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HAPPINESS — June 28, 2018

HAPPINESS

For sometime now, “Happiness” has been a very heavy topic on my mind. Majorly because of my personal state of mind (I can literally call myself a Queen at mood swings) and day to day news too (especially the series of suicides and topics on depression trending everywhere). I struggled a lot with writing this post out of personal consciousness but after some random talks with a couple of people, I figured I really need to address it so I finally took time to look into the concept of happiness.
Happiness can be said to be relative in meaning because what it means to one person can be different to another, but, there are some generalized definition according to some scientific disciplines;
Psychology defines happiness as a mental or emotional state of well-being which can be defined by, among others, positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy and also to a sense of meaning and satisfaction from life.
Philosophy and (western) religion defines happiness in terms of living a good life, or flourishing, rather than simply as an emotion.
Economists also developed numerous surveys, indices, and equations to let us know which nations and people are the happiest. It is believed that factors like individual income, social security, employment, relationships, children, freedom, and leisure, have a big impact on our happiness.
In my opinion, happiness is a state of mind that you have to choose. It doesn’t matter what you see or hear, its a choice you need to be purposeful about. This, I can buttress from the psychologists’ view that says, circumstances are responsible for only about 10% of our personal levels of happiness. Studies have shown that regardless of what happens to people, their happiness levels tend to return to what they were before the event in about two months. This phenomenon is called the hedonic treadmill or hedonic adaptation Continue reading

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Girlfriends ❤ — June 19, 2018

Girlfriends ❤

Before you continue reading this post, I should let you know it has nothing to do with Self-righteousness. Thanks!
While studying in my room this evening, I hBefore you continue reading this post, I should let you know it has nothing to do with Self-righteousness. Thanks!
While studying in my room this evening, I had a stray thought to one of my girlfriends and then I thought of every other ones and then I built on the thoughts further and felt so grateful to God for gifting me with such relationships. And then I further thought of the person I might have been if I’ve had a different set of ladies in my life (I’m pretty sure I won’t have this blog nor will you be reading this). My stray thoughts made me realize I am who I am today partly because of the people in my inner circle and honestly, I see it as a favour from God.
Sometimes, when people (especially men) talk about women (like a conversation I had with some bunch over the weekend), I usually ask them, “where do you go to for you to meet these women you’re so bitter about?“. I mean, I get it that there are lots of women out there that justifies these wrong notions about the feminine gender. Women who abuses their spouses both verbally and physically, women who cheat, women who are deep into crimes, and the list is endless (at least my recent contacts and exposures had made me seen things more clearly). But in the midst of these, there are still some good women who are all about the good stuffs (nobody is entirely perfect but some are really putting in the effort to be a better version of themselves).
I have a friend who recently got married as a virgin (hello, nobody says you’re not entitled to marriage cos you’re deflowered or virginity is a criteria for a good home nor does it cover for character flaws), but the point is, it’s worth celebrating (this is 21st century where sexuality is being exploited more negatively) so, if there’s a girl still vintage about it, I believe she should be applauded.
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Hello Saturday, — June 16, 2018

Hello Saturday,

“Live by Decision, not Emotion.”

Honestly, you’ll never feel like doing a lot of things. Its just better we stop deceiving ourselves by trying to wait for that moment we’ll “feel” like doing a thing to do it. I remember drafting this post since Wednesday and if I’m to be honest with myself, I didn’t feel like posting it immediately because I kept giving myself reasons why I shouldn’t yet (especially my media upload that keeps failing) and kept on promising myself, I’ll do it later and the later comes and I’ll pick another later. I woke up earlier today to get rid of that “Later Syndrome” only to find out my media upload is not yet functioning, which has been like that since I got the domain name (hiccups you face when a layman tries to design her blog herself – it’s been fun and educative for me tho). So, yet, another reason to postpone the post. But, Hell-No, not today! I tried to install a couple of Plugins for media upload and none seems to work so I finally concluded that I’ll just keep posting without media till I get help or have it all figured out by a developer (so, now you know why there is no picture story).

Activity is exactly like a light switch, you only ignite it when you flip the switch despite the fact that there is power in it all the time. There is always the ability to be active, but no energy flows until you actually get moving.Continue reading.

@24 II — June 9, 2018

@24 II

So, in my last post, I started a discussion on my 24th lesson and I labeled it “Be Purposeful“. I talked briefly about purpose and gave some ideas on some things to be proactive about in order to live our desired purposeful lives. Like I said in my previous posts, these points are not listed in order of importance, I write them as they come to mind, they are all important and I’ll try to wrap it all up in this post.
4. Practice
Living purposefully focuses on growth and improvement. You have to keep moving forward to achieve this. Naturally, you experience fear of failure, but, when you are living purposefully, you come to understand that you learn from every result. You accept full responsibility for the results you achieve. You breathe life into your craft when you practice it everyday as a lifestyle and not just a job. It could be a physical, mental, or spiritual practice, and it could be all three, but, practice defines our life and what our purpose is for living.
What differentiates a life of fulfillment and that of discontentment ultimately comes down to our intention to practice growth every day. We see beyond the limitations presented by our mind or body. We make decisions because we know what we want from life and keep at it.
5. Work With Your Standard
When you’re purposeful, you know who you are, your purpose, your values, your goals. You dedicate your life to pursue these and when making tough decisions comes up, you are not under pressure. You have standards set for yourself and act in accordance with your values. You seek supportive collaborative relationships aimed at achieving mutual benefits, you don’t have need for competition, comparison or jealousy. Your standard includes continuous growth, you constantly develop new knowledge and skills which can be of use to serve others while you work on achieving your personal goals and objectives. And you see the beauty in life, you appreciate every moment. . . Continue reading.

@ 24 — June 7, 2018

@ 24

Find you God’s will for your life!

For the past 3 years now, I’ve made it a birthday ritual yearly to write at least a lesson I learnt over the year(s) and this year is not going to be an exception. I’m going to be sharing my 24th lesson and I hope you get to pick one or two points for use.
Lesson 24: Be Purposeful
Often times, when we talk about people living a purposeful life, what comes to mind are successes like being awarded as the best actor/actress, winning a competitive event, acing in a particular field, getting promoted in an organization, and the list goes on and on. But, does it have to be when we are fabulously successful at some glamorous profession before we can feel purposeful in life, or is there more to it?

In my opinion, to be at the centre of God’s will for your life is to be living a purposeful life.

A purposeful life allows you to adapt effortlessly to situations, even when things ain’t working right and you stray from the path, with a little conscious effort, you can usually guide your way back and this you have to be proactive about by purposefully doing a couple of things which are not arranged according to importance;
1. Perfect Time
No such thing as waiting for the perfect timing because there’s never really one. Its what you’re doing at the time that brings the perfection. Hardship are there to show us what we’re supposed to learn in order to grow. Disappointment in outcomes are suppose to open us to new opportunities for which we wouldn’t otherwise be available. Seizing the moment and focusing on it affects the part of the world that we actually can change.
Perfectionism kills performance, confidence and productivity. Instead of waiting for perfection, do your best at the moment and give room for improvement.
2. Stay Focused
Being purposeful means you know what you want out of life and you’re pursuing it. This means no room for mediocrity. Growing up has made the need to multi-task a prerequisite; we watch TV or play with our phone when eating, we have conversations while doing our jobs, we even do chores and other household activities when we talk with someone on the phone. But, the problem is, no one thing ever gets done to satisfaction, and at the end of the day we’ve only ever done a marginal job of everything. Summarily, when we remain focused on one task at a time, we get to finish it before moving to the next task and this helps us to not only do a better exceptional job, but we also give ourselves an opportunity to find a sense of joy in the smallest of details of our life.
3. Relationships. . . Open link to continue reading.

Much Love,

Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Monday Gist — June 4, 2018

Monday Gist

Hi guys! Happy New Month!
I’ve got two (2) information to share; Firstly, last week Thursday (May 31st) was my birthday and it couldn’t have been more perfect. I saw love in every gesture from messages to prayers, gifts, people’s presence, statuses, calls, voicenotes, and I’m sure I could afford myself a GLK350 BENZ if I’m given $10 per picture because my pictures were trending all over my TLs. I not only felt blessed, I was honored too. With these in mind, I joyfully say “THANK YOU” and I love you!
Let’s do this again next year. . .
Secondly, Guess who got her domain name?
Yeah right, *ME*💃and its even better. . .
Though its still a work in progress but let’s do this guys; Visit, Share, Like, Comment, Repost!
http://ofunmibi.com/
Thanks, I Love You! And have an AWESOME week!

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi