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GRATITUDE CHALLENGE — December 7, 2018

GRATITUDE CHALLENGE

A blogger friend VOB started a 31-day gratitude challenge on her blog and today is the 7th day, so this post is going to be me joining in on the challenge.
2018 is almost over and I must say it’s given me one great roller-coaster ride. I was tested in all ways; my strength, faith, love, trust, . . . I stretched out my limits, fell and rose up (in some situations, I couldn’t even look up), bruised and healed (and the ones that refused to heal up, I repressed), lost and grieved (I miss you Grandma), . . .
Yet, still the year I’ve had my biggest growth, even with the uneven tides and avalanched emotions with test of faith plus strength, it’s still the year I got to do about 95% of all I set out to do in the year. The year I made some amazing decisions that will help in #MyBecoming. The year I met some amazing people whose impact will always be treasured. The year I birthed some ideas and expanded my dreams which makes my future more alluring to me such that my fear of the future becomes negligible.
I’ve never been more excited about being in my 20s like I am this year with less worries and more faith coupled with more work and I don’t know how many young people are excited about their 60s but the thoughts of my 40s and 60s gives me an overwhelming Joy and a saturating Peace.
I’ve learned and unlearned so much this year that I can only imagine how great subsequent years will be.
I’ve got one word for 2019 – #SheReady. I’m ready for all the Blessings and Lessons it has for me and the next growth level prepared for me. To metamorphize into all you’re meant to be sure takes a lot but,

“Just when the caterpillar thought it was over, it became a butterfly”. – Anonymous

So, yeah 2019, #BringItOn, I’ll thrive in you too. Continue reading

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Wednesday Wisdom – NOT A REGULAR FEMINIST — November 28, 2018

Wednesday Wisdom – NOT A REGULAR FEMINIST

Our WonderWoman couldn’t have said it better! ❤

Everyone is fighting for the girl child, creating NGOs for that cause. Don’t get me wrong, I’m equally passionate about it. I personally believe that empowering the girl-child and educating her will liberate her from the ignorance that makes her victims of abuse, child-parenting (early marriage), sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancies and so on. But, we often forget that male and female created Him them and somehow, we’ve forgotten that the girl-child we’re striving for is one half of the society. To truly get it right, both parties need to be nurtured right. Empowering the girls won’t be enough if the boys remain uneducated and we’ll only end up raising superwomen with weak men, hence, leading to a society littered with over-burdened wives, mothers, sisters, daughters, bosses, subordinates and friends, where women will be wearied, stressed and drained from having to fix themselves as well as fix an adult who ought to be fixing himself and fixing things around the house or office.
I recently wrote an article on Violence Against Women (VAW) for a women activism programme where I wrote about my personal knowledge and experiences with VAW, the causes and panacea. Amongst the panacea I wrote about was equal education for both genders. The cycle of raising strong daughters and weak sons is wrong, sons who grew to become nonchalant and feast away while the women work. I believe this education starts with the family, the picture painted by parents and how the kids are raised. Boy-child needs attention as do the girl-child, they should be equally educated on the impacts of stunted dreams, violence, unwanted pregnancy, rape, addictions, etc.
Sons should be raised to be the picture of the husbands you desire for your daughters. Sons should be raised to be accountable for their actions and not feel untouchable for shameful acts just because of their gender. They should be educated on the importance of staying committed, loving and providing for their family exclusively such that when they get support from their spouses, her input will be very much appreciated. Sons should be taught that they are the sole protector of their homes, hence, will not run off to chase pleasure with the notion that ‘my wife will handle it‘.

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OCTOBER 2018 — October 1, 2018

OCTOBER 2018

Confessions on New Creation Realities
I am a New Creation in Christ Jesus. I am born of God and born by His Spirit. I am recreated in the image and likeness of God. I am just like Him. Zoe, the life of God, flows in me.
I am a New Creation. The old man has gone, the new me has come. I have been crucified with Christ. I died with Him. I was buried with Him. I was justified in the spirit with Him. I was made alive with Him. I ascended with Him, far above principalities and powers. I am now seated with Him in the heavenly places.
I have a new nature and a new identity. The life of God is at work in me. The love of God is my new nature. I have the nature of love and faith as God has it. The forces of God flow out of me continually. The force of joy is in me. Peace, patience, meekness and self-control find expression through me.
I am a spirit, I have a soul and live in a body. I feed my spirit with the Word of God. I renew my mind with the Word. I subject my flesh to the supremacy of my spirit. I am not body-ruled or carnal. I grow in the spirit and in grace. I am full of the Spirit of the living God. I walk in divine authority and divine ability. God is at work in me.continue reading.

Thursday Thoughts — September 27, 2018

Thursday Thoughts

FAITH over FEAR! 💯

Hola, it’s been a while. Trust y’all have been having a great month?

Earlier this month, I intimated that I’d be off the blogging grid for a while because of some projects I’m working on which I thought will be over by the end of this month, well, it has been extended to next month so I’ve got more weeks of work to do (the extra time is good for me tho – affords me more time to prepare), just that I miss writing and blogging. It’s like I barely have a life of my own for weeks now, it’s as bad as not being able to sleep well or think of other things (lol), I recently found out that the importance of some things will make you question the things you thought you can’t do without.

But I trust all to work together for my good in the end, afterall, I have the mind of Christ and know all things. When fear of not getting it right comes knocking on my mind’s gate, I get purposeful about it and consciously choose Faith over Fear. Just yesterday, I made a formula that goes thus;

Since I know God’s thoughts towards me are of good not evil ===> And I have the mind of Christ, I am His child-Fav. Girl (created to think, live and act like Him) ===> So my thoughts are good and I see great results! Selah!

This short formulacontinue reading.

Hello SEPTEMBER, — September 1, 2018

Hello SEPTEMBER,

Good tidings!

Confessions on Prosperity for September
I have a covenant with God through the blood of Jesus and I am conscious of it. The blood of Jesus Christ that speaks great things has connected me to the God-kind of prosperity. My soul is transformed by the Word of God, so I prosper in my body, finances and career. The life of God flows continually in my members and I am totally free from the devil’s oppression in life.
I am anointed for a prosperous life. Christ has translated me from the kingdom of darkness into the kingdom of his Father. I walk in the light of God and the curses of darkness cannot stay in any aspect of my life. I arise and shine in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation. I shine in the midst of darkness. In fact, I shine better under intense darkness. The wealth of the wicked supernaturally finds its way into my hands.
The blessing of God makes me rich, healthy and protected and I have no sorrow. I am empowered for a successful life. God’s divine power has given to me all things that pertain to life and godliness. I am too blessed to be stressed in life. I know the purpose of the end-time wealth.
Continue reading.

BET ON YOURSELF — August 15, 2018

BET ON YOURSELF

A quote Beyonce once said that deeply applies to me! 👌

I’m very much not the betting type, somehow, growing up, I made myself believe luck ain’t really my thing so I don’t go near gambling, betting or involving in any form of scheme and not even getting general bonuses from network providers further made me believe even when I see others around me getting them (lol). But, one thing I’ve ever gambled on is Myself. My pollyannaish attitude to life always make me believe I can get through any situation or stage I find myself. There is always hope for every new day.

Betting on yourself is almost always as a result of Self-confidence. The positive attitude you hold about yourself with realistic views that allows you to move forward and achieve your goals. With Self-confidence, even if things don’t go your way, you still believe that eventually, somehow, some way, they will.

For me, I practically visualize myself being and acting confident, and achieving what I wish by confidently going after it. Will there be fears? Yes. Will I be certain of the results? Not every time. But, I’ll do it anyways. Sweaty palms; Wobbly feet; Heart in my mouth. When negative thoughts and why it won’t work start popping up;

I self-talk myself to stop thinking and reframe my thoughts into positive ones, I eulogise myself for actually trying, I evaluate myself for stronger sense of self and I take risks by looking at new experiences as an opportunity to learn. Understanding that failure is a guaranteed part of the learning process and accepting this will reduce the frustration and disappointment I may feel along the way.

Betting on yourself doesn’t imply you’re unrealistic about yourself and continue reading.

Dear 20Something, — August 11, 2018

Dear 20Something,

Love and Light

After my 10th birthday, my mum got so sick even she was scared of dying. As a child, I couldn’t do much than stay by her sick bed, help her sit up, get her stuffs, cry with her while I assure her she’ll get through (which she eventually did) and I’ll make promises of things I’ll do for her. I begged her one night to please stay with me and my brothers, that, in ten (10) years time, I’ll be old enough to take proper care of her (commonsensically, my 10 year old self summed up 6 years in high school and 4 years in the university and figured I should be okay enough to take on huge responsibilities by age 20).
Well, I did my 18th birthday as a freshman in the university and had my 23rd birthday just a month after graduating (I did a 5-year course). I definitely grew into taking up responsibilities long before I was 20 years old, but, the point is, left to my futuristic calculations at age 10, I wouldn’t be ready by that age 20 for that which I promised her. Four years into my 20’s, I’m still not there yet.

I was depressed for my 23rd birthday worrying about figuring it all out (thought I was having midlife crisis until a friend asked me if I intended to die at 46 – lol). After that brief dark moment, I realized if I want to enjoy my 20’s in a peaceful fulfilling way, I can’t fit everything into just this magical decade.

There is so much pressure to discover purpose, travel around the world, get a bearing on your career, find a healthy balance, stay committed to your fitness routine, get partnered, make millions, write a book, make babies, start a podcast, get your doctorate degree – all in a space of a decade.

Some people probably get it right before age 22, and some age 25 or even 29, that’s them. I’ve purposefully chosen not to accomplish some goals until I’m 60. I probably won’t explore the world until I’m in my 70’s. I don’t plan on making babies until my late 20’s and early 30’s. You probably won’t catch me lifting weights until I’m in my 40’s (and my bones have started hissing). I may even not get to the peak of my career until I’m in my mid 50’s (I look forward to 2040’s already). But, in my 20’s, I’ll take my vitamins, do my situps, dream, find myself and live like I mean it. Continue reading.

Monday Motivation — August 6, 2018

Monday Motivation

Not everyone can understand you and your potentials. Don’t feel discouraged nor let their negative voices damp your spirit. There is no dream too big to be achieved if you put your mind to it and work diligently for it. Even when you don’t seems to get your desired results, it’s okay to change your plans, tactics but never the goal. Don’t be discouraged by failures, disappointment or the opinions of the small-minded people. Don’t let anyone tear your hopes and dreams down because they can’t see or perceive it like you do. Don’t let anyone mess with your mind so much that you start to lose your confidence and doubt your strength and abilities.

“Doubt is a killer. You just have to know who you are and what you stand for.”
– Jennifer Lopez

Stop auditioning for people’s okay and go on ahead with discovering and unleashing your purpose. Continue reading.

Monday Motivation — July 23, 2018

Monday Motivation

Straight from the EPISTLES of the APOSTLE himself! 👌

Getting caught up with your past victories is one of those things you cannot afford to do. It is important that you learn to be the master of your fate and the captain of your soul by taking over new territories. There will always be fresh battles waiting for your conquest. While on the other hand, it is also important you get over your past failures too. Process every experience of defeat as a lesson on how not to do things. You are not a failure!
A few experiences of defeat are not enough to change your triumphant nature. Get over the past and move on with your destiny.
Thank God for the victories and breakthroughs that you have experienced in the past.
★ Disengage from your past.Continue reading.

Oh! It Is Malaria. — July 14, 2018

Oh! It Is Malaria.

If it didn’t happen to me, I would have argued that it’s a hearsay, but here I am writing about it. I’ve not been feeling too good for over a month now, but I mostly just attribute it to stress and harsh weather, so, I usually just rest it out and after a while, I’ll feel better. Until last week, I started having nightmares (that I wake up from, feeling the physical exhaustion from the struggles in my dream). I remember one that I woke up panting and paranoid (because I was running from someone). And honestly, I wasn’t scared. I didn’t see it as a spiritual thing (like my culture might have made me do), I only talked about it to a friend and it was on a very light mood. I was sure I’m fine, I’m in a good place (could be better tho) where relating with God is. So I basically just assumed it might just be images that conjured up because of the different Action and Crime movie series I’ve been watching lately. So no worries.
Well, until this last Sunday when I woke up with a very bad body pain which was all over (with more concentration on my thighs). Apparently, I had a nightmare where I was fighting using my body and kicked so hard till I woke up. What made this nightmare different was the pains, it felt so real but I chose not to pay attention to it. I went to church, went for lunch, came back and had a nap. I woke up from the nap with a very high body temperature and that was when I panicked. This ain’t no joke. . . Couldn’t reach my mum so I called my Pastor who prayed with me late that night because I was so scared to sleep (what I didn’t realize was that those struggles in my dreams was my body fighting the fever hitting it – I think it should have a psychological link tho).
I told a friend who insisted I go to the hospital because he has read about malaria causing nightmares and my symptoms are obviously fever so he encouraged me to treat malaria, which I did, the next day (Monday).
I took to Google (make it your bestfriend) to do my personal research and guess what I saw, he was right. According to FDA reports on ehealthme.com; Nightmares is found among people with Malaria, especially for people who are male, 20-29 years old, gender wise – 47.77% female and 52.23%male. I also found out that there are some co-existing conditions for people who have nightmares when down with malaria, and these are;
– Vestibular Disorder (disorders of the body’s balance (vestibular) system in the inner ear)
– Enteritis Infectious (infection with feline parvovirus (fpv), also known as feline panleucopenia virus)
– Preventive Health Care
– Multiple Allergies (allergy to multiple agents)
– Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder
While the top symptoms for people with nightmares when malaria hits them includes;
– Insomnia (sleeplessness)
– Depression
– Dizziness

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