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GrownUp Decisions — May 30, 2018

GrownUp Decisions

Some Grown-up Look huh! πŸ™ˆπŸ‘Œ

Earlier last week, I had a conversation with one of my girlfriends and it was about how she’s having a hard time making some real grownup decisions. How she’s not so sure about what to do or how to act. What to say. The effects of the past and present choices. . .
Honestly, when we had the conversation, I was in a very good place to talk to her. It felt like I know just the exact thing to say to her. At that moment, I was almost sure of what I want for myself and even the ones I wasn’t sure of, I was at a place of peace with myself and the right mind to share with another what I think works. Well, that was it until last weekend (during and after my grandma’s burial – May her soul rest in peace), I had moments of Reflection (which I’ve been having since the beginning of the month by-the-way). I reflected on the past one year and years before that and I realize my next birthday is just few days (well, I drafted this post days to my birthday but couldn’t post it due to bad network) away and then I got coldfeet on some major decisions I thought I already have figured out. Suddenly, I’m not just sure about a lot of things. Suddenly, I want to hide behind the shadows of juvenile days. Suddenly, I desire days I don’t have to dance to the tunes I make. .

20-something is Awesome! #stillinmy20s

Then, I remembered a friend was at this point too earlier on and I helped out. Maybe its time I take a dose of my own medicine, afterall, it worked already. So, below are excerpt from the conversation especially my part of it and the part I’m administering to my soul now because I’ve got a lot of grownup decisions to make too and I need a taste of me;

* First, don’t let the pressure get to you. Always remember its nothing but a phase that will roll over like the ones in the past.
* And for major decisions, some times (most times), its better to concentrate on the smaller goals and channel your positive energy into it. Achievable short goals has a way of reminding you how great you are rather than weighing yourself down with long term goals that drains you.
* Make decisions you want not because its an expectation of people from you but because you are sure you want to.
* We all have those moments of doubts, fears and uncertainties but just like moments, it eventually passes and if its the same girl (person) I’m fond of, you’ll come out on the other side wiser, stronger, bolder, better and finer.
* And last, remember no matter what you’re facing at the moment, you’re not alone, you are enough and God has put in you all you’ll ever need to get through; Strength, Wisdom, Peace, Tranquility, Joy, Perseverance, Love and the required Grace.
* I love you always and foreverπŸ’–

Reading this ☝ and sharing it now just made me smile. Just like I’m trusting God with my grownup decisions, I hope you find Peace with yours too.

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

P. S.; Share your experience too and how you got over that moment of fear, doubt and uncertainty in the comment box. Thanks!

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Hey Beautiful, — May 20, 2018

Hey Beautiful,

Photo Credit; @ayotola_ ●|● Muse; @Mayriehogan

Hi guys, happy sunday!
So, I started a Leadership course that has to do with Marketing earlier this week and I’ve been having a great time studying. Amongst the curriculum for the first week are lectures on Understanding Customers and Creating Valuable Brands. The lecturer further taught by suggesting some videos to watch and this post is as a result of those videos.
Dove is a product introduced to customers by Unilever and after a while, the products started having competitors. Rather than simply focusing on cleansing, moisturizing and nourishing skin, Dove focused on bringing out the real beauty in all women. Rather than simply selling soap, Dove seeks to change the way women viewed themselves, and view beauty. By identifying with a group of customers, gaining insights into their hopes, dreams and fears just as Dove understands how women feel about beauty transform Dove into a multi-billion dollars business (Which is also not the main reason for this post too – but I’m sure you’ve picked one or two points).
There is a way we see ourselves that people don’t even see especially women. I’m not so sure if its as a result what of people have gone through, the words that has sticked closer to their soul, the failures and hurts they couldn’t get over, but somehow, its just easier to be self judgemental about oneself and this goes a long way into how people find it hard to really love themselves for who they are. There is a continuous search for a perfection that is clouding the acceptance of the beauty they can’t see.
This self disruptive attitude has caused a lot of people (especially women) so much already. It has lead to Low self-esteem, Depression, Anxiety, Anorexia, Substance addiction, etc. The study made by Dove made some women actually see how beautiful they are when shown the difference between what they think of themselves and what others think of them. Watch “Dove Real Beauty Sketches | You’re more beautiful”
Some didn’t even believe they look that young and beautiful. When told to analyse what they think of the images described by other people, they said nicer things.

Another study was done where different women all over the world was tested on their perception of themselves if they are Beautiful or on Average. Watch “Dove Choose Beautiful | Women all over the world”. A whole lot of women chose Average and it’s because they just don’t see themselves as beautiful. Beautiful seems too far-fetched for them, they’ve placed themselves on the scale of average because they already have a modeled features in mind that they don’t think they fit in. After failing the test, a lot of them felt bad about their choice and said they’ll choose otherwise if given another chance.
The truth is we all are beautiful in our own ways and accepting whatever our flaws are as part of what makes us unique goes a long way into living with the right attitude and energy towards life. You are only as strong as you think you are. What you think and say is what you are (no gimmicks).

Shine on Beautiful! πŸ’•πŸ’žπŸ’•

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

New Plan — May 15, 2018

New Plan

New Plans; Same Goals πŸ‘Œ

Saying Happy New Month will be the most appropriate thing to say since this is my first post this month but we are half way gone into the month already, nonetheless, Happy New Month! πŸ™Œ Honestly, I miss it here. I miss the adrenaline rush and excitement and this time, I’m done giving up excuses why I couldn’t write and post them in due time or execute some plans laid down for specific goals. I’m trying a new way, a new dimension and working a new realistic plan.
The purpose of planning is not to struggle around the goal, planning is to help achieve the goal and maximize resources in doing so and if in anyway the plan stops to work, you change the plan not the goal.

#NewMonth #NewWeek #NewDay #NewPlanSameGoal

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi