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Best order — December 7, 2016

Best order

Waking up everyday with the notion of fresh grace and new hope has been the best order of the day lately and the feeling has been gratifying. . . Feels good to know God’s got me!

Much love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Quote – Faith — October 30, 2016

Quote – Faith

“Faith is not a ticket out of trouble but a default lifestyle for the just”.
                          – Oluwafunmibi

Moral;
My bible says the just shall live by faith not the just shall have his needs met by faith and in my understanding it means as a child of God (The Just), Faith should not just be a ticket out of trouble rather, it should be a default lifestyle. Faith is the normal form for the just. Faith shouldn’t just be applied when you need God’s word on a particular issue; Faith shouldn’t be something you just pick up in days of trouble. Faith should be a lifestyle, a way of life, how we live our lives everyday. We should grow to apply faith in all our dealings even in the tiniest of things like free lunch *smiles*,etc. It’s tiring to wait till you’re done spending your energy on getting things done when you can just cast your cares and use your faith, all you need do is make faith a living part of your life. It all gets simpler when faith becomes a lifestyle.
God is working in me too cos lately I’ve been learning to trust him for the smallest of things too, not just the major issues of life but everything; Relationship, Academics, Family, Finances, even Emotions. . . I am his RIGHTEOUSNESS so I have FAITH in HIM to take care of ME! You should too. . . *winks*

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

#LOVING SOMEONE FROM A BROKEN HOME – Conclusion — October 19, 2016

#LOVING SOMEONE FROM A BROKEN HOME – Conclusion

This is the last part of my honorable guest writer’s post… Happy Reading!

Those ones who have lived in broken households don’t usually reveal that aspect of their past,
especially when they get into romantic relationships.

But when it’s brought into light, it can change the way you look at things, including the way you love them:

Continuing from where we stopped, here are the rest of the facts about them that will help you understand and love them better……

6.
ARGUMENTS WILL EITHER BE FILLED WITH EMOTION, OR BE COMPLETELY SHUT OFF…..

They don’t necessarily want to disagree with you, and
In the heat of an argument at this point, they will feel extremely anxious, and wonder if this might lead to you leaving them
Regardless of the situation you find yourself at, don’t leave things unsettled.
At the end of the day, they need to know that everything is okay.

7.
ONCE THEY FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU, THEY ARE DONE HIDING FROM YOU

However long it might take for this to happen, when it does, you will know.
You are worth letting in.
You are understanding and non-judgmental, and they know you love them back.

8.
MARRIAGE WILL BE AN AWKWARD CONVERSATION FOR THEM

To most, marriage is a fairy tale, and one that didn’t go so well in their family.
Don’t get mad, as it’s all they know.
Over time they will start to see a long future with you, and they will be more open to trying to understand what marriage with you could be like.

9.
MARRYING YOU WILL BE THE HAPPIEST DAY OF THEIR LIFE…..

Once they get over the initial shock that they are actually getting married, they will be overjoyed. At this point, they have moved on from their past, and they are looking forward to starting a new life with you.
They are all about you, and this will genuinely be the happiest day of their lives.

10.
THEY WILL MAKE AN AMAZING PARENT……

Because of all they have gone through as a child,
they will know exactly how they want to be with their children.
They will want to give their children the life they wish they would have had.
Becoming a parent can be terrifying for anyone, but they will take it in stride.
If you are lucky enough to make it this far with them, then you are their everything,
and they will look forward to making your little family the best it can be.

Like I said earlier….
I know it’s a lot to take in but in the end….. You will be glad you stayed to the end..

I’m Michelle Joshua…

#LOVING SOMEONE FROM A BROKEN HOME – Part 1 — October 9, 2016

#LOVING SOMEONE FROM A BROKEN HOME – Part 1

Michelle is a friend and guest blogger, she’s been featured here before so I hope you enjoy this beautiful write up from her…

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It’s not simple to explain, it’s not what most would see as normal, and it’s something that can bring both happiness and pain.
Those who come from a broken home are doing their best to figure life out, just like everyone else.

Don’t get me wrong here, loving someone who comes from a broken family can be work, but they will love you and cherish you with all of their heart.
You are their safe place, and they will always have your back for that.

To be able to give back the love and loyalty you are getting, here are a few facts of people from broken homes that will help you to better understand how to love someone who comes from a broken family.

1.
THEY DON’T TRUST EASILY

Trust is something that is earned for them, and it is taken very seriously.
But when they let you in, they likely won’t hold anything back.

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2.
AT THE BEGINNING OF THE RELATIONSHIP, THEY WON’T THINK THEY DESERVE YOU

You are simply too good for them. They don’t deserve the love, or even the attention that you are showing them.  When they seem down to you, just give them a compliment and hold them close.

3.
WHILE IN THE EARLY STAGES OF DATING, THEY WILL FOCUS ON YOU, AND AVOID LONG CONVERSATIONS ABOUT THEMSELVES….

At some point at the beginning of dating, you will feel like they know everything about you, but you don’t exactly know everything about them.
When they trust you, they will tell you what growing up was like for them.

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4.
THEY WILL BE THE INDEPENDENT ONE IN THE RELATIONSHIP…..

If at times it seems like they don’t act like they need you,
They can get by without you, but they don’t want to.
Don’t hold this against them, as it will benefit them when they have a family of their own.
And if you’re lucky, that family will be with you.

5.
MEETING YOUR FAMILY WILL BE HARD FOR THEM

A normal family is something only dreams are made of for them.
Talking about your family is uneasy for them, and meeting them is terrifying.
They don’t know what to expect, Be supportive, and introduce them to the family slowly.

“”I know it’s a lot to take in but in the end….. You will be glad you stayed to the end””..

I’m Michelle Joshua…

Shared from WordPress — October 4, 2016
Heavenly Earth — September 20, 2016

Heavenly Earth

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“Why do we have to die to go to heaven when we have the earth already in the space? Why don’t we just make where we are right now into heaven and make life pleasant for ourselves??!”
– Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

With LOVE, even in the midst of chaos, earth will still feel heavenly.
Love yourself;
Love others;
Allow yourself to be loved.

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

Short Prayer! — September 13, 2016
Great Things — August 23, 2016

Great Things

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Is there even a need to explain the picture?! Its clearly written there. No need giving up if you know you’re on to a great thing… It sure takes time; Exercise patience and be Focused!

Much Love,
Oluwafunmibi Fayemi

# it’s More Than Love. . . — August 19, 2016

# it’s More Than Love. . .

Hi everyone, its been a while and there’s been numerous reasons for my inconsistencies, I really hope the change will be feasible one day *covers face*.
I have here today another guest blogger, a friend and I hope you enjoy her writeup.

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Writer- Michelle

You know what they say:
It’s not over ’till it’s OVER.

But sometimes a relationship ends for the wrong reasons.
And realistically, it is possible for a couple to break up and then make up, leading to a more intimate connection.
But regardless of how the story is meant to end, isn’t it worth knowing for sure whether you two can ultimately find happiness with each other again ?

Sometimes people give up too easily and take the easy way out, which is to separate.

People aren’t always what you want them to be.
Sometimes they disappoint you or let you down, but you have to give them a second chance first.
You can’t just meet someone and expect them to be everything you’re looking for and then be angry when they’re not every hope and aspiration you projected onto them.

It’s foolish to believe that someone will be what you imagine them to be.
And sometimes, when you give them a chance, they turn out to be Better than you imagined.

Different, but better.

Fact is :
Everyone deserves a second chance

Michelle Joshua….

TO WHAT EXTENT DO S. 271 AND 273 OF THE CRIMINAL CODE JUSTIFY HOMICIDE???? — August 4, 2016

TO WHAT EXTENT DO S. 271 AND 273 OF THE CRIMINAL CODE JUSTIFY HOMICIDE????

This is a post from a guest blogger whose personal information is at the end of the writeup for your suggestions and contributions.
Happy Reading!

Homicide is the killing of a human being. This could however be lawful or unlawful. It is the unlawful specie that the Criminal Code Act (Cap C38, LFN 2004) makes an offence in S. 306 generally while the lawful one is also given the force of law in some specified sections, e.g. S. 254 of the Criminal Code Act on the execution of court sentence. In the same vein, the 1999 constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria (as amended 2011) frowns at the violation of an individual’s fundamental right to life save in some exceptional circumstances which may justify such a violation. (See S. 33 of the 1999 Constitution, as amended 2011)
I am concerned in this article most especially with S. 33(2)(b) of the 1999 Constitution as it is from this section that S. 271 & 273 of the Criminal Code Act (which constitute the crux of this article) derive their existence and validity, the constitution being the grundnorm of Nigerian law. For purpose of convenience, the provisions of the aforementioned section of the Constitution are reproduced verbatim:
S. 33 –
(2) A person shall not be regarded as having been deprived of his life in contravention of this section, if he dies as a result of the use, to such extent and in such circumstances as are permitted by law, of such force as is reasonably necessary:
(b) in order to effect a lawful arrest or to prevent the escape of a person lawfully detained
A detailed explanation paragraph (b) above is contained in Sections 271 and 273 of the Criminal Code Act. The provisions of both sections are supplied below.
S. 271 provides thus:
When a peace officer or police officer is proceeding lawfully to arrest, with or without warrant, a person for an offence which is a felony, and is such that the offender may be arrested without warrant, and the person sought to be arrested takes to flight in order to avoid arrest, it is lawful for the peace officer or police officer and for any person lawfully assisting him, to use such force as may be reasonably necessary to prevent the escape of the person sought to be arrested, and if the offence is such that the offender may be punished with death or imprisonment for seven years or more, may kill him if he cannot by any means otherwise be arrested.
S. 273 provides:
When any person has lawfully arrested another person for an offence, it is lawful for him to use such force as he believes, on reasonable grounds to be necessary to prevent the escape or rescue of the person arrested.
But, if the offence is not one which is such that the offender may be arrested without warrant, this section shall not authorize the use of force which is intended or likely to cause death or grievous harm. Continue reading