Michelle is a friend and guest blogger, she’s been featured here before so I hope you enjoy this beautiful write up from her…
It’s not simple to explain, it’s not what most would see as normal, and it’s something that can bring both happiness and pain.
Those who come from a broken home are doing their best to figure life out, just like everyone else.
Don’t get me wrong here, loving someone who comes from a broken family can be work, but they will love you and cherish you with all of their heart.
You are their safe place, and they will always have your back for that.
To be able to give back the love and loyalty you are getting, here are a few facts of people from broken homes that will help you to better understand how to love someone who comes from a broken family.
THEY DON’T TRUST EASILY
Trust is something that is earned for them, and it is taken very seriously.
But when they let you in, they likely won’t hold anything back.
AT THE BEGINNING OF THE RELATIONSHIP, THEY WON’T THINK THEY DESERVE YOU
You are simply too good for them. They don’t deserve the love, or even the attention that you are showing them. When they seem down to you, just give them a compliment and hold them close.
WHILE IN THE EARLY STAGES OF DATING, THEY WILL FOCUS ON YOU, AND AVOID LONG CONVERSATIONS ABOUT THEMSELVES….
At some point at the beginning of dating, you will feel like they know everything about you, but you don’t exactly know everything about them.
When they trust you, they will tell you what growing up was like for them.
THEY WILL BE THE INDEPENDENT ONE IN THE RELATIONSHIP…..
If at times it seems like they don’t act like they need you,
They can get by without you, but they don’t want to.
Don’t hold this against them, as it will benefit them when they have a family of their own.
And if you’re lucky, that family will be with you.
MEETING YOUR FAMILY WILL BE HARD FOR THEM
A normal family is something only dreams are made of for them.
Talking about your family is uneasy for them, and meeting them is terrifying.
They don’t know what to expect, Be supportive, and introduce them to the family slowly.
“”I know it’s a lot to take in but in the end….. You will be glad you stayed to the end””..
I’m Michelle Joshua…