This is not me being overly romantic when I say it’s not early to start preparing for marriage and kids irrespective of the gender. Just out of no where I suddenly realize how much I enjoy Parenting (all thanks to my kid sister who I’m 17years older than by the way). She made me see motherhood in a whole different amazing ways.
I practically skip shelves with relationship books when I go to bookshops cos it doesn’t really look like a big deal kinda to me *shrugs*, so, I usually end up buying books on Christianity, leadership, attitude and business most times, neglecting that one important part of life RELATIONSHIP.
But amongst the growth process being 20-something has done to me is realizing the need to balance up. The need to buy and read good books on relationships and marriage and family that is supposed to last a lifetime or click on that blog link or go for that conference. If you are like I used to be trust me there is so much you don’t know (Hollywood alone is never going to provide the best guide, sometimes you need to look closely at the people around and sometimes you sure have to pay a price to learn too). Even those who are years deep in marriages say the same.
I’m not a pathetic feminist that doesn’t yearn for marriage. I believe my kids deserve to have better parents than I did, even if mine were the best. Your marriage deserves to be happy and sexy and long lasting. You deserve a lifetime of strong bonds with the people who share blood and life and ups and downs with you.
But, you can’t just expect you’ll wake up one day to be that better parent you want to be to your kids. You’ve got to prepare for it now. We should crave to be a better generation when it comes to parenting especially for people who knows how it feels to be a product of a bad (sour) marriage, it can be frustrating, painful & scary. I’m sure you don’t want your kids near that spot. We are in the age where information is easy to get. Go online and download articles. Check blogs on relationship. Read books. Ask questions. Go for seminars. Learn from others, not by making your own mistakes too.
You don’t run from your past and avoid repeating mistakes by running from them.
You resolve issues by facing them head on and gathering the wealth of information that was not available before. I got a book by Gary Chapman, “THINGS I WISH I’D KNOWN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED” (you should lay your hands on that book too) for my 21st birthday gift and that launched me into reading many more books related. In fact, it was like my January was tagged for Relationship because of the books I read.
I pray for my future family already. I pray for the little humans in my body waiting for growth. I sow seeds for them in advance. I love twins and I already have awesome names for them. I have specific names for my beautiful girl and handsome boy and I can’t explain the excitement from just the thought of it. I build walls around them with the words and promises of God.
It’s not too early for you too, nor too late.
Happy New Month!