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Examination! — March 31, 2015

Examination!

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I’m starting my exams today and I feel so much like a Victor *conqueror*, maybe because I know it ain’t just about what my fragile body and brain can do but what Jesus has paid for. . .

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My confessions for this period;
I am a child of God that has the anointing of the holy one therefore I know all things. All things work together for my good in this season. The holy spirit teaches me all things and brings to my remembrance all that I’ve read and been taught. I have not been given the spirit of fear but of power, love and sound mind. Continue reading

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Inner Beauty — March 29, 2015

Inner Beauty

     The poem you’re about to read was inspired by my pastor who’s also my friend —>> YEWANDE OGUNAJO. All these was put together just by thinking of her. . .

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A lady of excellence with a peaceful soul;
Endowed with the strength and wisdom to take charge.
A beauty to reckon with and a personality to be proud of;
An African woman of grace and honour;
Highly embedded with mines of virtues.
Not only is your beauty outwards, but you have the inner beauty too.
I love to see the way she LIGHTEN UP the room with her BIG smile.
A lady with the auction of the holy one;
Highly spirited and worded;
She’s that christian chick that terrifies the roaring devil.
When I see her I see hope, faith and love.
She’s the kind of woman who gives a man a HOME;
Always having the right word for every moment;
With a big warm heart and soothing arms to run into;
And those tiny strong shoulders to LEAN on.

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The woman that can SETTLE a lot on her knees by just praying;
She’s a gem of inestimable value.
A cheerful giver and a mother to all;
Who reproves you in LOVE.
Behind that beautiful calm face is
An independent Lady and ENTREPRENEUR,
Capable of doing so much at a time (MULTITASK) *smiles*.
A DISCIPLINARIAN PRINCIPLED lady who doesn’t take shit for MEEKNESS and KINDNESS.
She knows her place in God’s SUPERNATURAL ARMY,
And nothing can make her BOW OUT from the RACE.
A fashionista in every sense with MODESTY.
She knows how best to bring out the BEST in you,
And make you see the strength you never knew you have.
She’s as brave as DEBORAH; diplomatic as ESTHER;
Beautiful as JEMIMAH and favoured as MARY.
She’s a blessing to her generation;
A soul to leave footprints in the sands of time.

Palm Sunday! —
LET IT GO (2) ; IT’S NOT OVER — March 26, 2015

LET IT GO (2) ; IT’S NOT OVER

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     Hello everyone! I’m sorry I’ve been unable to post anything since my last post “LET IT GO” and this was due to the fact that I’ve been busy writing my tests and should start exams pretty soon. This post is a sequel to LET IT GO, if you can recollect I wrote its to be continued and here you are today reading the second part.
     I’m going to be sharing with us life experiences and principles that has been practiced and has worked for many people of which I’m an example. Some of these stories we already know and might not have seen how it applies to us or we simply overlooked it.
     Most of the time when we face challenges in life, we don’t see the possibilities of getting over it,we only tend to wish it doesn’t affect us much and when its finally over, we draw the curtain and accept defeat. It should not be like that because really when we LET GO of our fears we should EMBRACE the challenge again and keep at it until we win. We should never give up on ourselves. We need to learn to pick ourselves UP every time we found ourselves where we started from even after LETTING GO. Its not just enough to LET GO but to see the POSSIBILITIES in the word IMPOSSIBLE. We can do whatever we set our minds to if only we won’t give up. Sometimes, we tend to be paralyzed by our overanalytical thoughts and get blinded by the number of defeats and stories we heard that we tend to lose FAITH in ourselves.
    In my years of reading books and learning to develop myself, one thing distinct those who are successful in their field or path from others and its CONSISTENCY. . . These people won’t give up on themselves even in worst life scary situations, when nobody even believe in them, they kept on doing that which they believe in and never gave up on their dreams. They pick themselves up each time they fail and try all over again.

     “The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” – NELSON MANDELA

There was a conscious effort from these people never to give up on their dreams and not see the difficulty in it. Instead they try to work it out better and stronger each time they fail. For some of us, all we need is to read a book while for some, we need to talk to someone. I can practically make do with both, reading books related to my challenges help a lot (I love reading) and I can talk too. . . It helps a lot to talk if you’re talking to the right person. You need to check your friends and everyone around you,do they believe in you and are they supportive?! Are you comfortable sharing your problems with them?! I’ve had my share of friends like that (that’s a story for another day) but was able to overcome that by positively seeing who I am not what they see me as.

     “If you’re not prepared to be wrong, you’ll never come up with anything original.” – Sir Ken Robinson

     There was a course I took in my year one that I failed because I needed to cram it which ain’t a talent on my part, Its an automatic extra if you have an outstanding year 1 course before internship year in my faculty. With anxiety and fear, I retook it in my year 2 only to fail again and I’m left with only one slot to save me from an extra year. At a point i thought of quitting and starting all over or probably just travel out and start afresh just because I was scared of failure again and couldn’t stand having an extra over a 3-units course, I was frustrated and devastated until I talked to some people about it and was admonished on what to do then I read books on ATTITUDE. I realized I just had to give in my best and be optimistic so I cancelled my travelling plans and gave my last shot my best which resulted in an “A” at my 3rd time of doing it.

     “[If you are reading this]… You’re alive! That means you have infinite potential. You can do anything. If you change the world, the world will change.” – Neil Gaiman

     Below are also humans like you and me who made it after failing many times but whose consistency to succeed worked for. . .

     Abraham Lincoln was born, February 12,1809. He lived through so much without giving up: Failed in business at age 31. Defeated for the Legislature at 32. Again failed in business at 34. Sweetheart died at 35. Had a nervous breakdown at 36. Defeated in election at 38. Defeated for Congress at 43. Defeated for congress at 46. Defeated for congress at 48. Defeated for senate at 55. Defeated for Vice president at 56. Defeated for senate at 58. Elected President at age 60.

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     Nelson Rolihlahla Mandela was the world’s most famous political prisoner and a Nobel Peace Prize Winner renowned for his work in fighting apartheid in South Africa. Even when in prison for 27 years, Mandela maintained his optimism and his strong belief in the fight against apartheid. His consistency gave hope to his fellow inmates and to the black population of S. Africa which culminated to the defeat of apartheid rule in S. Africa and his release from prison. Even in worst circumstances, he maintained a steady and consistent character which accounts to making South Africa one of the most respected and successful nations in the world.

     One of the most popular works of art in the world is the Mona Lisa. Known for its mystical beauty and flawless execution, it is often referred to as Leonardo da Vinci’s finest work. He worked on it between 1503-1516. Behind the heavy layers of painting is a hidden secret. In 1888, the painting was X-rayed by William Forsyth, who discovered that there were three other versions of the Mona Lisa under the final product. Da Vinci had redone his painting 3 times over the course of the decade. He didn’t get it at the first try but kept at it for many years before he created his final product.

     “Life is truly known only to those who suffer, lose, endure adversity and stumble from defeat to defeat.” – Anais Nin

     These people and many more like; Joyce Meyer, Isaac Newton, Ben Carson, Albeit Einstein, Oprah Winfrey, Robert Kiyosaki, Bill gates, John Maxwell, Hugh Jackman, Jordan, Serena Williams, Marie Curie, Mike Tyson and so on never had the journey so smooth and promising at first, for some a lot was lost and for some a lot of sacrifices were paid but the idea was they NEVER gave up on themselves. They saw the possibilities of making it in their choice of field even when it doesn’t look like it, they never saw the end in their failure rather they were optimistic and try till they become successful and who we CELEBRATE today . . .

     “Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over it became a butterfly.” – Anonymous

#MuchLove!!
#ToBeContinued. . .

LET IT GO — March 6, 2015

LET IT GO

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     The question is do you sometimes feel like you’re @ that juncture of your life where it seems like your best ain’t just enough??! Have you ever felt like making a decision and it seems like your lifespan depends on it so you gotta think more than twice??! Or everything on your mind seems so much that it feels like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders??!
     If I’m to think of it, I guess I’ve been on these kind of roads countless times. I can remember checking results of exams I burnt everything on including candles & calories only not to be as expected yet I’m expected to read harder for the upcoming ones in a condition where I don’t have all necessary resources, no favourable atmosphere, not enough time for personal timetable cos the whole week is filled with class works, no time to take care of yourself because you’re too busy catching up with school works and everything seems to just not look like it yet I know I have no excuse or anyone to blame for any failure, I’ve got to be responsible for all I do. I guess its at this point the decision making part comes in, here you decide what you really want for yourself, whether to sink in self pity or self condemnation of not being good enough or pick yourself up to take the next challenge and prove to your problem that you can be its challenge too.
     Personally, I used to be the type that gets weighed down with fear of the unknown but the day I decided to “live my life one day at a time” I started seeing things differently. I ain’t saying you shouldn’t make plans for the future but if there’s something on your mind not allowing you to see beyond the present that makes you feel like you’re in a labyrinth cage of misery just LET IT GO. . . life is worth more than wallowing in self pity or fear of the future. Take a bold step of facing your challenges than running away from them. It always seems like its more than you can handle but the truth is you’re greater than it is, you only need to see its weak point. Your life ain’t depending on that 68B or 44E or 39F, you determine how far you wanna go in life not your result. Yes, I know you’re gonna argue you could have done better, sure you’re right but that doesn’t mark the end, why can’t you just trace your steps down the reflection of the light beaming at the end of the tunnel.
     You’re out there feeling you need to make a decision and you’re so scared you don’t wanna make mistakes, y not ask yourself what you really want for yourself or better still just get a sheet of paper, on a page write out your old choice with the advantages & disadvantages while on the other page write out your new choice with its advantages & disadvantages then look out for the decision that outweighs the other and I feel sometimes we need other people’s discretion, I grew up learning from my mum that no man is an embodiment of knowledge, she believes you learn everyday and from different people too which brought us to the idea of letting people in on whatever we’re facing. To a large extent it helps a lot when you share whatever the issue is with people around you especially your close friends or relatives. I remember a course I had issues with and I told some couple of friends I read with (Sanwo, Benedict, Ife, . . .), I was told how to read for the course and that helped a lot cos I ended up passing it excellently. I also believe in the word PRAYER, I believe when you communicate with God a lot of things can be settled and this is a tested approach that has worked so many times for so many people.
     I understand that sometimes it feels like you have the weight of the world on your shoulder which can happen a lot as a result of many things like work, school, relationship, purpose, family,personal goals and so on. I’ll admonish you take a chill pill, why not just take a break??! It won’t hurt to get yourself distracted for a while, do something you’ve always wanted to do outside the regulars, ask a friend for a massage, go grab some bites outside, if you hardly cook why not try a new recipe, if you feel your lecturers are screening your life out why not just pick an interesting novel to chill out, just do something fun and lively. You need to enjoy whatever you’re doing else you’ll always be stressed out doing it with no zeal and enthusiasm.

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     Life is worth more than living it with worries or condemnation or pity or anger. How you spend your life today goes a long way to determine what it will look like in the nearest future. Don’t stop when you’re tired, stop when you’re done! And prove your problems wrong that you’re stronger than it is. I always tell myself in times like this that I must remember I’m a GOLD and before you can appreciate the beauty of the GOLD it must have gone through a great hot furnace, not everything comes so easily but to a large extent you determine how easy you make things by your approach to life.
     This article is to let you know you ain’t the only one who feels that way and that you feel it makes you human and also remember you can always work it out. This is just another phase that will also roll over like the rest. Don’t give up on yourself just because of whatever you’re facing now . . . You’re bigger and greater than your problem. . .
#MuchLove!!
#ToBeContinued. . .