A lifestyle blog that gives you wings to soar under the strength of grace
Welcome to my lifestyle blog, I'm a fun- loving Yoruba girl, a graduate of Agricultural Extension, Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-ife, Osun state, Nigeria . I love to pen down words based on my own unique personal experiences and I'm always ready to acquire more knowledge. I'm working towards being a voice to reckon with as regards hope and literature. I love to be of humanitarian services and Motivate people. I'm a christian depending on God's grace and strength to make impact in the lives of people.
Love is the reason for the season, show someone love. You know that one person that needs what you have surplus of, show some love by giving, help someone who can’t even repay your kindness, express your love nature in the most ideal and healthy way.
The true essence of Valentine ain’t just for people you’re in love with but for people who need or desire to be loved. Put a smile on someone’s face and don’t let it stop when today is over, make expression of love a lifestyle because love is your nature.
Finally, love yourself too because the truth is you can’t give what you don’t have. If life has been so tough on you lately, take a break today to pamper you.
Recently, I had to relocate from home to my place of National service and this involved a lot of packing. My brother (he did most of my packing tho, thanks again!) had to pack some things separately to dispose off because I’ll never need them, they are junks I’ve kept over the years (partially because I just hate to loose things, even the ones I don’t need). They would have been extra load, taking extra space, consuming extra energy.
This recent episode further buttressed one of the lessons growth has been teaching me that to achieve so much in life; You need to cut a lot of habits off. Lay off some friendships. Freeze some unhealthy lifestyle. Let go of some harsh words said to you. Break off a bad relationship. Surround yourself with only people who believe in you. Repel from every negativity clouding you. Deal only with positivities and the necessities. Simply because, with too much junks here and there you won’t be able to get a lot of things done in time and effectively. The so much baggage tends to weigh you down, limits how far you can go and how fast you’ll get there. I’m sure you don’t want to live life getting dragged down by all these, free some space in your life and enjoy the journey.
I don’t know how else to explain this short quote of mine but all I’m simply saying is you’re young and full of vigour to get a lot done. This is the time of your life when there is strength to even move mountains *sarcasm*.
There is time for everything and your youthful days are meant to be a landmark for creativity that constitute to your great future. It should be Adventurous and Fun; It should be Educative and Innovative; It should be Inspiring and Challenging.
What I’m saying in short is that this is the time you can conveniently live your DREAMS. . . Don’t get your life boxed up because of your; Environment. Exposure. People’s opinions. Your Family. Your Past. Your Friends. Your Boss. The Economy. Past Results. Fear of the Unknown. . . Truth is, Success doesn’t come easily but the heart by which you do things counts a lot, the conviction of being able to do it encourages you and even when it doesn’t feel like achieving the goal is feasible, remember the motive behind starting it anyway. This quote from one of ofili’s book caught me;
“[If you are reading this]… You’re alive! That means you have infinite potential. You can do anything. If you change the world, the world will change.” – Neil Gaiman
Finally, friends, I just feel its high time we stopped restricting ourselves to boundaries set by others and start to think outside the box, in fact, we need to break out of the box and live free fulfilling purpose and working out our dreams. The only box you should find yourself should be the coffin and that’s after you’re dead, but, if you’re alive, you have more than enough potentials to make a lot of changes around here.
#JustBelieve #BeOptimistic #PutInTheEffort #NeverGiveUp
This is not me being overly romantic when I say it’s not early to start preparing for marriage and kids irrespective of the gender. Just out of no where I suddenly realize how much I enjoy Parenting (all thanks to my kid sister who I’m 17years older than by the way). She made me see motherhood in a whole different amazing ways.
I practically skip shelves with relationship books when I go to bookshops cos it doesn’t really look like a big deal kinda to me *shrugs*, so, I usually end up buying books on Christianity, leadership, attitude and business most times, neglecting that one important part of life RELATIONSHIP.
But amongst the growth process being 20-something has done to me is realizing the need to balance up. The need to buy and read good books on relationships and marriage and family that is supposed to last a lifetime or click on that blog link or go for that conference. If you are like I used to be trust me there is so much you don’t know (Hollywood alone is never going to provide the best guide, sometimes you need to look closely at the people around and sometimes you sure have to pay a price to learn too). Even those who are years deep in marriages say the same.
I’m not a pathetic feminist that doesn’t yearn for marriage. I believe my kids deserve to have better parents than I did, even if mine were the best. Your marriage deserves to be happy and sexy and long lasting. You deserve a lifetime of strong bonds with the people who share blood and life and ups and downs with you.
But, you can’t just expect you’ll wake up one day to be that better parent you want to be to your kids. You’ve got to prepare for it now. We should crave to be a better generation when it comes to parenting especially for people who knows how it feels to be a product of a bad (sour) marriage, it can be frustrating, painful & scary. I’m sure you don’t want your kids near that spot. We are in the age where information is easy to get. Go online and download articles. Check blogs on relationship. Read books. Ask questions. Go for seminars. Learn from others, not by making your own mistakes too.
You don’t run from your past and avoid repeating mistakes by running from them.
You resolve issues by facing them head on and gathering the wealth of information that was not available before. I got a book by Gary Chapman, “THINGS I WISH I’D KNOWN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED” (you should lay your hands on that book too) for my 21st birthday gift and that launched me into reading many more books related. In fact, it was like my January was tagged for Relationship because of the books I read.
I pray for my future family already. I pray for the little humans in my body waiting for growth. I sow seeds for them in advance. I love twins and I already have awesome names for them. I have specific names for my beautiful girl and handsome boy and I can’t explain the excitement from just the thought of it. I build walls around them with the words and promises of God.
“God doesn’t show your heart to everybody. He only shows it to people He can trust with it.”
– DeVon to Meagan
Pre- The Wait
A friend (Abimbola) actually sent me the book and I was super excited when she did because prio to that, I’ve always been a big fan of Meagan Good. Apart from my love for Meagan, I’ve seen and read quite a number of interviews by the couple so I know they make a great pair and I’ve been super interested in knowing how Meagan nailed a Minister *lol*, I mean, if you’ll look from the angle of Hollywood, it’s so not the cliche, so I got the book with expectations of learning a lot. I yearned to know what they know. I delved into the book with an open mind full of expectations. The Wait
I must say this is the best Christian book I’ve read on Relationship yet (No sentiments). Meagan and DeVon definitely brought the concept of Love, Sex, Human and God home. They didn’t just tell you what to do, they explicitly explained how to do it, they discussed the part of God, where Grace works, the Human part and how to stay in it.
They were downright real, touched the depth of people’s fears on Sex and how to practice ‘The Wait’, they made their story relatable and discussed all sides to the coin. I think one of my best parts to the book is learning about celibacy from people who have had a fair share of their bad choices too. I’ve read about people who choose to be celibate where either of the couple has once been wayward and I even have a Pastor who is married to his first girlfriend and didn’t even kiss her until wedding day so the concept of celibacy is not so strange or new but when you have Hollywood stars practising it, even in the midst of the messed up celebrity lifestyles and voices and opinions, you get to sit tight and listen twice to know what they know and how they did it.
Post- The Wait
I can’t quantify how many things I learnt cos I think every sentence in the book has a message in it, but, I will talk about one particular lesson/new knowledge that stands out.
So, I figured that all along, what I’ve been doing is Abstinence not Celibacy? Yh kinda, because I know why I don’t explore my sexuality is because I’m convinced that somehow, I’m not ready for whatever emotional stress that comes with it; I’m not ready for the post-sex dramas or the ills of an unprotected sex or unwanted pregnancy(cos I won’t subscribe to abortion) and I basically like to be in charge of my life and emotions always, so, if that part of my life is the only one I still have 100% control on, its gonna be like that till I feel otherwise and apparently, I don’t feel otherwise then I entered my twenties and I concluded, I’ll just chill till marriage. . . And then, I read a book that made me realize I’ve been missing out on the main prize that comes from making God the centre of that Abstinence which makes whatever I’m doing different from Celibacy. Celibacy is abstinence with a purpose (an attached meaning because of my faith and trust in God, not for my fears, insecurities and selfish reasons) but for better submitting myself to God and his will for my life, allowing him place me at the centre of his purpose for me.
The act was the same but the difference and the root of the problem is the heart behind the act. I’ve learnt and now, I’m submitting my will to God because I can’t afford to miss out on his Original plan (can’t settle for Plan B or C or D). There is a total change of the heart behind the act. I’ll give in to the process no matter how tough it could be at first, after all, we are all a work in progress. But I’m sure I’m getting it right this time around.
Meagan and DeVon sure makes a terrific couple and the book is just as great as I envisioned, even greater. Thanks for being such a huge blessing!
Sometimes, talk is worthless and silence is gold. An old friend once told me about a mouth check formula she did which goes somewhat like this:
» Is it good and beneficial to the progress of others?
» Is it fitting to the need and occasion?
» Is it a blessing?
» Is it kind and graceful?
According to 1Peter 3:9-10 , here is the recipe for long life:
» No lying
» No deceitful, unreliable or betraying speech
» No evil or hurtful words
Ephesians 4:29 demands that your words be a gift, a balm to others and foul and offensive speech be far from your lips. There’s no tolerance for speaking out of anger, slandering, abusing, backbiting, blaspheming or quarreling. All these ain’t just restricted to your spirituality, even morally and socially it is not acceptable. It only speak ill of your personality and separate you from the will of God.
You need to always remember that You can’t take words back, its as fragile as the egg.
A wise man once said nothing. . .
Sticks and stones may break the bones but words will break the heart.
One of the lines that got to me most in Boy Meet Girl by Joshua Harris is the part where he talked about what his Dad told his brother, “God gave people two ears and one mouth because he wants us to listen twice as much as we talk”. Even the Bible tells us that a fool “delights in airing his own opinions” (Proverbs 18:2). Don’t be a fool, listen twice as much as you talk. Think twice, talk once or maybe not at all. Be quick to listen and slow to talk. We know all these things. So keep quiet.
We all are a work in progress, well, I am, even in this aspect but it also require a conscious effort to see the effect of the changes. So just SHUT UP! It won’t hurt to anyways. . . Much Love,
This ain’t just about church attendance or some little prayers or the daily verses you supposedly meditate on.
Over the years, I’ve come to see God as my father and I’ve never been so CONVINCE about any other fact like this.
I see us in a Father-Daughter relationship where I’m the apple of his eyes (that precious daughter nothing must do). He’s committed to me his girl and I to him as a well trained child. He has some duties and obligations towards me, his beautiful daughter and I have some duties and obligations towards Him too.
It’s a strong family ties where we go through every ups and down together. When we have cold arguments on my choices due to youthful exuberance and sometimes full blown fights. He provides for all my needs, teaches me everything, protects me, listens to me when I need to talk, comforts me during hard times, reprove me when I’m wrong and fight for me if need be. I have an obligation to honor and obey and serve with the time, strength and
resources He has given me.
It makes much sense to me when I know i have a supernatural father who has my best interests in heart and will stick out His neck for me till the very end. His words reminds me everyday of how loving a father he is and I feel the realness through the manifestation of his promises in my life. Even if I go astray like the lost sheep or act like the prodigal son, he won’t rest until I’m found and will always welcome me back with a stronger bond between us.
Relationship is like a blank canvas. No matter the people we are, no matter the past and no matter the stumbling blocks, we get a fresh white blank canvas and we have tons of water color and we choose what to put on that
canvas. You need to learn to make good use of your canvas. Relationships will always be difficult whether it is marital or friendship or family and most times We stay in relationships by choice; not because they’re convenient. We just decide to move past the betrayals and pains and hurts and hardships till we can’t anymore.
Trust me the friends you keep at this age will likely be the ones you’ll be stuck with for the rest of your life. You can never undermine the effect of friendship especially if you keep the right ones (Lately, I’ve been feeling blessed for the awesome friends I’ve met along the way that has helped shapen me to the woman I’m becoming). These are the kind of friends you even see as family because they’re who you see in all kinds of time. When things are right and when all goes wrong. They give you straight talks. They support you. They pray with you. They believe in your dreams. They comfort you. They argue with you. They push you to your limits. They annoy you. They protect you. . . The list is endless!
If you need to dump some junks, please do and move on. But you’ll definitely have some friends that are the real deal. It’s not always going to be smooth and sometimes they feel like a stone round your neck and they grate on your nerves but really, they contribute to lifetime memories that will grace your biography.
Appreciate the good friends in your life and be creative with your blank canvas!
I’ve lost track on how many times I’ve been told that I’m too principled or uptight; I need to loosen up; was even told at a point that I’m proud. . . Well, as far as I’m concern, what’s bad in a little dose of pride. All I know is I setRULESthat I ensure I maintain and if I can do that then no one is allowed to defile it.
Trust me, you don’t have to be in a relationship where you are being asked what you can’t give. You don’t create rules to cage yourself. NO! You create it for your freedom.
Sex is not a tool nor the key nor evidence for the test of love. It is a covenant. Using and abusing sex cheapens the originality of God’s plan. Just because you can work around the details of right and wrong and twist God’s word to suit you doesn’t make it spiritually appropriate.
When you start to find excuses in and out of God’s word to suit your intentions, you’re a slave to your whims, to your flesh. And the worst part is feeling unclean & not worthy afterwards when you know you can actually avoid feeling that way.
Good news: You can be undefiled. When it is practiced as God intends, spirituality and sexuality both draws us closer to God. There is hope because Spiritual maturity and sexual maturity go hand-in-hand, and together they hold out the promise of redemption and restoration needed by everyone who has been damaged by sexual sin.
When its all said and done, we all know what we are doing wrong but the most common challenge is how to do it right. You only need to make a conscious effort, pray, read books(including bible), stop whatever pollute your soul. . . It is feasible, trust me!
Rules are good. Fences (not walls) are good.
Confines, sometimes, are safe.