can confidently share the secret. The word works.

I don’t struggle to be a blessing to people and there is always more to go around and left over for the yet to come demands. Resources stopped being the problem and I’m done worrying about what is to be because I’m sure I’ll get even much more than I can ever ask or need, plus, I have the enablement to be a blessing with excess left over! 💃

Scriptural reference;
Matthew 14:17-21, Mark 6:38-44, Luke 9:13-17, John 6:9-14, Matthew 15:34-39, Mark 8:5-10.

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

​Though It Cost Much; Get Wisdom ii — November 14, 2017

​Though It Cost Much; Get Wisdom ii

Hi guys, in my last post, I started a talk on wisdom and the types we have, so , I’ll continue by sharing two ways by which I know wisdom can be acquired.

* The first and foremost way to get wisdom is to Meditate on what God’s Word says concerning your area of purpose, as well as other related areas. This could be achieved with this short recipe;

– Search for scriptural verses for the different areas of your life and ruminate on them.

– Affirm them.

– Repeat the process continuously.

– Be committed to doing what the scripture instructs.

Truth is your perception and your approach to life will change over time as you will start to approach problems based on how God himself would deal with the situation as you meditate on God’s word. Meditation enables you to transform God’s word to becoming a practical solution. Though it may be contrary to your preconceived ideas and feelings, the truth of God’s word is able to withstand the storms of life.

Every christian has a standing promise of the supply of Wisdom on the one condition that you ask God confidently and not waver in your expectation.

* Impartation is another way to acquire wisdom. This can be referred to as the transference of wisdom through association. Impartation from Moses to Joshua is an example. Joshua gained all his skills (Mannerisms, Command, Authority, and Military strategies – which are similar to Moses’) not because he was given any special training by Moses but because of his association with Moses.

An important factor for Impartation is the Attitude of the receiver. Such a person must consciously be positioned under a tutor or mentor, with the expectation to receive the impartation. Wisdom by impartation can be attained through books and other media materials by people who have been successful in their fields.

Commit yourself to getting wisdom through the word of God and Humbly associate yourself with people who have gone ahead of you in life.

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

​Though It Cost Much; Get Wisdom — November 11, 2017

​Though It Cost Much; Get Wisdom

“I never approach any problem on common sense, because common sense will only yield common results.”

                                – David Oyedepo

According to the Dictionary, Wisdom is the ability to apply relevant knowledge in an insightful way, especially to different situations from that in which the knowledge was gained, or, the ability to make a decision based on the combination of knowledge, experience, and intuitive understanding. Wisdom can therefore be said to be the acquisition and intelligible application of knowledge acquired in order to generate results.

Overtime, two types of wisdom has been discovered which are termed;

– Learned wisdom

– Divine wisdom

– Learned wisdom: This is the result of trial and error. It is the wisdom gotten through people who have given themselves to applying various sources of information to solve a problem and the processes were recorded to be taught to others. Mankind wasn’t meant to function at the level of trial and error type of wisdom but if not for Adam’s sin.
– Divine Wisdom: This is the main thing. Since God is the custodian of all wisdom, he has laid up in store for his children the wisdom enough to bring a glorious manifestation of their purpose. This wisdom is the 🔑 that will elevate you from the place of discovering purpose to walking in the full manifestation of your purpose on earth.
King solomon (a historical king of Israel and the richest man who ever lived) once said, “Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding”.
What we’re taught in our schools are mostly learned wisdom but we have in our supernatural lifestyle package the enablement to express divine wisdom like Adam was able to name all animals and classify them by divine wisdom. His mental faculties were supernaturally endowed by God for solutions at a superior level (If it’s available to one, it’s available to all).
Relevant Scriptures: Prov. 2:6-7; 4:7-9, Eccles. 10:10.

To be continued in the next post. Thanks!

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi